06/06/2026
When youāre interested in someone, you usually start asking questions.
When youāre not interested, you start explaining your schedule.
Recently, more guys have been taking their shot in my DMs.
Which is fine.
I donāt always understand it personally, but I canāt tell people how to feel or how to act.
All I ask is that people respect my boundaries.
Most do.
Every now and then though, I get someone who is convinced they can change my mind.
They tell me how great weād be together.
How much fun weād have.
How hard theyād cuddle me.
How theyād take me to dinner.
How Iād be missing out.
The thing isā¦
If I ever date again, it wonāt be because someone convinced me.
Itāll be because life naturally put the right person in front of me at the right time.
No sales pitch required.
Right now, I already have three full-time jobs.
DJing is a full-time job.
UPS is a full-time job.
And believe it or not, this page is a full-time job too.
Last week alone I spent over 40 hours writing posts, replying to comments, answering messages, and trying to be the best Emotional Support Dad I can be.
Iām not complaining.
Iām explaining.
Because a relationship isnāt something you squeeze into the cracks of your day.
A good relationship requires time.
Attention.
Communication.
Compromise.
Presence.
Showing up.
Making room for another personās needs alongside your own.
Thatās not a part-time commitment.
Thatās another full-time job.
And if I ever do it again, I want to do it right.
The truth is, after four years of being single, Iāve built a life that works.
My routines work.
My schedule works.
My priorities work.
I donāt answer to anyone except myself, Pooh, and Mr. Bueller.
So if someone ever manages to sneak past all those defenses and into my life, itāll probably come as a surprise to me too.
Because it wonāt happen through persistence.
It wonāt happen through convincing.
Itāll happen because one day I stop explaining my scheduleā¦
and start asking questions.
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Drew Does Dallas