06/02/2026
This is not to minimize some very real and difficult situations, and abuses of power. Families are struggling. This is to SUGGEST that the systems as we knew them have shifted and the days of family court favoring mothers with no regard for fathers are no longer. So much so, that women and children are now largely struggling under the weight of financial inequity, emotional fatigue, and employment jeopardy, because “we” aren’t recognizing that men ARE in fact having their say.
And approaching the prospect of coparenting with the expectation of an (often, not always) outdated arrangement that dad only gets every other Sunday and has to pay 95% of his salary in child support, and live in squalor while mom lives in luxury, makes coming to an agreement volatile and nearly impossible, hurting children far more than any break up.
I don’t support the narrative that every situation is a fight. I don’t know too many moms who aren’t THRILLED to share responsibilities with fathers who center the children. MY opinion, experience, and observation is that often - not always - this is a POV based in ego, anger, and fear (sometimes from both sides), before any attempt to be level-headed is made (don’t think I don’t know how emotional it can get, I know it well). And that “being ordered” to pay child support is punishment. And it is some of those same men who are claiming to be leaders that proudly collect child support from women, and don’t want another man raising their children . . . yet, have no problem with women who aren’t the child’s mother raising them, as if there’s aren’t alternatives.
Fathers getting the opportunities they deserve to parent is IDEAL! I support it 1000%. I have had too many AMAZING dads in my life and seen too many examples of functional coparenting not to.
