05/18/2026
š Curious to know what attachment style you might trend towards? š
I truly believe that we should be taught this information as early in life as possible. Unfortunately, we are not, and a lot of this info that could be extremely helpful in navigating all of our relationships isnāt figured out until weāre pretty deep into these patterns/strategies.
In the video I share a quick question that I ask at the start of working with any new couple. This one question is often all I need to ask in order to get a good feel for what attachment āstrategyā someone tends to lean towards.
I like to refer to these more as strategies , rather than āstyles.ā Because, at the end of the day, thatās essentially what they are - just strategies weāve learned to attempt emotional regulation in the face of relational conflict, as well as something we hope maintains the connection.
Sadly, when we lean more toward the insecure side of attachment, the strategies often backfire and get us stuck in cycles of distress that eventually end up eroding the relationship.
In a coming post, Iām going to discuss these what these strategies look like a little more in depth, as well as break down the cycle of distress and even share a cool little diagram that gives a detailed look at said cycle.
š If you want to share any insights this provided, please do so in the comments. And, if you donāt feel comfortable sharing, Iād still love to hear if youāre enjoying the content and would like more of it! Thank you!! š
