12/05/2025
16 year old - need advice
I’m crying right now so apologies if some of this sounds sporadic or terrible.
My sweet girl is 16.5 years old. I’ve had her since day 1. I’ll be 30 this year and I literally got her before I went into 7th grade, just to put it into perspective. Through college, a marriage/divorce, a move across the country, she’s my everything.
I’m currently staying in an in-law type of place on the bottomed level of my boyfriends parents split level home. My sweet girl has arthritis in her hips especially and is at a point where she can’t get up the stairs. So there’s been accidents at the bottom of the stairs and I’m just so afraid she’s sad because she can’t move around like she used to. The times she tries to go up the stairs, she takes a tumble. She hasn’t hurt herself yet (at least not externally) but of course I’m terrified she’ll break her neck or leg or hit her head enough to die or something. She can’t see very well at all and wobbles a ton when she walks. I can tell she’s a bit senile. And almost deranged sometimes? I think that’s the wrong word, but I catch her wandering aimlessly, staring at walls, stuff like that.
BUT. She still gets so freaking excited to see me, others (she’s a people loving dog), go outside even though she can’t really go on walks anymore, she loves to smell around and she still runs a bit when she’s excited. She even gets into playing fits and it’s just so funny and sweet. She’s drinking and eating just fine. She has typical “old lady bumps” I cal them, but the vet isn’t concerned about any of them. In fact, the vet always says “she’s really healthy for her age. I hope my dog ages like her”.
I’m at a point where I’m terrified I’m selfishly justifying and making excuses OR afraid I’ll make the decision to put her down without a good enough reason. Like, almost out of a subconscious convenience. Which I would never never never do. But I don’t want to come home to a dead dog. Or have to traumatically out her down. I want to be able to give her an amazing last day and snuggle with her while she falls asleep comfortably. I’m literally crying on my way to work this morning because I can’t stop thinking about it. I was talking to my boyfriends sister.m, who I’m close with and LOVES me dog. And she’s concerned too. But knows it’s my decision and is supportive of course.
I just need some objective advise. I’ve never had to do this before (obviously, she’s so old lol).