09/03/2026
My fiancé is American and I’m Brazilian. Is this considered a “bad” engagement ring in the US?
Hi everyone!
I'm Brazilian and my fiancé is American, so our engagement has been a mix of two cultures.
In Brazil, engagement rings aren't as traditional as they are in the US. Many couples simply exchange wedding bands when they get engaged, so I didn't really grow up with expectations about what an engagement ring should look like.
Instead of buying a ready-made ring, we spent almost a year working with a Brazilian goldsmith to design one together. We wanted something delicate and timeless, using ethically sourced Brazilian gemstones.
The center stone is a natural Brazilian Paraíba tourmaline, and the ring was handmade in 18k yellow gold with natural diamonds. We chose the Paraíba because we fell in love with it, and I also liked that it came from Brazil.
I absolutely love my ring, but I'm curious about the cultural perspective in the US.
**If you saw someone wearing this ring without any context, would you recognize it as an engagement ring? Or would you assume it was just a regular ring? Also, do you think most Americans would see it as elegant and minimalist, or simply too small for an engagement ring?**
Thank you!
**Edit:** Guys, I never imagined a post like this would blow up so much. Thanks to everyone who commented! I came to clarify a few things that kept coming up in the comments.
First off, I literally designed the ring right next to my fiancé. Obviously, I like it and am totally in love with it! Lol.
Second, asking for opinions isn't a synonym for feeling insecure and seeking validation. This post was made with the intention of hearing a bit of Americans' perspective on engagement rings—and even a little about wedding traditions. I'm simply trying to better understand the country I'm going to move to. and I’m so glad for so many thoughtful responses! thank u very much again ❤️☺️!
