05/02/2025
At some point in the conversation I said to him, "I'm going to do the dishes and I'll be right back."
He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket.
Then he said admirably, but a bit perplexed, "I'm glad you're helping your wife. I don't help because when I do something, my wife doesn't appreciate it. Last week I washed the floor and didn't get a thank you."
When I had finished washing up, I sat down with him again and explained to him,
that I didn't "help" my wife.
Actually, my wife doesn't need help, she needs a partner.
I'm a partner in the house and in a partnership functions are shared, so it's not "help."
I don't help my wife clean up because I live here and I'm allowed to clean too.
I don't help my wife cook because I want to eat too, and I'm allowed to cook too.
I don't help my wife wash the dishes after dinner because I use these dishes too.
I don't help my wife with her children because they are my children too and my happiness is to be a father.
I am not a household helper, I am part of the house.
And as for praise, I asked my boyfriend when was the last time he finished cleaning the house, doing laundry, changing the sheets, bathing the kids, cooking, organizing, etc. and he said thank you.
Have you never thought about it, my friend?
So praise as you would like to be praised, just as intensely.
Help her, behave like a real partner, not like a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and fulfill her sexual needs...
Feel at home. At your own home.
The true transformation of our society begins in our homes,
Let us show our children the true meaning of partnership