06/10/2026
🛑Stop the scroll.🛑
This is going to be a long read but very worth it, I promise.
I’ll give you the point right now so if you DO decide to scroll pass, you won’t be able to unsee what you’re about to read.
The worst form of being stuck… is not realizing it.
People assume being stuck means there’s some sort of motivational void in their lives.
Or that they are fighting for significance and purpose on their job or in their relationships.
And while those ARE real symptoms of being stuck, they aren’t the only ones.
No, most people I talk to aren’t doing “nuthin’.
They are steadily raising kids. Working jobs. Staying busy. Trying to improve somehow.
Write this down: you don’t have to be stuck… to be stuck.
Being stuck means that you are repeatedly having the same thoughts, same reactions, same frustrations and same responses to different situations.
Doesn’t matter what it is, your brain responds the same.
👉🏼Enter the LOOP.
Before I explain this, let’s look at Romans 12:2.
(… be transformed by the renewing of your mind.)
Transformation isn’t more effort.
It’s creating a new trail of thought. In your brain.
If you’re thinking doesn’t change, your patterns don’t either.
Let’s look at life and why you can’t joint the Interruption on June 18th. (Yes I plugged my cohort. Don’t @ me.)
“I’M JUST BUSY” This is the oldest excuse… er… uh… example out there.
You say “I don’t have time to do this right now because of the 259 things I’m about to list. And while
But you reframe it as “this is just a season I’m in”.
If I recall, You said that last year too.
🔥 Busy can hide patterns you don’t want to face.
Let’s take a look at the 2 main culprits of being stuck:
- offense
- blame.
Most people think offense is being angry at someone.
But real offense is when expectations don’t meet reality.
- didn’t get the job you wanted yet deserved.
- the move you made turned out to be a disaster.
- you’re 49 and single and spent your birthday all alone yet had a decent time but wish you weren’t single or at least you could’ve been with your kids. 🤦🏻♂️🙄🫣😂
You say “this is not how this is supposed to be” so you get frustrated and disappointed which leads to “I can’t believe I messed this up” which ultimately leads to:
👉🏼replay → compare → regret → repeat
This is the loop. Label, offend, outsource and practice.
Over and over and over.
Blame is treated the same way. Often thought that it’s looking for someone or something but often times it’s turned inward.
And if self blame isn’t dealt with it’ll soon become identity.
You make a mistake, you say “I always do this”, you then become frustrated, falsely concede “that’s just who I am” and then practice it over and over in every single thing.
👉🏼shame → self-talk → reinforce identity
Blame doesn’t always sound like “it’s _____ fault this happened.”
Many times it sounds like “this is just who I am.”
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You don’t have to be stuck to be stuck. I said that way up there.
You can be busy, functioning and responsible and more stuck than anyone else.
Still repeating the same patterns. In the LOOP.
The worst form of being stuck is not realizing you’re stuck.
.because if you don’t see it, you don’t question it.
… and if you don’t question it, you keep repeating it.
This isn’t about motivation or doing more or being hyped up.
This is about seeing something you’ve been living inside and stopping it.