08/10/2026
There are four words every Christian husband should consider as he reads Ephesians 5.
Love her absolutely. “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” Not 50%. 100%.
Love her purposefully. Seek her spiritual good. Wash her with the water of the Word. Desire to present her to Christ holier because she was married to you.
Love her realistically. She is a sinner, and so are you. Don’t make a habit of correcting every small thing.
Love her sacrificially. If something gets in your eye, you don’t decide to deal with it tomorrow. When your wife is hurting, give her your attention. Listen to her. Care for her.
Love her absolutely, purposefully, realistically, and sacrificially.
Joel Beeke develops these four words (and what it means to serve your family as prophet, priest, and king) in How to Lead Your Family.
How to Lead Your Family
Available at RHB.org