11/22/2025
I'M SORRY MS. ABUZUAITER...WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY?
A Yo! Greensboro Translation
Less than a month after being elected to lead our city, most incoming council members are going through a challenging compressed tutorial on all things city hall.
Mayor-Elect Marikay Abuzuaiter felt it was the right time to send them all what can only be described as a "How to Become My Backup Dancer" memo.
The core message was stunningly simple:
I obeyed Nancy Vaughan without question for 12 years. So you'll obey me now.
Yo! Greensboro has already broken down some gems earlier this week in the previous article extracted from Marikay’s “Rules of Engagement.”
Here was The Piece de Resistance…
REAL QUOTE: "As Mayor Pro Tem and as an At-large councilmember, I always requested the Mayor's approval before moving forward with initiatives, events and plans."
Translation: I was Nancy Vaughan's good little soldier for 12 years. I asked permission for everything. Now it's your turn to ask mine.
The letter ends with: "My goal and duty is to guide and help us all reach goals that we can all be proud of in moving Greensboro forward as a team."
Translation: I’m the captain now!
Three incoming council members quickly responded…you know, actual adults elected by actual voters, responded with the collective energy of people responding to a confused aunt at a Thanksgiving dinner.
Crystal Black -D1- came in with diplomatic precision:
REAL QUOTE: "I'd like more clarification around paragraphs two and three, specifically about 'meetings, panels, and speaking engagements.' Are you stating that we must garner your approval for all? Even within our perspective districts?"
Translation: "I'm sorry, are you saying I need your permission to attend a neighborhood meeting in MY OWN DISTRICT?"
She continues: "And the last paragraph leans toward your practice in governance. I'd just like clarity on if this is protocol or preference."
Translation: "Is this an actual rule, or just something you made up?"
Cecile Crawford -D2- brought the polite exhaustion:
REAL QUOTE: "Could you clarify whether the expectations you outlined reflect established city policy or past practice? For example, should district-level meetings or community events within my district also be routed through your office for approval?"
Translation: "I was elected by my district. Are you seriously suggesting I need to call you before attending a block party?"
She adds: "Understanding the distinction between protocol and preference will help ensure that I'm aligned with the expectations of the Mayor's office while also staying responsive to the communities I serve."
Translation: "I work for my constituents, not you. But I'm being nice about it."
Adam Marshall -D4- also asked another well-mannered question:
REAL QUOTE: "What is the protocol when asked to attend an event in a district? Not make a statement, but just to attend. For example, I just got an invitation to attend Blue, Gold & Grateful event by the UNCG Board of Trustees... is there protocol for that?"
Translation: "Do I... do I need your permission to go to a thank-you party at the university? Is that what we're doing now?"
Here's what makes this whole exchange completely innapropriate: most of the upcoming council members aren't nervous rookies asking for guidance... Most of them are true community leaders and professionals who won competitive elections. They do not need a hall pass or a grace period….they are ready to go.
Crystal is asking if she needs permission to represent her own district.
Cecile is asking whether these are actual rules or just Marikay's personal preferences.
Adam is asking if attending a university reception requires mayoral approval.
Marikay spent 12 years as Nancy Vaughan's "Valet de Chambre", and now she's written a memo that reads like "The Rules I Followed and Now You Will Too."
The responding council members elect were polite. They asked clarifying questions.
They used phrases like "I appreciate your guidance" and "Thank you for clarifying."
But make no mistake, what they were really saying was:
"I'm sorry... what ?"
Three incoming council members have now learned what Abuzuaiter apparently didn't in her 12 years on council: elected officials don't need permission to govern.