Tara B. • Self Development & Dating

Tara B. • Self Development & Dating I am a dating and self mastery coach and I help women like you break bad patterns before your patterns break you.
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Dating & Self-Mastery Coach
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👸🏽 Helping women break bad patterns before their patterns break them
📍Houston
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08/16/2026

I NEVER planned on speaking about this se**ual deviant publicly, but I’m tired of women sharing stories with me about this man that felt violated, preyed on, manipulated and emotionally and se**ually exploited by him.

This is why when women reject the wisdom of women in favor of a man because “a woman can’t tell me about a man,” I fear for them. A LOT OF MEN are using their platform to position themselves as allies of women to gain access to them and weaponize their vulnerability and weakness against them.

It’s not just me. Many women share the same experience with him. He is a predator. A manipulator. An exploiter. An abuser. He pretends to spit wisdom to lure in vulnerable women. He cannot be trusted. He is not safe. I don’t wanna hear about him and his bu****it against women no more! He has to stop and be stopped.

07/13/2026

Imagine confiding in your mother-in-law as your marriage to her son is falling apart, and she positions herself as a girls girl, pretending she’s on your side and calling you her “forever daughter in love” while giving you advice that supported and enriched her son and completely sabotaged your life, your finances and dug a deeper hole for you.

At the time, I felt like I was being understood and supported by the woman who knew him best, but it took me years of processing and therapy to realize she was a part of the heist! Here’s the thing, she was tired of supporting him and knew that us falling apart meant that he would have no choice but to come back to her home. She did not want that because he was a burden to her, she was tired of sacrificing to support this grown man, and he was causing issues in her new marriage. As far she was concerned, THIS! NEEDED! TO WORK! She was ready to reclaim her life and finally get rid of him for GOOD.

So she advised in a way that supported his enrichment, despite what it was taking from me. She knew and used intimate details against me and pretended she was an ally. She helped her son use and abuse me, because she saw in me what her son did: I was a FOOL and had no one around me protecting me from him/them. But unaccountable manipulators raise unaccountable manipulators. He learned from the BEST!

06/22/2026

If he’s not pursuing you, it’s because he doesn’t have to…

The easiest way to take a man out of “watch and wait” mode is be restricting access to you. He sees too much. Heard too much. Is privy to too much.

If you meet him in the wild, don’t give him your IG right away. He can have that after concerted REAL LIFE effort. If you met him on IG, HIDE YOUR STORY from him!

He will LIVE in your views and never move an inch to get to know you in real life.

06/18/2026

Are you unintentionally seeking out emotionally unavailable men?

We put so much emphasis on what we attract, as if we have no agency, when the problem is really what we are actively seeking out and responding to.

If this is a pattern you have, it’s worth recognizing and ADDRESSING!

I’m just a likkle feisty Jamaican ting… don’t worry, I won’t beat you out of your sleep, you are safe here 😂🫶🏽Also, I am...
06/08/2026

I’m just a likkle feisty Jamaican ting… don’t worry, I won’t beat you out of your sleep, you are safe here 😂🫶🏽

Also, I am working on an essay about performative femininity and weaponized abstinence. I have so much to say on this. Once I get my substack up and running, I will share…

06/06/2026

Nigerian men are for African and Caribbean women… the rest of y’all be safe abeg 😭

I posted this in my stories over a month ago and I figured the timeline needed it, too

04/24/2026

The certified yapper girlies are leaving no mystery 😩

If you’re struggling with going past the first two or so dates, or it never turns into a commitment, here’s why.

Leave some mystery for him to uncover. Make him wonder about you!

03/23/2026

I said what I said. Respectfully, of course…

Time wastes for no man.

03/11/2026

Women are the gatekeepers of pleasure and men are the gatekeepers of commitment….

The problem we are having now is that men are the only ones doing the gatekeeping 🌚

Sharing yourself prematurely with no commitment on the table or in sight doesn’t make him give that to you. Be better gatekeepers of the 🐱 and thank me later!

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