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11/10/2025

Sarah from Wareham writes:

My ex and I share a 13-year-old daughter and we’ve managed to stay pretty civil since the divorce. But it could now become uncomfortable. He’s 45 and dating a 25-year-old — and after just six months, she’s suddenly showing up at school events, sitting next to him, cheering loudly, and drawing a lot of attention.

Even my daughter says it feels weird, but she doesn’t want me to say anything to him about it. Other parents have even made comments about the girlfriend being closer in age to the kids than the parents.

I can’t tell if I’m just being protective or if this really crosses a line. Should I talk to my ex about setting some boundaries, or just let it go and try to rise above it?

11/10/2025

11/08/2025

Ryan in Mashpee writes:
My dog walker has been taking care of my pup three afternoons a week for about six months. She’s amazing with my dog, super reliable, and honestly… I think there might be a vibe between us.

I’ve been tempted to ask her out for coffee, but I’m hesitating because she technically works for me. I don’t want to make her feel pressured or create an awkward situation. Plus, if it didn’t go well, I’d have to find a new walker — and my dog absolutely adores her.

We only text about scheduling and keys, nothing flirty as of yet. So if I did ask her out, it would be a clear shift from professional to personal.

Is it ever appropriate to ask out someone who provides a service like this? If so, what’s the least awkward, least pressuring way to do it? Or should I just keep firm boundaries and never go there?

11/08/2025

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11/06/2025

Rachel in Dennis writes:

I’ve been friends with someone for years — she’s kind, funny, and genuinely a good person. But lately, I’ve found it hard to have real conversations with her. Anytime I bring up something I’m struggling with — work stress, family issues, whatever — she jumps in with lines like, “Everything happens for a reason,” “Just stay positive,” or “You have to have good vibes and then you’ll bring good things into your life.”

I know she means well, but it feels dismissive. Sometimes I just need to vent, not get a pep talk. I leave feeling unheard and frustrated.

Should I tell her that her constant positivity feels invalidating, or do I just leave her to her happy thoughts?

11/06/2025

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11/06/2025

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11/06/2025

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“Being partnered doesn’t affirm your womanhood anymore,” writes Chanté Joseph. “It is no longer considered an achievement and, if anything, it’s become more of a flex to pronounce yourself single.”

11/05/2025

Mia in Barnstable shares:
She does a morning carpool for three teens whose parents have early shifts. Two are great—ready and waiting every day. But the third is always late. Mia says she waits, texts, even honks, and the girl still strolls out seven to ten minutes behind, making everyone late for school and Mia late for work.

She’s already talked to the mom twice, gets apologies, but nothing ever changes. She’s tried leaving earlier, but then the on-time kids just sit there while she burns gas. So now she’s wondering — with cold weather coming, is it okay to drop the late one from the carpool and let her take the bus? Or should she set a firm “leave time” and just go without her if she isn’t ready?

11/05/2025

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