Amber Trejo, LMFT

Amber Trejo, LMFT Trauma and Attachment Specialist | I help people heal from complex trauma and break the cycle.

You weren’t just starting from scratch but from a deficit and look how far you’ve come.Comment “GUIDE” to get my freebie...
09/25/2025

You weren’t just starting from scratch but from a deficit and look how far you’ve come.

Comment “GUIDE” to get my freebie on how to start healing your nervous system after trauma. It’s life changing.

We live in a time where everyone is encouraged to “speak out,” but pause and ask yourself: do you genuinely think you’re...
09/24/2025

We live in a time where everyone is encouraged to “speak out,” but pause and ask yourself: do you genuinely think you’re helping when you’re shaming, name-calling, or battling strangers in the comments?

Here’s the thing: learning doesn’t happen in attack mode. It happens when someone feels safe enough to hear you. Without safety, the nervous system shuts down. No matter how right you are, your post isn’t landing, it’s bouncing off a wall of self-protection and landing in an echo chamber of people who think exactly like you and most likely it isn’t even making them feel better.

And while you’re fighting with Uncle Chad on Facebook, combing through toxic threads, or arguing with strangers you’ll never meet, your body is sliding into collapse. Your energy is drained, your nervous system is fried, and very little is actually accomplished.

Let’s face it - you’re angry and perhaps you’re even justified but are you letting your anger control you in ways that actually don’t support the cause or your body?

If you are then maybe it’s time to come up with a game plan that comes from a place of safety and connection instead of rage and fear.

I know that every side says there can be no more both sides stance. However, I don’t buy the narrative that America is b...
09/21/2025

I know that every side says there can be no more both sides stance. However, I don’t buy the narrative that America is beyond repair.

What I see is two sides stuck in survival mode, flooded with fear, shut off from curiosity, unable to hear each other.

And honestly? That’s by design.
The government, the media, the billionaires, they need us divided.

They bank on our outrage.

But beneath all that noise, there’s still overlap.

Parents who just want their kids safe regardless of their race, religion or Socioeconomic status.
People on every side disturbed by violence.
A shared cry for freedom of speech and religion (most of the time).
People desperate for their groceries to be affordable, for their cost of living to go down, for their children to one day be able to afford a home.

The work isn’t about proving who’s right.
It’s about getting safe enough to remember our common ground. And being curious about those who don’t agree with us.

My views and opinions have drastically changed and evolved over the course of my life. SO MUCH. Not by a social media post telling me how awful I am or making fun of me or calling me evil. But because of the sweet, precious human connections I’ve made with people I didn’t understand. People who shared with me their lived experience (even though that was never their job) and who didn’t cut me off because I was ignorant in moments.

And let me tell you something, it’s sooo easy to demonize the other side when all you see is the extremes and the worst of both on the news and social media. But it’s impossible to be a therapist and not see the humanity in every person sitting across from me.

If we want to save America, we absolutely have to do it together. There is no other way.

🔥 If you had childhood trauma comment “guide” and I’ll send you my comprehensive FREE guide on how to heal your nervous ...
09/04/2025

🔥 If you had childhood trauma comment “guide” and I’ll send you my comprehensive FREE guide on how to heal your nervous system after trauma 🔥

So many of the parents I work with are trauma survivors. They are absolute pros at validating their child’s emotions bec...
08/31/2025

So many of the parents I work with are trauma survivors. They are absolute pros at validating their child’s emotions because they know how painful it is to grow up without that.

But when it comes to their own feelings? That’s where the struggle begins.

This pattern didn’t start in parenthood it started in childhood. Many of us learned early on that our emotions weren’t welcome. So we shut them down, stuffed them away, and taught ourselves to survive by becoming the calm, quiet, “good” one.

The problem is, that survival strategy doesn’t go away just because you became a parent. It follows you. It whispers “Your child gets to be human, but you don’t.”

And this is the heart of the work I do with parents helping them remember that they, too, are allowed to be human. That their feelings are not a liability. That validating their own emotions is just as important as validating their child’s.

That they are doing hard, miraculous and life changing work - because they usually never give themselves credit for that.

🔥I have a whole module on Emotional Regulation in my course for parents with childhood trauma. Who have a really hard time just “staying calm” because they struggle with things like this. Comment COURSE and I’ll send you the info 🔥
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Emotional attunement changes EVERYTHING yet how can we expect to attune to our children when we don’t even know how to a...
08/30/2025

Emotional attunement changes EVERYTHING yet how can we expect to attune to our children when we don’t even know how to attune to ourselves?

That’s why I created a course SPECIFICALLY for parents like me. Ones who grew up in chaos and trauma. Ones who didn’t have a solid foundation to support them on their parenting journey. Ones who had abusive and neglectful parents and aren’t only starting from scratch with parenting skills but from a deficit.

Comment “COURSE” to learn more!

If you don’t want to buy anything today I get it - comment GUIDE and I’ll send you my free guide to how trauma impacts our nervous system!

🔥 If you had childhood trauma comment “guide” and I’ll send you my comprehensive FREE guide on how to heal your nervous ...
08/29/2025

🔥 If you had childhood trauma comment “guide” and I’ll send you my comprehensive FREE guide on how to heal your nervous system after trauma 🔥
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So many of my clients tell me the same thing: “I just want to tap into the good stuff. I want to feel calm. I want to re...
08/28/2025

So many of my clients tell me the same thing: “I just want to tap into the good stuff. I want to feel calm. I want to regulate my nervous system.”

And I get it. Of course you long for peace after a lifetime of chaos.

But here’s what I see over and over: what they’re really doing is still denying their experience. They’re trying to skip straight to the light while leaving their anger locked in the dark.

Most of them are terrified of their anger.

They’ve been taught it’s dangerous, destructive, unacceptable. So they keep it buried.

But you can’t access joy, love, or calm if you’re still holding all that rage inside. Regulation without expression just becomes another form of suppression.

Anger is not your enemy. Anger is a boundary. Anger is life force. Anger is righteous.
Healing begins the moment you stop fearing your anger and start listening to it.

🔥 If you had childhood trauma comment “guide” and I’ll send you my comprehensive FREE guide on how to heal your nervous system after trauma 🔥
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I’m gonna say this louder for the people in the back:📢📢📢 Who you were when you were being abused, neglected, and traumat...
08/27/2025

I’m gonna say this louder for the people in the back:

📢📢📢 Who you were when you were being abused, neglected, and traumatized regularly is not who you actually are. And all of the lies they told you to make you hate yourself instead of them weren’t true.

🔥 If you had childhood trauma comment “guide” and I’ll send you my comprehensive FREE guide on how to heal your nervous system after trauma 🔥
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When my kids were little, I struggled with boundaries. Every time I said “no,” my body would go into full panic—tight ch...
05/08/2025

When my kids were little, I struggled with boundaries. Every time I said “no,” my body would go into full panic—tight chest, racing heart, shame flooding in. Why?
Because when I was their age, my “no” never mattered.
Saying no meant punishment, rejection, or worse.

So when I tried to set limits with my own babies… it felt like I was betraying them. Or like I was turning into them (the ones who hurt me).

And don’t even get me started on emotions. 😮‍💨
Their big meltdowns used to send me into survival mode. I found myself walking on eggshells praying they wouldn’t get upset or throw a tantrum. It made me feel so out of control when they did. It felt so familiar to when I was younger and never knew if my parent would fly into a rage unexpectedly. There was a time when I asked my kid to do stuff in an Elmo voice because it was the only thing that worked 🤣🤣🤣

And oh, the nights I lay awake whispering to myself:
“You’re failing. You’re ruining them. You’re not enough. You’re going to pass your trauma down.”

Sound familiar?
If you’re a mom with childhood trauma…this is what cycle-breaking looks like in real life.
It’s messy. It’s holy. And it’s hard as hell some days. As a marriage and family therapist who specializes in working with parents who grew up with abuse and neglect - I’ve realized these struggles happen to ALL of us.

But listen closely:
🌱 Boundaries are bridges, not betrayals.
🌱 Emotions are meant to move through, not be feared.
🌱 Discipline can be firm and kind.
🌱 And whether or not you are a good mom? It was never up for debate. You’ve just been conditioned to hate yourself.

✨Comment WAITLIST to join Beyond Survival—my group coaching program made just for moms healing from childhood trauma while raising the next generation.

We start soon. Let’s walk this road together. 💛✨

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Growing up in wealth doesn’t mean growing up in safety.In many affluent families, money is the leash, a tool to control...
05/02/2025

Growing up in wealth doesn’t mean growing up in safety.

In many affluent families, money is the leash, a tool to control, to silence, to buy compliance. Speak out about the wounds behind the marble walls and you’re called ungrateful. Dismissed. Shamed. Because how could you possibly suffer when your pain was wrapped in privilege?

But trauma doesn’t check your bank balance before it sinks its teeth in.
You are allowed to name what hurt you.
You are allowed to say, this harmed me, even if it came with a trust fund. It doesn’t make you ungrateful.
🔥 If you had childhood trauma comment “guide” and I’ll send you my comprehensive FREE guide on how to heal your nervous system after trauma 🔥
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Have you ever wondered why some kids have gone through traumatic things and seem to come out okay? While other children ...
04/30/2025

Have you ever wondered why some kids have gone through traumatic things and seem to come out okay? While other children appeared to have the “perfect” life and yet struggle with relationships and mental health later on?

The main difference is that the child who went through traumatic things and turned out okay was SAFE to feel their feelings about it and felt they could do so with one or both of their parents.

Meanwhile, the child who appeared to have the “perfect” life may have grown up in a household where they couldn’t share anything with their parents and felt they had to hide who they truly were.

A secure connection and emotionally safe relationship with a parent is one of the biggest predictors of emotional health in children later on.

So what keeps us from being emotionally safe and connected parents? The main thing that gets in the way is our OWN wounds.

That’s why I created Beyond Survival. A parenting group for moms with childhood trauma that focuses on how our wounds show up in our parenting and how to regulate our nervous system, use somatic exercises, regulate our emotions, reparent ourselves and return to playfulness and joy so we can show up for our children in the way they need.

Comment WAITLIST for more information! Payment plans are available!
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