12/26/2025
So yesterday I posted this: I am now updating you because the last few hours have been... a lot. It turns out that when I wrote my post I left out one critical piece of context: I thought I was regular person living a normal life. Turns out I am Chaz, a side character on the worst Gossip Girl episode ever written. So after posting yesterday, reading replies and thinking it over, I decided to reach out to Emma one final time. Some of you thought I shouldn't and that these were, in fact, not my monkeys. Others made me realize that Emma was probably in a s__tty situation with her husband and his family and was actively being gaslit. Now, of note here, while as I mentioned we're not as close as we used to be - we used to be very close. She helped me pick out a spot and let me borrow her car for my first date with who later became my wife. She was a significant part of my support system during some very rough times in my life. Despite everything, I still felt like I cared about her and wanted to work things out. This is no longer the case. See from my perspective - I thought we were good friends, then when she met her husband we naturally drifted apart, and then this thing happened out of nowhere. This was not what it looked like from her perspective. How do I know? Well buckle up because this is absolutely unhinged. So, last night, before going to bed, I text her a long thoughtful message. I explain that I do apologize for the part I played in ruining her marriage, and I understand she is going through a tough time. I understand if she wants nothing more to do with me, but if and when she feels she wants to talk it out, she is welcome to reach out, and I leave the ball in her court. I show this to my wife and she is practically giddy. She tells me there is no way this s__t doesn't blow up in my face and I should have just cut my losses, like many of ya'll said. Emma SHOWS UP AT MY HOUSE AT AROUND 7AM UNANNOUNCED. I ask WTF. She says she really needs to talk to me. I call my wife to the door and explain this. She sends me off with this woman because she understands this s__t can only go poorly and apparently she is here for it and it's my own fault at this point. So as I said, from my perspective we were friends, we drifted apart. From her perspective - for the last 15 years she has been playing some weird game of 4d chess. Or... 2 different games of 4d chess? Apparently she had feelings for me back in college, and she was trying to 'nice girl' her way into a relationship with me. By being there for me when my dad died, and when I was struggling with being single. She always gave everything because she just assumed I would, at some point 'come around'. You'd think that me getting married or her getting married would change that, and it did, just... badly. apparently her husband knew about her feelings, which is why he always kept me at a distance. We never drifted apart, he explicitly asked her not to meet with me anymore outside of large social gatherings. that day at the pool? yeah that was her sticking it to him, because he was 'away' cheating on her or something, and he didn't like her hanging around me sc****ly clad. It wasn't just that he was upset at the joke, he was upset because apparently I was having an affair with his wife and rubbing it in his face. Makes no sense? I know. It gets worse. That thing at the wedding? Well at least she didn't plan THAT. I told our friends getting engaged that I wasn't coming. She asked and verified this. She wasn't expecting to see me and they told her I wouldn't be there, but once I showed up, she decided...
