12/16/2025
A difficult truth I must share has little to do with wigs.
This week at work, I wasn’t an influencer with pretty hair.
I was a nurse, doing one of the hardest parts of my job: telling the truth when it would be easier to soften it, dodge it, or let silence do the damage.
We don’t talk about death well in this culture. We dance around it. We whisper. We make families guess. And in that guessing, people lose autonomy, dignity, and sometimes their chance to speak for themselves.
Today, I told the truth while my patient still had the strength to hear it and claim her voice. And when she asked if I had colored my hair overnight, I showed her a photo of a short blonde style I thought she would like.
She said, “That was the color of my hair before I got sick,” and it reminded me of something essential:
This isn’t vanity.
It’s dignity.
Hair, choice, honesty, autonomy—these are not small things. They are human things. And everyone deserves them, especially at the most vulnerable moments of their life.
So this video is not really about wigs.
It’s a plea.
Please talk to the people you love about what you would or wouldn’t want if the unthinkable happened and you couldn’t speak for yourself. Say it out loud. Write it down. Don’t make anyone guess when the stakes are this high.
Give the gift of alleviating the torment that comes from asking, “Is this what they would want?” The guilt is immeasurable. I’ve seen it tear people and families apart from the inside out.
Dignity shouldn’t be accidental.
It should be intentional.
Be well, fellow humans.
Call someone you love.
I will post resources in the comments. ❤️