Brett, The Audhd Boss

05/04/2026

Should I share that I have a late diagnosis of audhd, adhd and/or autism at work? talks about how tough that decision can be. This is a general discussion and not meant to be specific medical or legal advice. We invite you to watch or listen to the full conversation with more context from Dr Marshall for more. You can listen anywhere you stream podcasts or check out both parts of our conversation on my YouTube channel. Just search “AuDHD boss” for more

05/03/2026

what would you add to this?

unmasking is one of the most questioned parts of late diagnosis. so many of us are hoping beyond hope that unmasking will relieve us of our discomfort.
I hear you bestie, I want that for you too...but this one takes time and you're on the right path.

Everyone says "just be yourself" like that's a simple thing, but when you've spent your whole life learning to hide who you are, being yourself is actually the hardest work you'll ever do.

But I promise, it gets better from here. Knowing the answer is the biggest part...

05/01/2026

Getting a late diagnosis of ADHD or autism can feel like an answer.

Then you're sitting there, years into a career, with no roadmap for what comes next. You don't know what you need. You don't know how to ask for it. And you're not sure whether telling your employer is going to help you or hurt you.

In Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Bo Tyler, PhD, we get into exactly that — the post-diagnosis gap, what burnout actually looks like for late-diagnosed adults, and the real decision around disclosing at work.

Dr. Marshall closes with something worth sitting with: rejection is protection.

Why Late-Diagnosed ADHD Adults Burn Out at Work

05/01/2026

What if my AuDHD (adhd / autism) diagnosis came too late in my life? I hear from so many older neurodivergent adults who ask me what’s the point at my age? Dr. Bo Tyler has some helpful insights on this: “let your exhaustion be your guide” in terms of using that as a starting point for where support can come in. See part two of our full interview (see comments below) on YT or wherever you stream your podcasts. Just search AuDHDBoss

04/27/2026

Grieving the loss of a loved one and trying to process with my AuDHD is complicated. Grieving is like another layer on top of autism and adhd in my processing delays

04/19/2026

Grieving the loss of a loved one with ADHD and autism. Identify you’re safe people so they know when you need them

04/16/2026

How do I stop that post-event rumination? author of Friendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults says the temptation needs to be more potent and stronger than the want for the rumination itself. Learn more about post rumination and more about making friends as a neurodivergent adult in my latest interview with Caroline over on my podcast or on YouTube

04/14/2026

We often see problems coming before anyone else in the room does at work.

My instinct is to say everything, immediately, at full volume.
Dr. Bowen Marshall calls this the Cassandra Effect — and he has a surprisingly simple technique for handling it that I wish someone had told me 10 years ago.

Have you ever been dismissed for seeing something coming that nobody else wanted to hear?

04/11/2026

The Hidden Leadership Trap for AuDHD & Autistic High Performers

There’s a leadership style that almost every AuDHD high performer falls into. Most don’t know it has a name.

Dr. Bowen Marshall calls it the Pacesetter. It comes from Harvard Business Review research on leadership styles. The pattern: you outperform, get promoted because of it, and then lead your team the same way you worked as an individual. High intensity, high standards, high output expected from everyone.
The problem is the team isn’t wired the way you are. And the frustration that builds from that gap is real.
I lived this. It took me years and a direct conversation with my boss to understand that managing the team was the job — not performing at the level that got me promoted in the first place.

Full conversation with Dr. Bowen Marshall, PhD now streaming on YT or wherever you get your podcasts

04/10/2026

People always ask me "how do I start to unmask my autism" or "what does it even mean to unmask."
Have you ever asked those things? Yea? Ok! keep reading.

Autistic masking isn't just being extra polite. It's scripting small talk before every interaction, not being able to ask for what you need because you're afraid of being 'too much', even down to feeling like you're being watched even when you're alone because your nervous system is constantly stuck in survival mode.

What's underneath all of it? Shame and trauma.
This is why we're exhausted... our nervous systems are EXHAUSTED.

And this is why unmasking is so much more complex than "just be yourself." It starts with healing whats at the core, like letting yourself exist at home without performing.
That's where it begins.

04/09/2026

What it feels like when ADHD wants growth and autism wants safety. AuDHD conflict!

This shows up for me in work too.

My ADHD can see possibilities everywhere — new ideas, new projects, new directions, new opportunities.
My autism wants clarity, predictability, and a known path.

So even when I want to grow, take a risk, or move toward something bigger, part of me is still fighting to stay inside what feels safe and familiar.

That AuDHD push-pull can make job hunting, change, visibility, and career growth a lot more complex than people realize.

Sometimes the issue is not a lack of ambition.
Sometimes it’s the internal negotiation between excitement and overwhelm.

A lot of neurodivergent professionals are managing that tension all the time, even when nobody else can see it.