A Mother's Keeper

A Mother's Keeper Birth Doula & Photographer

01/16/2023

When latching your baby, one of the most important things you can do to help get a better latch, is to support your baby's NECK, and not put any pressure on the back of their head. When you push on the back of the head, baby will tuck their chin to the chest, and it is really difficult to open your mouth and to swallow in this position. Adding pressure instead to the neck and upper back, allows your baby to extend their neck a little, bring their chin up, and open their mouth wide. This also brings their nose away from the breast tissue, and opens the airway nicely.

01/15/2023
01/08/2023

Every day, I get questions about dilation.⁠

Things like, I'm 39 weeks and I am not dilated. Or I'm 36 weeks and dilated to 1.⁠

Next is, when will I go into labor? HELP!⁠

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So, here's the thing about dilation. It truly doesn't matter, until you are in labor. And even then, only 10 cms matter. Cause that's when the baby is coming. ⁠

Now, does cervical dilation predict when spontaneous labor occurs?⁠

That's a tough one, studies have shown that a mama who is 39 weeks + and is at least 1 cm were more likely to go into labor within a week.⁠

Even though that feels nice to know (If you're one of the lucky ones) it doesn't really matter. ⁠

According to ACOG: "The average length of pregnancy is 280 days, or 40 weeks, counted from the first day of your LMP. A pregnancy that lasts 41 weeks up to 42 weeks is called “late term.” A pregnancy that lasts longer than 42 weeks is called “post-term."⁠

So that being said, whether or not you are dilated 1 cm at 39 weeks does not mean you will not dilate late. You most likely will.⁠

I can promise one thing for certain:⁠

You will not be pregnant forever!⁠

What was your experience with dilation before you went into labor?⁠

01/04/2023

Just a little picture of how things look when you’re carrying another human. ❤️

11/01/2022

How beautiful is this? 🥰

10/22/2022

Sometimes birth is about focus.
Sometimes birth is about letting go.

You can’t fight against contractions so embrace them with arms wide open.

Welcome labor and your baby in.

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10/17/2022

Dear newborn mother,

Please know that this is what productivity looks like.

It looks like feeding your baby on the couch for an hour, sometimes more.

It looks like leaving a dent in the cushions when you leave, if you leave, but you don’t have to leave.

It looks like being constantly relied
upon, and poo’d on and spewed on.

It looks like burping them, and cleaning them. And then cleaning yourself, but only if you have time.

It looks like ignoring the mess surrounding you and somehow making more. There’s always more.

It looks like staring at them for the longest time so that you completely lose track of time.

It looks like taking lots of photos and videos of them and then cringing at the sound of your own voice on playback.

It looks like conversing in one-sided baby language and constantly thinking “there’s a smile” with only the slightest of mouth movements.

It looks like stroking their hair, nuzzling them, and kissing their cheeks because you still can’t believe they’re real.

It looks like asking your husband to bring you things. And not bring you things. And then him forgetting to bring you things.

It looks like rocking them, hushing them, and singing to them. Or just anything that works really.

It looks like letting them fall asleep on you and letting them stay asleep on you.

It looks like putting them in their bassinet so you can sleep but staring at them again instead.

It looks like you sleeping, eating and showering when you can. Or at least trying to anyway.

It looks like doing what you need to survive the days and nights, the weeks and months.

It looks like you and them, figuring it all out together, one day at a time.

Productivity comes in many different forms and this is one of them. So if you have done nothing other than some of the above today, know that you have been productive.
Know that you are working hard.
Know that you are doing great things.

You may not feel alive right now, but you are keeping someone else alive.
That’s productivity at it’s finest.

Keep up the good work.

Best (sleep) wishes,
Another newborn mother.

📚 Words of Emma Heaphy
Art: O Trocatintas

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✨ Newborn session sneak peek! ✨ This bub was my first little newborn photography client and he was an absolute doll. I’m...
09/22/2022

✨ Newborn session sneak peek! ✨

This bub was my first little newborn photography client and he was an absolute doll. I’m looking to do a few more newborn sessions at a discounted rate while I am gaining experience modeling and photographing sweet babies.

Share with all those new parents to-be!

05/29/2022

We haven’t done this before.
Neither you, nor I
It’s the first time I’ve been so small,
and these arms don’t feel like mine.
And your arms feel heavy and so do your eyes,
I can barely focus too.
But I hear a voice, as you pull me close,
and I know that it is you.
It’s the first time you’ve been this tired,
maybe we’ve never been so scared.
But only when I’m with you,
do my worries disappear.
And though you feel so out of your depth,
this love for me you've shown.
It might be a love like no other,
but it's all I have ever known.
You wonder if you're doing this right,
it always feels right to me.
I don't know if I am either, but you are all I see.
I’ve never heard this cry before,
the first time you’ve heard it too.
I promise we’ll learn together,
and I will grow with you.
Because you just holding me here,
is as perfect as can be.
You are new to being a mother,
and I am new to being a baby.
So please mama, don’t fear these days,
for they will pass us by.
We’re both new to this.
We haven’t done this before.
Neither you, nor I.

Words: Jess Urlichs, Writer from the hardback edition of ‘From One Mom to a Mother’ www.jessicaurlichs.com/shop
Art: Hand Drawn

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05/07/2022

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Mom laid there soaking up her sweet baby after an intense labor, he picked up his head and kissed her right on the lips 🥲🥺😍😇

📸: @ opalmichel.com

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04/20/2022

Yip this bub was born vaginally at home in the birth pool.
5.46 kg
12 pounds
3 hour labour
Intact Perineum
🌈
The midwife had this to say.
“Stop telling women they can’t birth big babies vaginally “
👏
Midwife

04/14/2022

Choline — a vital nutrient for liver health, placental health, prevention of neural tube defects, and infant brain & eye development — is widely spread in the food supply, but most concentrated in animal foods.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
Eggs, represent one of the most concentrated sources. Egg-eaters have, on average, TWICE the choline intake of non egg-eaters. In an analysis of the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey data (NHANES) from 2009–2014, only 2.4% of people who don’t eat eggs met the recommended intake for choline.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
Vegetarians, especially those who do not eat eggs (such as vegans), rank the lowest in choline intake, by far. A 2017 study showed that, after eggs, "meat, poultry and seafood" are the next major contributors to choline intake.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
It's not that plant-sourced choline doesn't count. It's simply that plant foods have such a low concentration of choline, that it's physically impossible to eat a large enough quantity of them to meet recommended intakes, let alone optimal intakes (which may be TWICE our current recs, as covered in ).​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
For years, I have invited vegan nutritionists to show me a meal plan with adequate choline without supplementation. No one has taken me up on the challenge. Even a dietitian-formulated vegan prenatal meal plan fell 20% short of the current rec'd intake.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
If you don't eat animal foods (esp eggs), a choline supplement is a wise choice. Yes, there are vegan options, such as sunflower lecithin. See my choline article for more https://lilynicholsrdn.com/choline-pregnancy-folates-cousin/ and my most recent for more on choline and childhood brain health.

03/20/2022

Swedish photographer Lennart Nilsson spent 12 years of his life taking pictures of the fetus Developing in the womb.

These incredible photographs were taken with conventional cameras with macro lenses, an endoscope and scanning electron microscope.

Nilsson used a magnification of hundreds of thousands and “worked” right in the womb. His first photo of the human fetus was taken in 1965.

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This! ❤️ How you care for yourself (and are cared for by others) in those first 6 weeks postpartum has such an impact on...
03/17/2022

This! ❤️ How you care for yourself (and are cared for by others) in those first 6 weeks postpartum has such an impact on the long-term health of you and your baby.

42 days for 42 years is a phrase used in Ayurveda to emphasize the importance of the 6 weeks after giving birth.

This is a time when Vata dosha goes sky high and you feel vulnerable and open like never before. Although I was more prepared this second time around, it was still an incredibly intense time. A time filled with blood, milk and tears.

That’s why in postpartum Ayurveda suggests things like warm cooked food that is nourishing, abhyangha or oil massage to ground your nervous system, belly binding to feel more held in your body and most importantly lots and lots of rest.

However the thing that I’ve come to realize makes the biggest difference in how you experience this intense time is how much support you have.

I am so grateful for my partner Chris and all of our friends and family who have helped us during this time. I also am so grateful that I met and was able to have her support. From cooking me amazing Ayurvedic food to giving me great massages on top of helping with my breastfeeding issues she was amazing!

Now that I am on the other side of my first 42 days postpartum because of the wisdom of Ayurveda and the support I received I feel nourished and revitalized.

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