05/11/2024
Honestly, both of these dogs could be well behaved, but the way they experience the world is drastically different.
Training methods matter because our dogs can’t easily express their inner emotional world to us, but it’s at the heart of how they behave. When we suppress behavior with punishment, we might buy ourselves some convenience, but it necessarily comes at the cost of shutting the dog down, subjecting them to a persistent feeling of a looming threat, and risking the development of emotional issues like fear, aggression, or anxiety, not to mention the damage done to our relationship with them.
Positive reinforcement methods are not only effective (and increasingly clever, fun, and easy), but they come along with positive side effects like an improved relationship, teaching our dog to trust our guidance, and a happy, healthy emotional life and openness to good possibilities.
Now consider your own body chemistry and your outlook on the world- do you think it is better served by being in conflict with your dog, or by looking for alignment and ways to mutually cooperate and benefit? Good dog training is like solving a puzzle: how can we both get what we want, despite having some divergent interests and goals? And how can we not drive each other crazy in the process of figuring it out?
I promise if you approach training this way, you can improve your dog’s behavior with positive side effects on your relationship and both of your well-being.
I’m lucky that I found positive reinforcement training when I did, and there are increasingly helpful resources for being able to understand and approach your dog’s training with dog-friendly methods. Need help finding the resources and instruction that will help with your dog? Please shoot me a message and help me pay forward the debt of gratitude I owe to all my mentors.