01/09/2026
Throwaway because I don't want my sister finding this. My sister 'Annie' (30'sF) is obsessed with a girl, let's say Jane (20'sF), that her husband cheated on her with in mid 2020. Idk why. Jane's not the first or the last. She was one of the decent ones. Didn't realize he was married, broke it off when she found out, and sent the proof of his cheating to his wife. Somehow he spun this as 'she's trying break us up,' and my sister fell for it. Which is stupid because Jane already blocked them on everything. He's the one that basically stalked her for months after. Anyway, Annie's been stalking Jane's socials. Any time Jane posts about something bad happening, Annie calls me up to gloat. Any time she posts about anything good that happens, Annie starts crying about how it's not fair. In the last few months Jane apparently got a high paying new job, got engaged, and is pregnant. Annie had a full on meltdown over it. It's all she ever wants to talk about. She'll call me at least twice a week with this s__t, and text me multiple times a day. She doesn't want advice, doesn't want to leave him, just want to vent endlessly. My other sister is also tired of this, but my mom says we need to be gentle because it's hard for Annie. I just want her to stop! I tried sympathy, tough love, changing the subject, suggested counselling, nothing works. It's nonstop Jane did this and Jane said that. I hit my boiling point this morning when she was going on about how Jane's fiance would cheat because she's too fat (she's pregnant!) and her baby would be a basterd, etc.. Then she said 'I don't care because I won and she lost. She had him for a week and I have him for a lifetime.' For some reason that made me snap. I told Annie she 'won' a slimy serial cheater who likes to creep on barely legal teens, who never supported her through illness or depression, never lifts a finger around the house, sulks about having to 'babysit' his own kids, constantly makes mean jokes about her, and criticizes her appearance harshly even though he's below average in looks. I said something like 'Maybe you're obsessed with Jane's life because it's yours is a massive dumpster fire.' Since then, I had to deactivate my socials because I'm getting nonstop hate from Annie, her friends, and extended family for being cruel. Apparently I have no morals and condone cheating? None of them are going for the actual cheater though? Just me for pointing out that he's a cheater? My other sister says that I wasn't wrong, but I was an AH to say it so harshly, and that Annie is a victim too. IDk reddit, am I? EDIT: Thanks for all the comments and awards and advice. Sorry I can't reply to everyone. I'll keep suggesting therapy to Annie, and...