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AITA Reddit Unresolved Issues, 7403570 Hahn Shoals, Los Angeles, CA (2026)

01/12/2026

My daughter has been married to her husband for 3 years and they recently had their first child. The entire time they’ve been married, she’s been a housewife and now she’s a stay at home mom with no plans to return to work. I think that’s fine and have been supportive. I also know she and her husband both have sizeable life insurance policies so if god forbid, one dies, they’ll be okay. However, she also signed a prenup. Which again, I think is smart. But according to my daughter, she’d get a very small settlement. And even with child support, there’s a good chance she’d have to return to work. And after being out of the workforce for a bit, who knows if that’ll be a challenge. My main worry is my niece fell into this scenario and even with child support, she struggled. So, my husband (her father) and I set up a “just in case” account. If she and her husband divorce, she’ll have money to fall back on just in case. If they remain married past the time my husband and I die, it’ll just be added to what she’ll inherit. I didn’t intend on telling her about it unless it happened but my husband pointed out that if she was ever in a situation where she wanted to leave but worried she financially couldn’t, it’d be good for her to know she has a Plan B. So, we told her and she was a little surprised. She said she appreciated it but felt we were “rooting against her”. I said we love her husband and hope they have a long, healthy marriage. We have always been supportive. But this is similar to the prenup. A just in case. A last resort. Well, she told her husband and he’s pi**ed at us as well, saying that we don’t trust him. I said it’s looking out for our daughter and really is no different from the prenup. I added that just as he’ll always want to protect his daughter, we’ll always want to protect ours. AITA?

01/12/2026

I drive for Uber in the Dallas area and I received a ride request. I picked up the gentleman and it was a good ride. About five minutes in the rider asked me what was on my rear view mirror. I told him it was my interior cam. He got mad and told me to turn it off because he didn't like such surveillance. I reminded him that the Uber app would have said there was video recording. There are also signs on the door. He could have declined booking the trip if there was a problem. It escalated when he yelled, "You better turn that damn thing off or else"! "Or else?", I asked. "Yes", was the reply. "Turn it off or stop this trip"!! I verified with him his request and he said, "Yes, turn the damn thing off or end this trip." to which I said, "Fine. Have it your way. I will comply." At that, I exited the highway and pulled into a convenience store. He acted a bit stunned before shouting "What the hell are you doing?" I calmly stated, "You said either I stop recording or I end the trip. As I have no intention of stopping the recording I am letting you out here". That did not go well for him as he started screaming and hurling vituperative abuse beginning with "f", questioning my parentage, and although correctly guessing my s**xual orientation was rather rude about it. I calmly ended the trip as per his request. That was the compliance. Here's the maliciousness \[which although I'm very capable of I rarely do\]. When ending the trip on the app, I gave him a one star rating as we can't give a zero. As he really was getting on my last nerve I added feeling unsafe and abusive rider. As he continued to rant, I pointed to a police car that just pulled in and told him, "If you don't leave my car immediately then perhaps you might want to explain why not to that nice officer." After getting a few more cutting jabs and getting out, he tossed his open protein drink at my head hitting the headrest and spilling all over the floorboard. It was that time I got a text message from Uber support asking if I was alright. I said I was. They told me his account was suspended and asked if I could send the video clip to him. I said I would and also mentioned the mess. Uber support told me to just send them a picture and he would be charged a $75 cleaning fee \[which I got within an hour\]. So I did exactly what the rider wanted but due to his petulant behavior he got a cancelled Uber account and it cost him $75. If he would have just left, I wouldn't have done a thing but play stupid games. Win stupid prizes!!

01/11/2026

Throwaway because my husband knows my Reddit handle. I've also changed names just to diminish the chances of him finding me. He's not abusive but I have no intentions of letting him find out what I intend to do before I do it. I guess I'm just looking for advice on what to do. Victor and I met 5 years ago and we've been married for almost 3. When we were dating, I told him that, under no circumstances, would I condone cheating. If he cheated and I found out about it, that's it. I'd cut off all contact and he'd never see or hear from me again. If we were married and/or have kids, we'd only go through our lawyers. He told me he was glad I had standards and the past 5 years were great. Not perfect. But I believed we were happy. We decided to try for a baby last year. My due date is in 16 weeks. I was over the moon happy and I believed he was too. He told me when we were dating that he didn't care if we had only boys but he always wanted to have at least one little girl for him to pamper and spoil. When we learned the baby was a girl, he cried and told me I was the best wife in the world. That was until last weekend. Victor went out to get groceries but left his phone in our room by accident. I decided to take it down to the kitchen so he wouldn't be scrambling looking for it when he got home. As I was walking to the kitchen, a text message popped up. It was from his "work wife" Alicia (31F). It said "So the plan's on?" I don't know why but something about this made me suspicious. Victor is the type of man who uses the same passcode for everything so I was able to access his phone. Well. I checked his messages...and I learned that he intended to ask me to open the relationship so he and Alicia can start going out. I've never met an open relationship that's ever worked out and a number of people I've talked to have told me that an open relationship is usually because "someone is already cheating and wants to continue guilt free or has someone in the wings". And it's clear that if he and Alicia aren't sleeping together, they certainly intend to. I was able to get screenshots of the text messages going back as far as I could and sent them to myself. I've also packed a bag and headed to my older brother's (Oliver, 32M) house (he opened his doors to me when I told him what happened). As I didn't want Victor to know that I know, I just left a note saying that Oliver had an unexpected emergency and I headed over to help him. Victor just asked me to stay in contact and he loved me. I have an appointment with a lawyer in a few days. Honestly? I feel disgusted. This man knew the whole time that I'm not going to play these kind of games and he went ahead and decided to f__k around and find out. But I don't want to play my hand just yet. Maybe I'm being petty but I want to catch him as off guard as he caught me off guard. I don't want my baby to be around a man who believes it's okay to make a promise to be loyal and faithful but decide to break it to chase some tail. What kind of message does that send to a child, especially a girl? I don't care if he wins Father of the Year. He still thinks it's okay to treat the woman he vowed to love, cherish and honor for the rest of his life like a...

01/11/2026

My husband and I live in the US northeast, where I am from. “John” moved here for work several years ago, from the deep south of the US where he grew up, raised with Christian holidays but never attending church. Coincidentally, shortly before everything hit, John’s parents AND his childhood best friend “Dan” and his wife decided to move here as well. This past weekend was the first that us three couples have gathered together since any of us moved here; we had a “distanced picnic” at our house. John sat down 2-3 minutes after I did, as he was settling our kid into his pen in the yard with us. Dan and my FIL immediately started to “jokingly” rip on him for being “whipped” and doing “my” job of parenting our child while he was supposed to be “allowed” to just catch up with the two other men. I was trying to politely deflect when it turned to how “mean” I was for not “fixing him a plate” and serving him before serving myself. (If I thought a certain dish would run out before he got to it, or if he had asked me to, I of course would have!) Dan and FIL continued to brag about how their families "do it right", where they handle the “outside chores” while their wives handle the “inside chores” (including the care of Dan and his wife’s two children). I think it’s important to note here that both currently live in rented condos that by their nature do not have “outdoor chores”, and both their wives have always worked full time, as I do. The whole day was kind of wrecked by that start, and I was frustrated when John left with Dan and FIL to “go for a walk” and left me to do all the clean up alone while also looking after our kid. I expected John to apologize when he returned hours later, but instead HE got at ME for “making [him] look bad” in front of his friend and dad. He brought up how “a traditional division of labor” is “a huge part of southern culture”, and how I was being “disrespectful” to his background by “forcing northern culture” onto him and his family. He said he’s been building up a lot of “resentment” the past few months that I “make” him do half the chores and childcare, since in his “culture”, women do the chores and hands-on childcare, and men do the fun parenting, the discipline, mow the grass, and bring in the cars for oil changes when needed. I was stunned but honest and told him southern culture is garbage. It's bigotry. I lived in John's home state for 8 years, and I saw how "southern hospitality" is reserved only for those in your in-group. Deviate from the norm--be q***r, non-Christian, a POC, a liberal, a non-traditional woman--and they turn on you viciously. Does every single person act like that always? No. But it's the culture. John is livid and says his "culture" is just as valid as that of other global regions, religions, and ethnic groups, so I am the bigot by not "compromising" with him here and incorporating aspects of his culture into our family life the way I would if his "culture" was "Islamic or Asian or whatnot".

01/11/2026

I don’t know if I was a d__k or not. My wife has a book club that meets up every Sunday at her friends home. It is suppose to be a lunch thing and she always tells me that she will be home around 3. Ever single time she has been late, the worse was getting home at 7pm. They went on a shopping outing. I have talked to her multiple times and I have expressed it is disrespectful. I am fine watching the kids ( 8 and 10). What I am not fine with is her lying to me about what time she will get home. It also just makes my life harder since she usually doesn’t get home in time for me to hang out with my own friends so I have to cancel. We both work and the kids are in school. I am an active parent. I don’t have a schedule get out of the home time like my wife does. So yesterday, I made it very clear that she needs to be home before 4 at the latest because my Uncle is in town and we are suppose to grab dinner before he heads back to his home state. Well she told me she would be home at 3 and at 3:45 she wasn’t home. I drove to her friend’s house with the kids. When her friend opens the door( it’s around 4:15 now), my wife was there and I handed off the kids to her. I told her I am going to met my uncle and didn’t answer any calls during dinner I got home and we got in a huge argument. She thinks I am a huge jerk for humiliating her in front of her friends. I told her this wouldn’t have happens if she just came home on time. Edit: I am sick of comments about this. Watching your kids is a super common phrase. No one says I am parenting my kids this weekend. They say I am watching my kids the weekend.

01/11/2026

I didn't intend to embarrass her but I don't feel that matters, really. My husband and I just welcomed our last baby in to this world 5 weeks ago. My company gave me 3 months paid leave and his company offered him 4 weeks. I'm not sure what exactly went wrong but during his 4 weeks out, he was fired. They said it was due to budget cuts but I'm almost leaning toward them being salty that he took time off because they are short staffed and "needed him". We are currently looking in to wrongful termination and unemployment while he's job searching. On the income I get from paid leave, we do have bills covered but it's like every single penny that I have coming in. I have had to start couponing heavily and go to food banks and even then, sometimes me and my husband are still hungry. We are now facing the possibility that we might not actually have a place by next week because they raised our rent by $300 and I absolutely cannot afford it and our landlord is far from lenient or willing to work with us. Fingers crossed that unemployment kicks on by then but we are preparing for the worst. It's been a very, very stressful few weeks. Last week my MIL had asked if she, my SIL, and my 2 BILs could come see the baby and stated that they would bring a bunch of food and prepare us a nice meal and keep an eye on our kids so we could catch a break. We of course accepted the offer and they all came by on Sunday. At some point or another my husband was talking to his brother about how stressed he is and how he feels like it's his fault we could potentially be homeless by next month and was basically asking him if he knew of any cheaper end rentals or any work available in his field. My SIL overheard and included herself, telling him to go work at McDonald's if we are that hard up (he already applied there). But then it switched and she goes "that's okay, I have no idea how I'm going to make my cruise payment this week so I guess we are all screwed". She booked a cruise for next year and is doing monthly installments. So I said "'That's okay?' In what world is your luxury trip in any way comparable to us potentially becoming homeless?" She immediately stopped talking and her face went beet red but nothing else was mentioned. However, I just got a text from her this morning saying that she "is trying to get over the fact that I embarrassed her the way I did but she can't and since I knowingly embarrassed her without apology, she will be going no contact". AITA?

01/11/2026

I was at the gym where a heavy-weight fell onto three of the fingers on my left hand. I was in such severe pain that I thought I was going to pass out. While sobbing, I called my mom (as I am at college far away from home). I told her that I thought I broke my finger/s, and that I wanted to go to urgent care. My mom has never been empathetic for physical injuries and mental health issues. When she heard me, she told me to suck it up and rest. I figured I would wait for a while who knows, she could be right. edit: I feel I should mention that my fingers did not look deformed, so other than the bruising and swelling I was unsure if they were broken or not. While waiting, my roommate came home and saw the state that I was in. She took one look at my hand and assured me we had to go to urgent care. I didn't want to betray my mom, because she always said to never go to the ER or urgent care due to our 'terrible insurance'. However, I went and researched the cost of an out-of-pocket X-ray at the nearest urgent care, and it was only $200, which I was willing to pay. I told my mom this, and she said, 'you better hope your fingers are broken or else I'm not helping you pay for anything'. So I was under a weird circumstance where I hoped my fingers were broken for the sake of saying 'I told you so' to my mom. I finally went to urgent care and got an X-ray. They confirmed both my pointer and middle fingers were broken, and may need surgery if not healed properly. When I called my mom back later that day and told her the news, she basically laughed and told me I should be glad that they were broken. Three weeks have gone by, and I have not spoken to her since. She's texted me and asked for updates on my fingers, but I feel conflicted on why she's suddenly acting like she cares when she clearly didn't in the first place. She's also not someone you can easily share your feelings with, so i'm not sure how to go about our next conversation. Should I just ignore it, or try to bring it up with her? edit: I was not expecting the overflow of 'NTA' comments, and I have gotten asked about why I believe I am the a__hole. I spoke to my brother about it, and he told me that I was overreacting and that she just wants to check up on me, and probably feels bad for diminishing my issues.

01/11/2026

I was best friends with Jen from preschool through 9th grade. Her home life was was pretty rough and she practically lived at my house. My parents called her the daughter they never had. When we were in 9th grade, I asked her out. It took some convincing but she eventually said yes. She broke up with me over text the day after our date. She barely went to school, didn’t text, and wasn’t at my house at all the next few weeks. She eventually showed up at my house in the middle of the night. My parents took her in no questions asked then she left in the middle of the night a few weeks later. I admit I didn’t love having her around and didn’t make it easy on her but her leaving was hard on everybody. My parents had to go to therapy. Last year I moved out for college but I was still planning on coming to visit. A few months after I moved out, Jen showed up at my parents house pregnant and with a baby. They took her in again then called me and my brothers asking how we feel about her staying with them. My brothers were ok with it but I can’t forgive her for what she did a few years ago. My parents let her stay anyways but said they had conditions on her staying with them like her going to therapy and either enrolling in college or getting a job. I told them I still wasn’t okay with it. We argued a bit and I told them I wouldn’t visit if she was living there. She’s still there and I held true to my word and I haven’t visited since. They’re trying to get me to come for Christmas but I won’t be there if Jen is living there. They’re calling me petty and saying I need to forgive her but I think I have a right to be upset.

01/11/2026

Sorry about any mistakes English is not my first language and I’m emotional. I (29f) met my fiancé K(32m) six years ago when J was 2. I wasn’t planning on dating a single parent as I felt I was too young to be a parent in any capacity, but I fell in love with K and when I eventually got to meet J, I fell in love with him too. J’s bio mom was not in the picture from at the time. She wanted absolutely nothing to do with J. When I met them she hadn’t seen J for a year and a half. For the past six years she hasn’t been in touch with J or K at all. I’ve helped raised J all these years. I see him as my own, I love him as my own. He calls me mom. In every way except for biologically, he’s my son and I’m his mom. In February this year we even made it legally official with adoption. It was honestly the best moment of my life. In the beginning of summer J’s bio mom contacted K and asked if she could see J. We discussed it and decided that we would give her a chance. Maybe she had needed some time to grow up. K and J met her and it was fine. All was good at first, I even met her and she was perfectly nice and lovely. But the last few weeks something has changed. J and K has spent more and more time with her at K’s insistence. I have not been there. J had started acting out more than he ever has before and I’ve been suspecting it’s because of bio moms influence. I feel like this was confirmed on Tuesday when J said he didn’t have to listen to me because I’m not his real mom. It hurt a lot but he’s a child so I can’t be too angry with him. I talked to my fiancé about it later and that I felt like maybe they should cut down a little on the time spent with bio mom and have me be there in the future. We got into an argument and when I repeated what J had said he responded with “Well technically you aren’t his real mom”. It felt like a punch. I couldn’t believe and still can’t believe he said that. I was so hurt that I just left to stay at my parents place and have been here ever since. I’ve tried talking to K and he’s apologised over and over again but I just can’t get over that he sees me like that? I have talked to J and said that I just need some time away but that I love him very much. He’s so sad and there’s nothing I want more than hold him but every time I think about going home and seeing K, knowing what he said it makes me sob. Am I awful for needing some space? I feel like a terrible mother but I don’t know what to do?

01/11/2026

I (27M) am a “chill at home” type of person. I was diagnosed with depression and its largest effect is on my energy levels. My weight isn’t doing me any favors either. My wife (27F) isn’t incredibly active, but can’t go an entire day without making plans to do something, which is fine. I like doing things with my wife and I can deal deal with her plans most of the time, but sometimes I get home from work and just need to sit in my lazyboy and watch a Netflix. For example, It’s common to go from having an entire weekend with no plans to her sister and 5 year old to come visit for a whole day. Then the next day we are going to her grandparents. The whole weekend gone in two sentences. I know it might seem normal but it just goes on and on and on. I can’t remember the last time i had a no-obligation, get stuff done (or not) kind of day. There are two more layers to this. She NEVER asks me about any of the plans. She is happy to commit my time and then tell me the night before. If I ever want to make my own plans I have to do so around her plans. Plus I always talk to her about it before making them. I don’t know if she does it on purpose or not, but she makes me feel bad telling her I don’t want to do what she has planned. Sometimes i think it is on purpose because she is always saying “you never want to do anything”. I could do 8 or 9 of 10 things she wants and still be told this. It just seems manipulative and inconsiderate. This has led to me becoming bitter at times. We have small arguments about it from time-to-time, she keeps making plans, and I keep piling on stress. It’s gotten to the point that I contest her plans every time. However, today she laid out “our” weekend plans and i said “Nope, I’m staying home. You can do that on your own for once.” She comes back with “We haven’t seen them in forever.” I said “Well I could go a little longer.” She stormed off and I left for work. From her perspective I’m sure it’s annoying to have to force me out the door. I could see her thinking that I’m just being lazy. We get along great but she just doesn’t understand that I need more time to relax than normal. AITA for being complaining often and saying what I did?

01/11/2026

I (26F) was born with a bad underbite, for those of you who don’t know what that is, it’s when the lower jaw protrudes beyond the upper jaw. About two years ago I went for a jaw corrective surgery to correct my underbite. I did this for several reasons: 1) The underbite caused me to have difficulty speaking and pronouncing certain words. 2) Because of my previous jaw alignment, I often felt discomfort around my mouth area. Although this didn’t affect my daily life, it was annoying to deal with. 3) I had problems chewing and/or biting food. 4) It was my biggest insecurity. I went through high school with an underbite which was a blast, a lot of people made fun of it. My jaw correction surgery went wonderfully and my jaw is now completely healed and I don’t have an underbite anymore. This has helped me gain a lot of confidence and has also made my life easier. Yesterday my brother’s (24M) girlfriend (20F) came over to our house for the first time. It was my first time meeting her and luckily, we got along well. While we were chatting his girlfriend made a comment that I was “really pretty”. My brother laughed at that and said “you should have seen her before her jaw surgery”. I was very hurt by his comment but I chose not to say anything because I didn’t want to ruin the night. But then his girlfriend asked him to elaborate and my brother told her the story of my underbite and the surgery I went for to correct it. He then added that I went for the surgery because I was vain and wanted to look better. I admit that’s one of the reasons why I went for the surgery but there were other factors that made me go for it (as I have explained earlier). I told him that wanting to look better wasn’t the only reason for getting the surgery and he said “yeah, yeah, whatever you say, but you can’t deny that you had plastic surgery before which is an unnatural thing to do” I felt humiliated and in the heat of the moment I told him to shut up if he didn’t know anything. My brother told me I was being a jerk beacuse he made a passing remark that was factual. But I think he was being a little insensitive to my feelings. AITA for telling him to shut up?

01/11/2026

quick edit because I have to go to bed and there's some stuff being propagated in the comments that isn't true, but being that I'm going to bed, I'm not going to be able to reply to every single comment saying it to correct it: My girlfriend does not actually "fill a maternal role" in his life nor do I at this time want her to. She has only met him a handful of times (and all of the social media posts are from those few times). She has never been alone with him and has never actively cared for him in any way (in terms of "childcare"). She is not actively participating in his life in a maternal way. She was introduced to him casually, the same way he has been introduced to every other friend I have. She is in no way coparenting with me in real life, nor have I ever had an expectation or discussion with her about coparenting with me in any way, shape, or form. I was widowed in December of 2019 after my wife of 6 years died due to complications following childbirth. At first I was hesitant to ever date again but then I met my current girlfriend sort of unexpectedly about 6 months ago and decided to give it a try. Obviously, I want anyone I'm with to be good to my son and treat him kindly and lovingly. And I was happy that my girlfriend wasn't hesitant to meet him at all and was just that, kind and loving, toward him when she met him (she met him about 2 months ago). However, something I would never want any partner to do is try to take the place of his mother. Even if we were married for 30 years, no one but his mom will ever be his mom. And the last couple of times my girlfriend has been over, I caught her trying to get her to get him to say mama to her. I asked her to stop that and she said that he was doing it on his own, which he obviously wasn't. I'm not really an active user of my Instagram but after that I decided to go on there and look at hers (we do follow each other, but I haven't really logged on in the past few months), and she's basically making herself out to be his mom on there, with pictures and videos and stuff, and identifying herself as his mom even though she isn't. She isn't passing him off as her own in the strictest sense because she's not saying she gave birth to him and she will clarify to people who ask that his biological mother died, but she's definitely insinuating that she's adopted him or that she fills a mother role in his life. After I found this I confronted her about it and she got angry, saying that I should be grateful that she loves my child as her own and that I found someone who would love my child as their own. I still feel upset about it but I'm questioning if I should in light of that--so here I am, asking: am I an a__hole for being upset and asking her not to identify herself as his mother?

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