10/15/2026
Go to AITAH r/AITAH 1 day ago Large-Efficiency-825 Join AITAH because I told my ex husband outside of our kids i don’t care about his life and I don’t owe his fiancé anything UPDATE
So I texted Tom today since Tammy's mental state isn't looking good. I told him I'd prefer he or his mom handle all pickups from now on. If her mental health worsens, I'll keep the girls full time until their environment improves.
Tom tried to call me shortly after, but I texted him back saying I'd prefer texts instead. He claimed he wanted a heart to heart conversation about our situation. I told him that won't happen unless we're strictly discussing our daughters.
He admitted it involved the girls, but he also wanted to discuss the future relationship he wishes we had. He basically asked for family therapy involving himself, me, Tammy, and our kids, which I can't accept. If he thinks our kids need a therapist, I'll find one we both agree on.
He kept bringing the topic back to us, so after a few hours of nowhere, I left him on read. I called my ex in laws to explain the situation and how I don't want involvement with Tammy. I reminded them I've expressed multiple times I desire a civil co-parent dynamic.
I told them I value my friendship with their family, but I'll go low contact if this crosses my boundaries again. My mother in law apologized, saying she was emotional because Tom is her heartbroken son. She added that the baby was her grandchild, which I understand and forgive.
Things took a weird turn when Tammy suddenly showed up at my front door. I've watched enough true crime shows to know I shouldn't open the door. I talked to her through the doorbell camera and recorded the interaction while she stood there crying.
She was saying she was sorry and she just wanted to be my friend. She claimed she needs forgiveness because she lost her baby as karma for what she did to me. She mumbled other things I couldn't understand, so I rang the police, my brother, and Tom.
She didn't get arrested, but Tom talked to my brother and said he was taking her home.