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01/03/2026

My grandparent is dying - AIO
My boyfriend of three years was on holiday with his family when my grandmother was moved to palliative care. We are both in our mid 20s.

I am physically and emotionally exhausted. The day he came back I called him to see how we would arrange to meet. He’s dependent on public transport right now and when he said he might not come (he later said this was for my convenience) I snapped and hung up. The messages show the rest.

I phoned him when I reached the hospital and said I can’t take anymore arguing please don’t come right now. I even said he is acting like he hates me and break up if that’s how he feels. He came to the hospital against my wishes and argued for 15 minutes about me playing innocent and using my grandparent as an excuse to treat him bad. He called me a psycho and just generally berated me. He insinuated he was going to kill himself and then gave out I didn’t even care. I made him leave and said if he had any respect for me not to follow me into the room my grandparent is in. He came anyway which made me really anxious and now my parent hates him for intruding. They had to make him leave.

An hour later he calmed down and sent loving and apologetic messages. He was like a man possessed before which he admitted himself. He’s since sent my voice notes of him crying and begging for me to give him a chance to make it up to me.

I love him and can’t imagine my life without him. But I think this is unforgivable.

More photos in the comments.

01/03/2026

Guy pushing for nudes after I had a very serious surgery, AIO
So I met this guy on a dating app, went on 3 dates together - he seemed sweet, a bit over the top since on the third date he already started talking about us living together and having a dog together. And after that I realized that I shouldn’t be looking for anything serious from him and that this can be just a fun little fling.

Out first date was actually very fun we spent hours together talking about everything and anything. But every date after that one was less fun and he was less engaging, so I would put most of the effort to talk and keep things interesting. I got the feeling he was in it only for s*x, and everything else didn’t deserve his effort. But I needed s*x as well so I wasn’t too put off by his behavior, although it wasn’t very attractive.

We slept on the 4th date and it was okay. He liked it more than me is what I understood. But as soon as we were done it seemed like he just became uninterested and I went home almost right after it ended.

I didn’t text him after it because it all ended a bit weird that night and didn’t expect he will text me either. But after 2 weeks he did text me back. And it turned into s*xting, which I was fine with. We s*xted a couple more times, every time because he started it. And he was enjoying it waaaay more than I did, but it was entertaining for me. In the end we ended up sleeping together one more time.

After that I moved back home to have a very invasive surgery (4th one this year) and the recovery is very very very painful. I am practically glued to my bed in a lot of pain and the last thing on my mind is s*x. Especially with someone I am not very interested in.

So he calls me on a video call yesterday, while I am watching movies with my family, and I immediately know what he is up to. Btw calling someone on a video call you’re not so close to is super weird for me, so I didn’t pick up obviously. But I texted him after and the rest of the conversation you can see in the photos.

After the text where I was done with him begging me for nudes I started to feel like I might’ve overreacted, he was nice enough to apologize. I usually don’t get offended easily and I tried to take this whole conversation very light hearted and not serious. But after the 3rd time of him asking I felt a bit dehumanized and super objectified. Since he apologized I started feeling bad and I am now unsure if I overreacted.

01/03/2026

AIO for being scared to reply to my brother’s victim?
I’m coming here because I don’t want this to be used against my friend. I know if I tell any of my family that she reached out to me that they would give this as “proof” to their lawyers that she was like this willing participant when I know and my screwed up family knows she wasn’t but they don’t care they want to stay out of jail.

For people who aren’t familiar with my previous post, my brother (M20) had s*xual relationship with my best friend Mia (F15 Also the girl in text also fake name). For 3 years since she was 12. He had gotten access to her because of honesty me💔, she stayed over a bunch so he started grooming her and he even looked up stuff “how to get child that was abused to trust you” so he knew exactly the f**k he was doing and I originally thought my brother was only facing charges for statutory and DV related charges because he has been physically violent with her. But no he is now facing Fedral charges because they have evidence of him trafficking her and he was producing CSAM stuff and selling to other creeps through telegram and discord. So he’s atleast facing 10 years but also looking at a life sentence if he don’t start snitching on who his buyers / clients were.

I was told by like the police to not contact her because of her family requested that and I did follow that boundary. So seeing this message I’m not gonna lie I cried the entire time reading it because I miss her too and I worry about her alot because I know how vulnerable and naive she is, especially since her new boyfriend is I believe 24. I knew she was lonely because of how much she posts on her Reddit and looking for validation from others and then her mental health cannot be okay right now. Just the facts I’m hearing about the case I wanna cry in her behalf because it’s really dark and I have no idea how she’s even able to function and be a mom to my nephew, after surviving what my brother had her doing.

I want to respond so bad but I don’t want to screw up things more than I already have by introducing her to my brother in the first place. But I do miss her and I hate that she’s lonely because she hasn’t done anything wrong and shouldn’t be ostracized. But I’m really nervous to respond AIO ?

01/03/2026

AIO for wanting to end my relationship with my bf over his text
I think my bf was insensitive in the way he reacted to me telling him that my aunt is hospitalised. It feels like he doesnt care about me cause he didnt even ask about how I am and how im reacting to the situation. Maybe im expecting too much but it hurt me and I just feel so done and I want to know of I am overreacting and being too rush ?

For a bit more context: the plan that fell through was me coming back home from visiting my grandma. I had told him I wanted to meet up amd talk when I got bacj

01/03/2026

First post here.

So I (33M) am a Father to a 6yo girl and I coparent with her mother and have been cordial, and on good terms the entire time. We’ve been split up since 21’ and only talk when it comes to our kid.

On New Year’s Eve, I was with family and my gf(29F) who I’ve been dating for 2yrs and my daughter called to FaceTime me and wish me a happy new year. We were talking and her mom would chime in here and there. I wasn’t hiding the phone call because there’s no need to from my gf. She’s met the mother and has been around my daughter multiple times and has a good relationship with her.

We were saying goodbye and my daughter said I love you dad. And when I replied I said love you guys instead of saying love you on accident. But I wasn’t gonna correct myself because I didn’t think there was a need to and didn’t want come off rude by saying sorry I meant I love you to my daughter. Her mom didn’t say it back either because we don’t say that to one another. So I don’t think she really paid any attention to it.

My Gf is accusing me of having feelings for her and saying I’m in the wrong for not making her feel better and justifying why I said it.

Mind you, I was smoking a lot before this conversation with my daughter so I wasn’t fully coherent.

01/03/2026

I feel guilt tripped over dry January. AIO?
Two of my friends and I decided to attempt/do dry January. One started yesterday. And the other that’s in this text message started right on the first. I made it clear I wanted to start after the last football game of the season, even though I haven’t drank since New Year’s Eve. And I felt like when I said that in the text she was harsh about it. My drinking habits are I have a couple of beers while watching sports. A beer with dinner towards the weekend or a spontaneous happy hour. She blackouts almost every other weekend. So I didn’t expect such a snooty attitude. AIO?

01/03/2026

AIO anxious because I gave a creepy guy my number
Me (17) and my friend were out thrifting today and I was trying on this purple dress. A man approaches us and says how beautiful it was and tells me to put it on. I thought he was just being friendly, but he got really weird. My friend was immediately cold towards him, but I was so nervous- I just kept being nice. He gave me $10 dollars and told me to buy the dress. I practically beg him to take it back. I know I should’ve put it down, but he wouldn’t take it back so I took it. Then he gives me his phone and asks for my number. I gave him a fake name, but my real number. I was scared he was going to call it Infront of me. So, to avoid trouble I have my real number. I think my friend scared him off but, now I’m really scared. I looked up his number on cashapp. It’s really freaking me out. He’s already sent me some creepy texts. I’m paranoid he’s going to track me down or something. I can’t even sleep.

01/03/2026

AIO Lost my temper with STBX inappropriate text but not sure if I went overboard
For context, these are texts from my STBX husband. It's a long story, if you want the full story you can check my post history but long story short, he cheated, we separated, he stayed with his affair partner, I moved on. Started dating somebody else. At some point I am guessing he and his affair partner broke up or things aren't going well between them because he started inviting me for coffee or wanting to talk about things to get back together. Which I have made clear every time that I am not interested in.

When we broke up and he was still living with me until he moved out, I endured passive aggressive comments and weird behaviour. He got even weirder when I started dating even while he was still with his affair partner.

I have endured MONTHS of texts just like this. We have a group chat between us and a friend acting as mediator for coparenting stuff. But he will keep texting me this nonsense. Normally I just keep saying 'group chat please' but I just lost my patience especially with his VERY inappropriate comment. I censored it as it was deeply personal and very inappropriate to say but he's referring to something in our former s*x life (pre-break up).

I should have ignored him but I had enough and I let my anger take over. I'm wondering if I overreacted with my reply or if I went too far. Maybe I should have ignored him.

PS: His comment about 'running away with the gardener' is referring to the fact that my bf is a landscaper. STBX mocks him and calls him 'just a gardener' or that I 'ran away with the gardener'. My bf has never done any work for us, to be clear, so in no sense did I 'run away with the gardener'.

AIO?

01/03/2026

AIO to my boyfriends text replies? Feels dismissive
My bf and me have been together for 2 years. He is giving and kind, but we have had issues in the past of him lying to me a bunch. I forgave him for a lot of things and it put a strain on our relationship, he has done his best to make mends.

I just want to keep this simple because I feel like I’m losing it. He doesn’t seem interested in the plans im making, and overall has seemed distant but I tend to overthink. He continues to be helpful and a giver but I am starting to believe that’s more about him than me.

I think it might be time to move on, is it not obvious that he lied about the siri thing? I feel anxious and sad and his thumbs up really had pushed me to the edge. I always try to fix things but I think I’m done for good. I just need some reassurance or advice…or a slap in the face if I am overreacting.

01/03/2026

AIO - Boyfriend got angry for letting a mutual friend hug me
(reposting with images)

I (36F) have been dating this guy (42M) for about 6 months. Let's call him Mylo. He is Eastern European, extremely romantic, hard-working, a little bit traditional when it comes to relationships, and he is MADLY in love with me. He wants to get married, have kids etc.

We met at the gym and train at the same time each evening.

We have a mutual acquaintance at the gym, let's call him Ivan (Ivan is married -- his wife also trains often), has been hugging me more and more, if I'm honest.

It started with handshakes/fist bumps, but now it's full on body contact hugs, which I wasn't prepared for. Yesterday, Mylo was training with his other friend, and they both watched Ivan come up to me and give me a massive hug. I wasn't expecting it to be so big, but he pulled me in.

A few months ago, Mylo saw a different guy hug me in the gym and got angry, saying that this other guy 'just wants to fck me'. But when Ivan has hugged me before, he said it's OK because Ivan has a wife.

But this time, Mylo got really angry and sent me all these text messages whilst we were still training. He was visibly angry with me in the gym. I feel like he reacted emotionally and was accusing me of things I didn't do or intend. He even came up to me whilst I was on a machine and whispered in my ear 'why don't you kiss him next time' and then walked off. He has previously admitted that he is 'possessive' in relationships. He has no issue with my female friends but always has an issue with other men.

I spoke to him before I left the gym. He was calm but emphatic that it wasn't OK.

AIO for how he responded to the hug?

*Note - English is not his first language so some of his sentences are grammatically incorrect, where he is mixing up who he is referring to (himself or the other person).

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**UPDATE** I just want to say a huge thanks to everyone who has shared their personal experience with abusive relationships. The Reddit community never ceases to amaze me -- my faith in humanity has been restored by some of the caring outreach I have received.

After reading all the comments, I have concluded:

I need to get better at setting personal boundaries and enforcing them -- your comments were a wake up call.

It's normal for a man to not want his girlfriend hugging other men, especially those which clearly have ulterior motives. I need to protect my relationships better by enforcing boundaries with other men.

BUT it was not OK how my boyfriend reacted to the hug. He was using controlling and accusatory language. A simple adult conversation could have addressed his concerns. Men like this only get worse.

-- side note: the gym hug conversation went on until 11.30pm that night, when I went to sleep. And he got angry with me for not continuing the conversation.

This is not the first time he's reacted like this. I have plenty of other stories from our short 6 months relationship. One time, I lost an earring in his car and he started saying that he 'knew the truth' and some ridiculous vague language until he finally it was about an earring that I dropped in his car. He believed that the only reason I didn't ask for it back was because he thought I had left it in 'another man's car'. I didn't even realise I had lost an earring at the time.

It's clear to me that I need to break up with him, which is a hard thing to accept because he has some amazing qualities that are really important to me and rare to find. I have recently come out of a 15 year relationship (yes I admit it was controlling and emotionally abusive, on reflection), and have been scared that I won't find anyone. But it's better to be alone than in an abusive relationship. Thank you to everyone who has helped me see clearly.

01/03/2026

AIO for insisting my friend pay gas money for our vacation trip?
My friends (23F, 24F, 26M) planned a quiet wilderness trip for New Year’s. I invited my sister (26F) to help get her mind off a breakup. I had one rule for anyone riding with me: R450 ($28) for petrol to cover a 10-hour round trip (5h there, 5h back). Everyone agreed.

From the start, my sister seemed to want a different trip. She brought an expensive festival dress and kept pushing for a New Year’s festival, even though myself, the host, and her partner were clear we wanted something low-key. She also tried to rope my friend “Kesha” into it, claiming they both wanted to party. Kesha later told me she never expressed wanting to go to a festival.

Later, I asked Kesha about the rest of her petrol money (she’d paid R150 and still owed R300). She admitted she might not even have R450 in her account. I was annoyed but kept it light and joked, “Girl, how did you expect to do this trip?” My sister jumped in, raised her voice, and accused me of being selfish for expecting Kesha (a student) to pay. I reminded her this was the only cost we agreed on and pointed out that a festival would cost far more than petrol.

The argument peaked. My sister accused me of not being mindful of Kesha’s finances while insisting that skipping petrol would give Kesha more money for a festival. I snapped and told her it was my car and petrol was the one thing I asked for, and that she was trying to play savior. She responded, “Well f**k this then, I’m not paying for petrol either. I’m going home.” We were both immature and raised our voices, but I didn't feel I said anything particularly rude beyond sprinkling the word "f**k" into my sentences out of frustration. My tone was stern but I thought my demands were fair.

Kesha ended up paying what she owed, and she and I very quickly moved past it.

I later tried to talk to my sister privately; she refused. That night still felt fine, I poured her wine, brought snacks, and we talked like normal. The next morning, she left without saying goodbye to anyone (including Kesha), leaving only a note for the host (he saw her packed up and ready to leave, and apparently when she saw him, she darted for the door.)

Afterwards, my mom sent me multiple messages calling me names and claiming I owe my sister R600 for random expenses. She even brought my recently deceased father into it. I didn’t read everything, just skimmed and deleted most of it. No one asked my sister to leave.

I’m honestly confused and hurt. Was I overreacting about the petrol thing? Both my mom and sister have blocked me everywhere, my sister has been posting about this on Instagram, and I'm left wondering if what I did really deserved this response. All my friends are on my side, but I'm struggling to see the forest for the trees.

01/03/2026

AIO or is my mom using god to manipulate me?
These messages are between me(F15) and my mom. (Sorry if the screenshots look wonky my iPhone updated and now the layout looks weird) but my mom is a recovering addict that recently completed her rehab and she also completed some parenting classes that I guess CPS made her do idk, but she wants custody back of me. This isn’t the first time she lost of custody me too. I don’t want to go back with her because I feel like it’s just too soon and honestly I don’t want to go back being her Barbie. Plus I don’t feel like I can’t really trust her especially with my kid. she lies to me a lot and even with my grandparents she told me the reason why she never took me around them was because they were racist ( I’m biracial btw). My grandparents were so pi**ed about that because that was the furthest from the truth.

she was punishing my grandparents for pressing charges on her for money she was stealing from them and they only pressed charges because she wouldn’t stop draining there savings. So I can’t look at her the same after hearing that because that messed with me a lot as a kid and did a lot to my self esteem and obviously ruined a lot of the relationship with my grandparents. I feel like I’m right here and not overreacting because I feel like I’m being reasonable but she gaslights me so much I often I think I’m wrong so AIO?

Fry up

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