GrievingMother's

12/09/2025

12/09/2025

🥀I carefully put it back, but my hands resisted
as if letting go of the object meant letting go of you again.
Sometimes it’s the ordinary things
that hurt the most Grieving Parents

12/06/2025

If December feels too loud for your grieving heart… this one is for you.

The holidays have a way of magnifying what’s missing. Everyone else seems to be decking halls, hanging stockings, planning gatherings… and you’re just trying to make it through the day with a heart that still aches.

Maybe you're quieter lately.
Maybe even simple questions like “How are you?” feel impossible to answer.
Maybe you thought you’d be “better” by now, but the ache hasn’t loosened its grip.

If that’s you—please hear this:

You are not doing grief wrong.
You are not behind.
You are not alone.

God does not need your perfectly formed words in order to draw near. He meets you in the quiet, in the heaviness, in the silence that feels too deep to explain.

As Romans 8:26 reminds us,
“The Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.”

He hears the prayers you can’t speak.

If the world feels too bright and you feel too broken, take a gentle breath. You are allowed to be exactly where you are. Emmanuel—God with us—means you are never abandoned in the quiet.

If this resonates, we invite you to read our newest blog post. It’s tender. Honest. Compassionate. A reminder that even in the silence, you are held.

Read the post here: https://hopemommies.org/when-grief-makes-you-go-quiet

12/06/2025

12/06/2025

When I talk about the person I lost, it’s not for sympathy.
It’s because remembering them is the only way I still get to love them out loud.

Some people think sharing memories means I’m “stuck.”
But truthfully…it’s how I keep their presence woven into the world.
It’s how I honor the life that mattered.
It’s how I refuse to let their story fade in silence.

I don’t post because I want people to feel sorry for me.
I post because their name deserves to be spoken.
Their life deserves to be remembered.
And my heart deserves a place to put the love that didn’t disappear when they did. 💔

11/22/2025

The holidays can be an especially difficult time of year for those who are grieving. When everyone around you seems happy and full of holiday cheer, you may want to just skip the holidays all together. The sights, sounds and smells of the holiday season can be overwhelming and the period of time leading up to the holidays can actually be worse than the day itself.
Before Thanksgiving Day, think about what might be tough and plan ahead, for example the “empty chair,” should you keep it in place or remove it from the table all together? Should the oldest child or another family member sit there now? Should you set a place in honor of your loved one? There’s no right or wrong answer, do what’s best for you and your family.
Be realistic… Don’t over schedule, you know yourself better than anyone. Set realistic goals and always have more than one plan. By having multiple plans – plan A, B and C – you can quickly move to the next plan if the previous one isn't working or becomes too difficult.
It’s important to remember that you don’t have to do things the way you've always done them. It may be a good time to start some new traditions, this doesn't mean you’re going to lose the old traditions; you can always go back to them or incorporate them again when you’re ready. Just because you've always put on a huge feast doesn't mean you have to this year, have everyone bring a dish, have another family member host Thanksgiving dinner, or go out to a restaurant this year.
Address the “elephant in the room,” by acknowledging your loved one and including him or her in your gathering by lighting a candle, making a toast in his or her honor, or sharing favorite memories and funny stories about them. It may be difficult to start these conversations but it will benefit everyone around you and help each of you heal a little bit at a time.
A wonderful new tradition is to cover the table with a plain table cloth, provide permanent markers for family members and guests to write what they’re “thankful” for on the table cloth, a favorite memory or message to your loved one, and children can have fun by drawing pictures. Bring the tablecloth out at each holiday until it’s full and then start a new one!
Remember to give “thanks” for what you had and what you still have… memories, love and feelings in our hearts can never be taken from us unless we let them. This year give thanks that the grief you feel is based on the enormous love you've shared!~Barbara 11/21/12

10/20/2025

The days have come, the years have gone,
But still my heart can’t move along. 💔
Each dawn arrives, yet shadows stay,
It hurts the same as that first day. 🌧️

The red bird sings, your spirit near,
Its song brings comfort, soft and clear. 🐦
I whisper love into the breeze,
And feel you linger through the trees. 🌿

The world goes on, its colors fade,
Each smile I wear feels softly made.
I try to laugh, but tears still fall,
For you, my love, my all in all. ❤️

If time could heal, I’d let it flow,
But pain’s the proof of love I know. 💫
You live within this aching chest,
Where grief and love together rest. 🌹

So when I cry, it’s not for pain,
But missing you again, again. 💭
No passage dulls, no years undo—
My heart still beats remembering you. 🕊️

— Tears of Memory

10/05/2025

Did you know that your baby's DNA lives in your bloodstream years after birth and in your brain for the rest of your life? It's called fetal-maternal chimerism. Mama and baby are connected always and forever.

08/30/2025

National Grief Awareness Day is a time to honor and remember those we have lost and to acknowledge the profound impact of grief on our lives. While grief is a universal experience, each person’s journey is unique. It's a path that can feel overwhelming, but tools can help us navigate it one day at a time. The "Reflect, Reframe, Renew" framework offers a gentle guide to help you find moments of peace and healing amidst the pain.

Reflect: Take a moment to sit with your feelings. Reflection is about acknowledging your loss without judgment. It’s a chance to honor the memories you hold dear and to allow yourself to feel the sadness, anger, or even joy that may arise. This isn’t about dwelling on the past, but about creating a space to truly see and understand the landscape of your grief.

Reframe: Grief often changes our perspective. The reframe step is about finding a new way to view your experience. It's not about replacing the loss, but about shifting your focus from what is gone to what remains. This could mean finding a new purpose in your life, celebrating the legacy of your loved one, or finding gratitude for the time you had together. Reframing is an act of resilience—choosing to find light even when a shadow has been cast.

Renew: This final step is about moving forward. Renewal means finding ways to re-engage with life, to find joy, and to nurture your well-being. This can be as simple as a walk in nature, reconnecting with a friend, or starting a new hobby. It’s about creating new memories while cherishing the old ones. Your grief journey will always be a part of you, but renewal is a reminder that healing is an active process, and that it’s possible to grow and find new meaning.

On this day and every day, be kind to yourself. Your grief journey is valid, and you don’t have to walk it alone. Remember the love, and allow yourself the space to reflect, reframe, and renew. 🌼🦋
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