12/30/2025
At 40, she defied her tyrannical father, eloped with a younger poet, and wrote "How do I love thee?"—but Elizabeth Barrett Browning was far more than a love story. Born March 6, 1806, near Durham, England, Elizabeth Barrett was the eldest of twelve children in a wealthy family whose fortune came from Jamaican sugar plantations—built on the backs of enslaved people, a fact that would later haunt and radicalize her. From earliest childhood, Elizabeth was extraordinary. By age 8, she was reading Homer in original Greek. By 11, she'd written an epic poem. By 14, her father privately published her work "The Battle of Marathon"—a remarkable achievement for a Victorian girl when most women received minimal education. But at 15, everything changed. Elizabeth suffered a spinal injury (accounts vary on the cause—possibly a horseback accident, possibly illness) that left her in chronic, agonizing pain. For the rest of her life, she would be partially paralyzed at times, confined to her room for years, dependent on laudanum (o***m tincture) to manage the pain. Most people would have been crushed. Elizabeth wrote. Despite being bedridden, suffering, and addicted to morphine, she produced poetry that would make her one of the most famous writers of the Victorian era. In 1838, she published "The Seraphim and Other Poems." In 1844, "Poems" brought her widespread critical acclaim. She was considered for the position of Poet Laureate (which ultimately went to Tennyson). She was internationally famous. But her personal life was suffocating. Her father, Edward Barrett Moulton-Barrett, was a tyrant. He forbade any of his twelve children to marry—not just Elizabeth, all of them. He controlled every aspect of their lives with iron authority. Anyone who disobeyed was permanently disowned. Elizabeth, age 39, bedridden, financially dependent, morphine-addicted, seemed trapped forever. Then, in January 1845, a letter arrived from fellow poet Robert Browning:"I love your verses with all my heart, dear Miss Barrett..."Robert Browning was an established poet, six years younger than Elizabeth, and completely captivated by her work. What began as literary admiration became something far deeper. Over the next 20 months, they exchanged 574 letters—one of literature's great correspondences. They fell profoundly in love through words before they even met properly. There was a problem: Elizabeth's father would never permit it. He'd disown her immediately if she married anyone—let alone a younger man with less money and no social position. Elizabeth faced an impossible choice: obey her father and remain trapped, or risk everything for love and freedom. On September 12, 1846, Elizabeth Barrett, age 40, walked out of her father's house for the last time. She met Robert Browning at St. Marylebone Parish Church. Only her maid attended. They married in secret. A week later, they fled to Italy before her family discovered the elopement. Her father never forgave her. He returned every letter she sent, unopened, until his death. He disinherited her completely. She never saw him again. It broke her heart. But she never regretted her choice. In Florence, Italy, Elizabeth's life transformed. The warm climate improved her health dramatically. She had a son, Robert Wiedemann Barrett Browning (nicknamed "Pen"), in 1849—a child doctors had said she'd never survive carrying. And she wrote some of the most beautiful love poetry in the English language. "Sonnets from the Portuguese" (published 1850) contained 44 sonnets written during her courtship with Robert. The title was deliberately misleading—they weren't translations but original poems. Robert had called her "my little Portuguese" after a poem she loved, so she used the name as cover for publishing such intensely personal work. Within that collection is Sonnet 43, which begins: "How do I love thee? Let me count the ways..."It remains one of the most quoted love poems ever written. It's read at weddings worldwide. It's on greeting cards, in movies, in popular culture. Those eight words have echoed for over 170 years. But if Elizabeth Barrett Browning were only remembered for love poetry, we'd be missing most of her story. Because her pen wasn't just for romance—it was a weapon against injustice. "The Runaway Slave at Pilgrim's Point" (1848) was a searing anti-slavery poem, told from the perspective of an enslaved woman who kills her child rather than see it enslaved. This was radical—and deeply personal. Elizabeth's own family wealth came from plantation slavery. She wrote against her own economic interests because it was right. "The Cry of the Children" (1843) exposed horrific child labor conditions in British factories. Victorian children worked 16-hour days in coal mines and textile mills. Elizabeth's poem was so powerful it contributed to labor reform legislation. "Casa Guidi Windows" (1851) and "Poems Before Congress" (1860) championed Italian unification and independence. She and Robert lived through revolutionary times in Florence, and Elizabeth threw herself passionately into Italian politics, supporting freedom from Austrian occupation. And then there was "Aurora Leigh" (1856).This 11,000-line verse novel told the story of a woman artist struggling for independence, education, and recognition in a society that wanted women silent and ornamental. It addressed r**e, illegitimate children, women's work, marriage, art, and independence—topics considered shocking for Victorian literature. It was controversial. It was criticized. And it outsold almost every other poem of its era. Elizabeth Barrett Browning wasn't just writing pretty verses. She was using poetry to fight slavery, child labor, women's oppression, and political tyranny. In an era when women were expected to remain quiet and domestic, she was shouting about injustice. Her marriage to Robert remained a love story for the ages. They were genuinely devoted—intellectually matched, mutually supportive, deeply in love. Their Casa Guidi home in Florence became a gathering place for writers, artists, and revolutionaries. But Elizabeth's chronic illness never left her. The lung problems that had plagued her since youth worsened. On June 29, 1861, at age 55, Elizabeth Barrett Browning died in Florence—in Robert's arms, just as she would have wanted. Robert never remarried. He was devastated. She was buried in the English Cemetery in Florence, and her tomb became a pilgrimage site. Her Legacy: During her lifetime, Elizabeth was possibly more famous than Robert. She was read worldwide. She influenced countless poets, including Emily Dickinson, who kept Elizabeth's portrait on her wall. After her death, her reputation declined (Victorian sentimentality fell out of fashion). But in the 20th century, feminist scholars recovered her work and recognized what had been overlooked: Elizabeth Barrett Browning was a major poet whose political work was as important as her love poetry. Today, she's recognized for:
Revolutionary feminist literature ("Aurora Leigh")
Powerful social justice poetry (anti-slavery, anti-child labor)
Some of English literature's greatest love poetry
Proving that chronic illness doesn't prevent greatness
Defying Victorian constraints on women
Why She Still Matters: Strength Through Fragility: Bedridden, in chronic pain, morphine-dependent—she still produced work that changed literature. Love That Transforms: Her secret elopement at 40 inspired "How do I love thee?"—proof that great love can come at any age, against any odds. Justice Through Art: She wielded poetry as a weapon against slavery, child labor, and women's oppression when it was radical to do so. Defiance With Purpose: She chose freedom over security, love over approval, truth over comfort. Elizabeth Barrett Browning lived 55 years. For most of them, she was confined by illness, controlled by a tyrannical father, and limited by Victorian society's expectations for women. She became one of the greatest poets of her century anyway. She fell in love at 39, eloped at 40, had a child at 43, and wrote revolutionary feminist literature in her 50s—all while managing chronic illness. "How do I love thee?" is beautiful. But it's not her only legacy. Her legacy is that she refused to be silenced—by pain, by patriarchy, by poverty, or by prejudice .She wrote love. And she wrote revolution. And both changed the world