10/16/2022
This festive season, recounts memories from her childhood years in Madras and what spirituality means for a generation that lives miles away from ‘home’.
As a small nuclear family of 4, we celebrated festivals with little gala and a lot of heart. Our parents were raised by their parents with mixed belief systems - our grandfathers prayed to the land, farm animals and to their vocations as gods, while our grandmothers lighted lamps, believing in a power greater than themselves and happy to assign that power to Ravi Varma’s prints of Devis, Lakshmis, Saraswathis and Parvatis.
My parents in turn took their own spin on religion and spirituality when they created a home in Madras in the 90s. They were a little more religious than my grandparents, probably a solace for people living far away from their own homes. Our mornings at home were filled with devotional songs playing on the tele. We were encouraged to remember the things most important to us that day in our minute of prayer. We wore little marks of விபூதி (ash) or சந்தனம் (sandalwood) after taking blessings from the altar before leaving home for school. My father took all that passion a little extra and strongly encouraged devotional tapes in the car ride to school.
For festivals - we mostly followed the same morning routine, maybe prayed a little longer. My parents did not teach us to sing verses in languages we/they did not understand. Instead we were encouraged to talk to the almighty and share our deepest desires. We spent a little extra time doing that on these days. We gave an offering of our new clothes to the gods and wore them on days like deepavali and pongal.
This whole concept of do what you will, but spend some time reflecting on your relationship with this power, I suspect, came from their parents.
Years later, I would move countries multiple times building and rebuilding a home - shaping my sense of the word. I would marry someone who comes from a very similar understanding of this part of life. We would have a baby and start wondering what religion or spirituality mean to us.
(To he continued tomorrow..)