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Frank 2018, Mendocino, CA (2025)

10/13/2025

So, I'm a 25 yr old, doctor by profession Right now, I'm working, i am in a relationship with a guy, a little senior from me,
we have been together for almost 4 months. He claims he's insanely in love with me, and I also am attracted to him. This is my first relationship. I've never been in a relationship before, I was always a studious girl. avoided getting into relationships and all for 5 years,
I never talked to boys and all,
but i realized i dont want arrange marriage ,i dont want to marry a stranger so when this guy approached me , i was skeptic at first but gradually opened up after gauging his seriousness , we would talk on and off in the beginning but now i am also involved
money and status dont really matter for me
but in order for a boy to be accepted by my parents ,he has to be from financiallys stable family But the problem is that he, financially, he is a little below from us. his family is also a little big. they are 7 siblings Plus, I've been living in a nuclear family, so I don't know how it's gonna turn out to be.
I haven't talked to my family about him yet, but I'm a little scared.
cuz i know my parents wont like him for me and i am scared
for these past 3-4 months, he's been very supportive, about my studies
i trust him fully ,that he will care for me in future
but smtimes i think what if if i am being too naive
cuz i am trusting his potential
but generally speaking
i genuinely like him and want to be with him despite all the overthinking
Generally, we don't fight at all. We both respect each other, and we talk quite regularly.
plus he always says he loves me alot like obsessively
but still don't know if I'm doing the right thing
i have lived a very comfortable and u could say luxurious life .
Wth him i dont know if i will still have this
even if i dont have the comfort ,i am still willing to be with him
I'm not materialistic person. These things won't matter, but from here and there, I keep hearing that things we consider trivial before marriage, or before both families engaging, that become quite big matters later. So I get scared a little.
regarding rishta and hetting families involved
we both have some things to take care of and then he will come with rishta
my parents dont know yet about him
any suggestions about what should i do ?
i have no plans of giving up on him
no matter what happens
but i ams cared of the challenges that i am gonna face ahead.

10/11/2025

Hey I'm 19 years old of age and Im here on behalf of my brother whose 25. When he was at the age of 22 he was accused of molesting and r**e, by my 17 year old sister. Apparently she said that her childhood growing up. My brother would try these different experiments on her and even have in*******se with her against her will. Apon hearing this my parents were furious and opened a case against their own son. I included was surprised of these accusations as I didn't have a clue about them. The worse part about it was that he was detained and jailed shortly after this for r**e. With his trail being one sided. At some point I believed these accusations because they were even backed up with pictures of bruises from one of his experiments with her. After 2 months she told us that she was pregnant and being that we had known what caused this pregnancy my dad wanted a traditional ceremony for the baby because it was born in such taboo circumstances. On the day of the ceremony. We saw my sister a bit too emotional than usual and we figured that it might've been the memories of past events coming affecting her so my mother came to comfort her but as she approached her she kneeled on her knees and confessed that all she had accused my brother of is all a lie. She was doing that in fear of her parents knowing that she was having an intimate relationship with her boyfriend
This emotionally crushed me and majorily crushed my parents. Because their son whom was innocent all along had been wrongfully accused, looked upon badly and even disowned by my mother. His girlfriend who has been with him since the age of 16 broke up with him. His friends disconnected with him because they didn't want to associate themselves with a ra**st, not only that my brother has changed mentally. When he was released we tried by all means to explain ourselves but this experience has took a mental toll on his health. My sister was banned from ever visiting the family home ever again. My brother did want to press any charges for false accusations and didn't want anything to do with us after that. My parents are sick to the bone because of what they'd done to their son. 3 years later he now doing crystal, sleep on the streets and has just given on life itself. I have tried talking to and try to help him. But he has made it his goal to cutt everyone off and out of his life. The worse part about it is that he is an over achiever with 5 distinctions on his grade 12. I really don't know what to do. We try by all means to help. He's been in and out of programs and interventions. At this point we drained.

10/10/2025

I’m 26F, doing a very good job in IT, and honestly, I’ve never been in a relationship before. I always focused on my career, even though I got plenty of proposals. Relationships just never bothered me.
Now my parents and everyone are pressuring me to get married. Then I met this guy on Snapchat. He proposed nikah and treated me really respectfully. What impressed me was his positive thinking about women’s careers—that’s something I really value in a man.
At first, I didn’t take him seriously because I’ve always been scared of being used in the name of love. But later, I started taking him seriously. Then I checked his Facebook and found wedding pictures. When I confronted him, he said it wasn’t a wedding, just an engagement that ended. Still, he never told me earlier, and that raised doubts.
On top of that, he avoids talking at night and only replies on Snapchat, not WhatsApp. He says people in Australia don’t really use WhatsApp. In the beginning, he used to call me at night, but later his behavior changed.
We argued about it, and I told him I don’t want the relationship anymore. He insists he’s sincere and now wants to involve our parents. But I told him a few times I don’t trust him—I feel he’s hiding something.
Right now, I’ve asked for some time to think, but I’m confused. Should I tell my parents about him or not? And should I even trust him?

10/09/2025

What if ur wife calls u "Kutta"? Will u still stay with her? This is sm extremely load on my chest. Plz everyone, what will u do? Divorce is not option. I can't. But this has extremely disturbed my mental peace.

10/08/2025

It’s been 7 months since my marriage. My husband lives in the UK, and this was an arranged marriage. We are from a middle-class family, but my in-laws are well settled and they take very good care of me, even in the smallest of things. My husband is also very nice and takes care of me, but he has a somewhat strict nature.
The problem is that whenever I ask him for something or for money, he directly tells me to ask his mother, or he himself tells her, and then his mother fulfills whatever I need. But I don’t like taking things from his mother. I feel that he is not personally involved with me in this matter. For everything, he refers me to his mother.
I don’t have the courage to tell him that he should give me things himself or bring them to me, because his mood changes quickly. He says, “If everything is being delivered to your doorstep, then what’s the problem?”
Kindly tell me, what should I do? Should I just let things continue like this, or should I talk to him about it? I also feel scared, because before marriage he had already told me clearly that he manages all the household matters alone, and that he won’t give any sort of monthly allowance. Whether I need even a penny or up to 100k, I will have to tell his mother. If she has it, she will provide it, otherwise it’s a “sorry” from his side.

10/07/2025

Hi guys,
I'm writing to share some deeply personal thoughts and feelings that I've been struggling with, and I'm hoping to get some advice or honest perspectives from you all.
For a while now, I've held a personal philosophy that I apply only to myself: if I am not attractive, I shouldn't get married. I know this sounds harsh, but please let me explain my reasoning. As a man, I naturally desire a gorgeous and beautiful wife. However, if I were with someone I found less attractive than myself, I fear I wouldn't genuinely want to spend time with them and would come to see it as a burden. Extending this to myself, if I am not attractive, and I were to end up with a beautiful woman, I believe I would become a burden on her. I don't want to live with regret, carry such a burden, or make someone else feel trapped or pressured. This is why I apply this philosophy to myself and not to others.
I've heard and read many stories where women admitted to marrying someone less attractive, living with them, and even having children, but deep down, they weren't truly happy. The thought of my future wife ever feeling that way about me is incredibly painful. On the other hand, I've also observed women who, once financially independent, feel they no longer need men, rendering marriage pointless for them. Yet, I also hear warnings that people regret not settling down by the time they reach 40. It feels like I'm stuck in a no-win situation, unsure of what path to take.
My social life is also quite limited; I don't go out much and don't have many friends. The friends I do have are, Mashallah, all good-looking, and when we take pictures, I feel like a clear outlier, which makes me avoid going out with them. I mostly spend my time playing games or watching movies.
Honestly, sometimes I cry at night. I feel mentally exhausted and often pray that Allah takes me back early because I feel like I don't belong here. I understand that looks aren't everything, but they seem to matter so much in today's world. It sometimes feels like they matter so much that even my own parents don't fully value me. I'm not saying my parents are bad—they love me and provide for me—but I have heard harsh and disgraceful comments from them about my appearance. I believe people often speak their true minds when they are angry.
Given all this, my current plan is to not get married. However, everyone desires love, which creates a deep conflict within me. The overwhelming feelings have led me to think about su***de as a way to escape.

10/07/2025

I’m a 22 year old girl who got married in June. He’s my second cousin and my father’s choice. I was never ready to get married this early but as I’m the youngest child of my parents and as they’re old now, they wanted to see me happily married so I did however my father wanted. But now it’s so tough my husband is an orphan he borrowed money for the wedding expenses as in our culture every expense is on boys and we did a simple wedding but still he’s in huge debt and can’t afford to pay it and now they want their money back and since the very first day of my marriage he is tensed and keeps tensing me too although he loves me it was love from his side but still he can’t manage to handle his problems by his own so he keeps tensing both of us he’s the only earner in home we hardly manage the house hold expenses with his little salary . My mother bought a pretty gold necklace from her savings which she did for years for my wedding but my husband sold that too but it didn’t cost much and now since my dawats are starting due to ending of holy months of Muharram and safar, I’m so stressed because I can’t tell my mom that I’ve sold her set since then I’m hiding in home like I’m a sinner it’s getting harder day by day the stress due to debts the stress of being judged for having nothing as a newly wed girl ( in our culture women are valued by the amount of gold they wear, ye alag baat h k mere pass 1 ring b nahi abh) and now we’ve started fighting over little things because people stress him and he is helpless so I am. Life is going hard and I’m hiding like a sinner maybe I’m not too mature to deal with such things.

10/06/2025

I’m 19F and new at uni. A CS graduate from my field once messaged me, and since I don’t have online friends it felt nice to have someone to chat with about education and other informative topics , just simple human-to-human talk. Slowly our chats shifted toward religion, horror, and the paranormal. Then he started saying strange things: he can talk to ghosts, “enter” their world, and certain imprisoned entities gave him a crown like they treated him as a king. He claimed seven abilities, including seeing possible futures with restrictions, and said when he told his ex about one future, those entities punished him , something about being trapped in a void.
Out of curiosity I asked him to prove it by telling me something about my past. After 20 minutes he sent two very long paragraphs that felt copy-paste or AI-made , more personality description than real past events. Then he labelled me with a vague “desire curse,” which felt manipulative. From my side I said I don’t believe; from his side he said, “I’m not forcing you to believe , why would I lie to you?” The talk turned into an argument, both of us got rude, and I finally said I don’t want to talk anymore, so we stopped. Now I’m confused , maybe he was right, or maybe I acted in jalbazi (haste) by cutting it off. I do believe jinns exist, but seven abilities, crowns, future-seeing and punishments felt exaggerated. Was I wrong not to believe, or the right to stick with logic in 2025? Does this kind of thing actually happen with people? And he has the right reason, why would he be kidding me? He was kind of serious and this attitude taught me that maybe I did wrong to cut him off directly with that dumb reason but somehow it's just too much .

10/06/2025

hello everyone,
i am 36 yrs old male, married once but it ended in one month, there were lot of facts concealed by the girl's family, they did not tell me that she was married once before. after two nights of my marriage she told me this in a very casual way that my e-husband was not sincere with me. ab to shadi ho he chuki the to i did not made a drama of it and accepted her, but then she started blaming me that ur urge is not upto mark and you must be very thankfil that i am your wife, she had a controlling attitude and above everything she did not respect me ever in that one month. anyways what happened was a part of my fate perhaps as i did not investigate the matter properly last time and believed that she was a shy girl (as she told me that her fmaily would not allow her to talk to me before marriage) and that is why she was not talking to me before marriage, but later i came to know about all these issues and decided to relief my self from that toxic relationship. now the issue is that sometimes her words haunts me and though i am fully healthy, fit and fine person. i want to marry a girl who may understand me, become my friend first and don't expect me to be a ra #*st on first night as i am totally not ok with it. i want to enjoy the best relation of 24 by 7 with my wife and not just those 11 minutes as paulo coelho explains in his book. plz suggest me what should i check for my next life partner. or should i discuss the would be wife this issue or not.

10/04/2025

Hi
Please Dont judge or bash me
I am mother of two. My older one is seven (son) who is a big time trouble for me now a days i am done emotionally.
He is not stubborn or a bad mannered boy
He even listens to me but i dont know what it is we are might be fighting on ego grounds
like..
if He told me he doesnt want to go to school today in the night which i tried to convince k nahi bilawajh chuti nahi karty u have to go i will send your fav lunch, phr kabhi day off lelengy if needed, not tomorrow etc
subh uthty sath hi he was so angry "Apko bola ni tha , nahi jana maine? started crying yelling
tried to calm him down k masla kia h kiu nahi, than gave him biscuits as breakfast which he bought himself but wo brand ni tha jo wo roz khata hai khtm hgye thy
he denied k me aj khaoga hi ni.... i was like begging k beta kha lo , late horha he took almost 20 minutes to finish those 2 cookies 1 packet only to test my peace. nd its not about a morning its a whole day story i am straggling on all grounds
he doesnt go nd drink water himself unless i give him he will remain thirsty for 2-3 hours just because i denied giving him
esa ni hai k he doesnt do anything he is a good boy..kam bhi krwata hai help b
sometimes i feel like i am a bad mom
he complains all day k mjhy pyar ni krti mjhy goud me nahi leti meri prwah ni h which is wrong
also when i get angry because of him I also say k you r not my good bacha..i am done with you ..please just leave do whatever u want to .. go destroy your life etc because he is geting into my nerves everyday
please mothers help me how to handle him
my younger one is 3 years girl.

10/04/2025

I'm surprised if a man can live without physical intimacy in the early days of marriage
Like genuinely I want to this from males ( don't take me wrong) my husband n I broke in the frst Mon of marriage n he's not coming to pick me from my mother's place
Now after 5 months I'm surprised if he could survive without a wife for such a long time over a small thing which he created a mess due to his narcissistic nature.
He told me that he was a p**n addict as a kid and his s***m count is 10k which he said Is normal for men(if there's any doc plz guide)
I'm seriously looking for khulla but can't detach myself from him.
Help me
Psychiatrist told me he has major narcissist traits can I reverse his personality as a wife or will suffer.
Him not beating me in the frst month is his favor as he doesn't want to do that out of his dignity

10/03/2025

I'm 22(F) and in my first year of uni a classmate approached me by asking syllabus regarding questions and would ask for help in studies,
at first i didn't think much of it and helped him with exam preparations. but then he started getting too comfortable, calling me tum instead of aap. ( He's one year younger than me) I let it slide.
then he got me a gift on my birthday, which i refused to accept because in my head, he's not my friend and we're not close enough to exchange gifts. but he insisted so i accepted it and got him a similar gift for his birthday.
I just returned the favor taky ????? na rhy. We didn't talk much after that and almost 6-8 months later he confessed that he likes me.
It was a bit weird to me because we're both so young and in the middle of our degree. I don't plan to marry until I have a stable career and he said we'll grow together.
I don't like him at all. he acts childish and is very immature, has wandering eyes tries to flirt with girls in cafeteria.-- which is none of my business but i don't like men like that.
i politely rejected him saying we should be just friends and focus on our education and career.
He now makes very weird demands. Asking to hangout, go watch movie with him, exchange pictures (not nudes) and you know boyfriend girlfriend stuff etc...
i always say no. I have clearly said it multiple times that i do not want you please leave me alone. but he keeps on doing it.
Later He literally said that he only confessed to me because his ex gf got married and he needed a rebound.
I ghosted him bc of this and then he got passive aggressive. How do I get rid of him? I don't want him but he keeps bothering me. It's affecting my reputation in campus and my mental health as well

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