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09/09/2026

AITA for not letting guests who arrived a day early stay in the vacation home we were using?

A close family friend offered up their vacation home to my boyfriend and I and we took them up on it. We scheduled the dates with them well in advance with us scheduled to leave today. Our family friend confirmed the day several times with us, and told us since we were leaving early Saturday he was going to let another couple come Saturday midday and spend the rest of the weekend there. Ok, no problem of course.

Well, the couple arrives a day early (yesterday morning) and said there was a mixup and they got the day wrong, but since they were already here, they’d just stay in the free bedroom next to ours (we would be sharing the bathroom) and that it’d be fine. They didn’t ask if that was ok, just assumed. They also had a dog, and we have dog allergies unfortunately.

I called our family friend and told them of the mixup, that if the other couple was going to stay then alright but that we would just leave early because of the allergies and general discomfort. He was angry they showed up early and firmly told them to go get a hotel, which they did.

My boyfriend told me I was an a__hole for this and I should have just sucked it up for one night, that I’m too big on personal space and should learn to loosen up a bit. He also added that hotels in the area, especially last minute, were very expensive and we should have considered that.

AITA?

09/07/2026

Update:WIBTAH if i tell my wife's dead husband's parents to stop coming to see our daughter?

First post

So, I had a talk with my wife about her dead husband's parents, and like clockwork, they actually came this week too, i am actually writing this after they left and had a talk with my wife.

I told my wife that the frequency of these visits are becoming too much, and their comments are bothering me.

My wife really didn't realize how the comments sounded until i explained them to her.

I told her i don't mind them coming over from now and then, but that I want to spend time with her and our daughter when I am not tired from work.

She promised me she would talk to them and would make sure they gave us our space and that they would stop with the comments. She also apologized for not saying anything and that while she still loves her dead husband, she loves me and would never treat me as anything less than her husband and father of her daughter.

So yeah, I think things turned out out.

Also, i gotta vent on something that kept popping up:

The child is MY BIOLOGICAL DAUGHTER. Some of you can't read.

09/04/2026

AITA for shouting at my husband and throwing my MIL out?

I (27) have been married to my husband, (I’ll refer to him as Alex, fake name) (36M), for 7 years and we have 2 children together, a 3 yr old girl and a baby (2 wks)

A week ago my MIL (we’ll call her Kathy) recently had a pretty bad breakup with a long term partner of hers. Following this, Kathy asked Alex if she could stay with us for a while, he obliged. Alex didn’t run this by me but as this is his mother and she is going through a rough patch, I let it go.

Now here’s where the problem begins:

MIL has been constantly critiquing my parenting and even inserting herself in me and Alex’s
finances. I’m no stranger to her bashing my parenting when we would see her on holidays with my toddler but this was her first time staying with us for so long.

Some of MIL’s bashing goes as follows — baby is mainly formula fed (I want to breastfeed exclusively but my milk supply is low and I’ve been working with my baby’s pediatrician) She goes on long rants about how I’m “feeding my baby poison” and “throwing money down the drain” and how she “breastfed her children with no problems!” And that I need to stop being lazy.

As well as a thousand critiques about how I’m holding baby too much and Ill spoil her. (No amount of telling her my conversations with my baby’s pediatrician put an end to this.)

And when I make my 3 year old something quick for breakfast...

09/03/2026

Am I (25M) wrong for not thinking I cheated when my girlfriend (24F) thinks I did?

For context: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 1.5 years and have argued with each other maybe about 3 times, so we generally get along very well. We also both got cheated on in our past relationship so we made it very clear that we would be honest, open and as transparent as we can while communicating; which we were very good at and never ran into an issue with. So what happened: We were in bed watching tiktoks together on my phone.

We probably scrolled past a hundred videos before we got to a 'thirst trap' of a girl. My gf got upset, and I thought she was joking at first until I realized that she was genuinely upset. I tried to talk to her and give her reassurance that it's just algorithm based and probably showed up on my 'For you page', for an unknown reason (For those unfamiliar - just a feed of videos based on a user's interests, location, gender, etc.).

I genuinely do not view this type of content and just scroll past it when I come upon them. Then after some processing, she wanted to see my Instagram app so I opened it up and showed her, because I had nothing to hide. She went to the explore page and it was just loaded with pictures of half dressed girls and maybe one or two of my other personal interests.

This shocked both of us and she immediately started packing her things and wanted to leave. She claimed that I am emotionally cheating because she believes that...

09/03/2026

i 26F found a hair tie in my boyfriends (28F) appartement that was not mine

so my boyfriend and i been together 5 months. we don’t live together yet. usually we hang out at my place and never really at his. last weekend we went there to pick some of his stuff up to stay at my place.

i was staring at his carpet and saw something with color under the couch. it was a pink hair scrunchie.
i don’t wear those and never left it there.

i asked him what’s this? and he just looked at me with complete shock and basically didn’t say anything much for 10 minutes i told him to speak up but he didn’t.

then he told me that it just was still in his work bag that fell out from the time he was on vacation with his friend before me and a girl liked him there and gave it to him as a memory of her. he said he never liked her back and never even kissed her or anything.

he had his work bag laying open on the floor because he just came back from getting send out for the army a few weeks.

i them asked him why he had to wait so long to tell me why the shocked face he said he thought i would be angry. he told
me is was nothing and that i shouldn’t worry.

but finding this and other suspicious stuff like phone always on do not disturb
makes it seems like he’s lying to me and and im thinking about breaking up

09/03/2026

I need advice! My (34F) identical twin sister (34F) upset that I'm pregnant. What can I do?

UPDATE: Firstly, thank you to each and every one of you that replied. I have read them all. After some back to back angry messages from my sister about how she feels unimportant and taken for granted, I sent the below response with the intention of shutting the convo down.

I can't say if she has BPD as she hasn't been diagnosed nor ever seen a therapist (but has expressed she thinks it would be helpful), but she absolutely has some traits and coping mechanisms that correlate. My message to her (after the weekend) that was a mash up of responses from this thread and ChatGPT where I said she has BPD tendencies: Hi, I understand you are feeling hurt, but I need to be honest with you. This pattern, where you interpret things in the worst way and construct this narrative that I am trying to exclude you or push you away, is hurtful to me.

I am very sad that this is your immediate reaction to the pregnancy. I feel this is coming from a place of fear of abandonment and r__ection. I am worried you are trying to push me away to prove your negative, all-or-nothing thinking about me.

I do not want to turn this moment in my life into a conflict with you. This pattern is exhausting and it's beyond my ability to change this. I acknowledge communication is normally initiated by me, and I have been less proactive lately as I have had a lot going on.

However, you have not flagged this at all prior, or asked...

09/03/2026

AITA for putting my single best friends before my married ones all the time?

I am 45F and I live next door to my two best friends. We deliberately bought land adjacent to each other 10 years ago because we were sick of being chronically single and being lonely. (our properties are in a triangle)

We've since knocked down the fences on our properties so it's 3 houses with a huge garden in the middle which has a vegetable patch and a garden. We even have a small greenhouse and chickens, 2 dogs and a cat who wander around.

I consider my friends to be my family basically and it's been really nice over the last few years to have my own house but also have people to do activities with, buy stuff in bulk, go travelling etc and just have a good time. We also help each other out a lot eg if I'm working from home, I can handle the repair man or sign for parcels, have someone to drive me to the doctor and bring me food when I'm sick and vice versa but also have my own space in my house.

There are memes out there about how you need 1 person with a Netflix account, 1 person with Hulu and another with Amazon Prime but that's basically our life.

My married friend got annoyed at me the other day though because if she wants to make plans, ask a favor etc I always tell her "let me check I'm not doing anything with Alice & Claire" or "I need to check with Alice & Claire, I think we had plans for that"...

09/03/2026

AITA for refusing to invite my dad's sugar baby to my wedding?

I'm 23F.

My parents split up when I was 4 because my mom was having an affair with my dad's brother.

After that went down, my dad went back to college and got another degree, and is now working a very good job that he got through a friend and is very wealthy.

My relationship with my parents was very strained as my mom didn't let me see my dad until I was a teenager because she wanted to avoid talking to him.

In recent months, my dad has started having a "girlfriend" who we'll call Sarah, 24F. Sarah is obviously a sugar baby. She doesn't have a job and my dad pays for everything, and Sarah is always bragging about the expensive stuff that my dad buys her. All of her friends live a similar lifestyle (I have them as friends on social media). The fact that my dad is "dating" a woman who's a year older than me makes me cringe to the core.

I'm getting married to my partner 24M next summer and I've decided that I don't want Sarah at my wedding. She's not his girlfriend or partner, she's his sugar baby.

My dad obviously didn't take it well and said that Sarah is just as part of the family as my mom's new husband, and said that I don't get to decide which relationships are acceptable and which aren't. He said I'm being self-righteous and continued to deny that Sarah is a sugar baby, and accused me of trying to manipulate him. He said I have my...

09/02/2026

AITAH for refusing to take my sister’s kids to school after they’ve been bullying my son?

A bit of background: My sister (Sarah) and her two kids (Jake 14M and Mia 12F) recently moved in with us after Sarah went through a rough divorce. She’s been staying with us for about six months now, and we’ve tried to be as accommodating as possible. My wife (Laura) and I have one son, Ethan (13M). At first, everything was fine, and the kids got along okay.

Over the last few months, however, Jake and Mia have been making Ethan’s life miserable. They’ve been teasing him constantly, calling him names, and even going through his things when we’re not around. It’s been especially bad for Ethan because he’s more introverted and quiet. He’s come to us multiple times, upset about things they’ve said or done, and I’ve tried addressing it with Sarah. Her response has been pretty dismissive, saying, “It’s just normal sibling stuff. They’ll grow out of it.”

The tipping point came last week when Ethan told me that Jake had taken his school project – something he’d spent days working on – and ruined it by drawing all over it. Ethan was in tears. When I confronted Jake, he laughed it off like it was a joke. Sarah didn’t seem to think it was a big deal and said Ethan was being too sensitive. Laura was furious but tried to stay calm.

I finally had enough and told Sarah that if she couldn’t keep her kids in check, I wasn’t going to keep doing favors like driving them to school every day. I’ve been taking all the kids to school since Sarah...

09/02/2026

AITA for giving homemade presents?

My children are in elementary school. I crochet for a living and design my own patterns. Wherever they get invited to a birthday party I make a sweater for the birthday child. I've made a few unicorns, a dinosaur and a handful of super heros. I always check with the birthday child's parent for clothing size and favorite character/animal/whatever so the child will like the sweater. It's something unique and special I love doing. The recipients have always been excited and the parents love them.(I'm not sure how to attach a photo or I would show you the sweaters)

Well, this week my daughter was invited to a birthday party. A friend of mine (unrelated to the party in any way) and I were talking and I mentioned my daughter getting to go to a birthday party for the first time since all the craziness started this year. She looked me dead in the eye and said "your not making a sweater this time are you?" I was hurt and asked what she meant. She went on to say how it's really tacky to bring a hand made present and if I can't afford a present I shouldn't let my daughter go. I didn't know how to respond. They cost me 80$ to make and take about two weeks. I always enjoyed giving children something unique and special that's made just for them. Now I'm confused is it really tacky? Or is it thoughtful like I thought.

EDIT: to answer somethings commented a lot.

The sweaters aren't the only gift. There's always a toy, or...

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