12/04/2020
Guilt/forgiveness
Think of the most difficult people you’ve encountered in life, people that have proven capable of very cold and spiteful behavior, behavior that can not be justified from a rational perspective. These are the people we view as narcissist’s, coming off selfish and hateful. Narcissist’s ride the endless power trip, while providing every flimsy justification as they go. These are people that do not seem to be capable of remorse unless it serves their ego.
Narcissists often use guilt trip manipulation to justify actions and control the people around them. this is key to understanding a narcissist, guilt is the actual root of most narcissistic tendencies. People tend to believe that a narcissist is just a selfish person that knowingly hurts others to serve themselves. In actuality a narcissist is someone buried up to the waste in guilt/self hate. They are extremely insecure people that are in serious denial. That is why a narcissist seems to believe their own lies, no matter how contradicting they appear on the surface.
They are so over burdened by pain and fear that they lack the power to look at their own words or actions long enough to account for them. Deep down they are bursting at the seams with the suppression of guilt, this is what fuels pattern like behavior of a Narcissist, an endless cycle pathological lies, that can only lead to more guilt, and self hate.
If we are honest with ourselves, we can all relate to having narcissistic tendencies once in a while, and for the exact same reason as the stereotypical “narcissist”, mainly guilt, self judgment and lack of forgiveness.
The only way to cure narcissistic behavior, is by neutralizing the underlying guilt/pain that has caused it. If we wish to help those around us escape narcissism, than we must first acknowledge our own insecurities enough to forgive ourselves. This is key to understanding selfishness at its core, something that is a part of each and everyone of us.
We must understand that selfish people hate themselves, that they are not actually selfish, they are merely slaves to the egotistical mind. We must realize that selfish people are not happy, every selfish deed they inflict upon another only pushes them further into suffering. They do not control their own actions because they only respond to emotional impulses that are rooted in fear.
the sub conscious mind responds to fear in an extreme manner, it has evolved that way over time, in the interest of self preservation. Human kind was once far more vulnerable, life expectancy was short, and expectations were quite limited. The ego evolved to protect us from mortal danger, also ensuring that only the strong survived. In the current era we are free from mortal danger. Yet the modern collective ego appears to believe and defend the illusion that we stand for unity and oneness, never realizing that fighting, conflict, separation and debate, are all contradictions to the very morales it claims to stand for. This is because the ego is blind, it is just an out of date auto program that still operates the same way it did in the Bronze Age..
Once upon a time in history“fight or flight” truly served us, but now days it just turns us into scared, self loathing narcissist’s.
Don’t get me wrong, without conflict there could be no civilization, or evolution. What I am saying is that we have climbed far enough up the evolutionary ladder that our impulses have become primitive..they no longer serve our interest’s as a collective species
The cure is increased perspective, and the true understanding of forgiveness.
The ego still believes that forgiveness is just a weakness, that it is simply a vulnerability to be be avoided, in the interest of self preservation. In modern times, forgiveness is your only key to freedom. It starts with forgiveness of self, through the understanding that you are not your ego. It can only spread to others through the forgiveness of every ego that we have ever felt wronged by.
The reason forgiveness is so difficult is because your unconscious ego( fight or flight), is viewing all other egos as conscious entities, therefore requiring justice for premeditated behavior. Increased perspective only occurs through the conscious mind, you can identify the conscious mind by the fact that it does not hold grudges, it has no desire to debate or compete. The conscious mind is pure love and wisdom, free from regret.
If you don’t understand by now then your sub conscious mind has wasted a normal amount of your time, reading words that have no chance at reaching anything real in your mind
No love lost
