06/11/2026
“Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers.” — Psalm 1:1
Bad friends will reproduce WHO THEY ARE inside of YOU—and the same things that capture them, capture you, your marriage and YOUR LIFE.
THE WRONG VOICES WILL:
Harden your heart.
Make divorce seem like the best option.
Give you reference points for separation.
Strengthen your self-righteousness
And they will call it “support.”
Set Godly standards with those who “mean well” but want your marriage to end.
GOD IS TRYING TO:
Restore you first.
Then restore your marriage.
Then restore what flows through it.
IF YOUR CIRCLE IS SAYING ANY OF THESE THINGS IT IS TIME TO AUDIT YOUR FRIENDS AND THOSE SURROUNDING YOU IN THIS SEASON:
“Run and sign those papers.”
“You’ve done your part, now it’s on them.”
“God wouldn’t want you to suffer like this.”
“If they really loved you, they’d be back by now.”
“It’s not fair to wait around while they’re living life.”
“They don’t deserve another chance.”
“They’re never going to change.”
“You’re better off starting over.”
“A real man/woman wouldn’t treat you like that.”
“Once a cheater, always a cheater.”
“You’re wasting your time.”
“There’s someone better out there for you.”
“Your kids will be fine—you don’t have to stay in this.”
“You’re too good for them.”
“You’ve suffered long enough.”
“You deserve to be happy.”
“Move on before they do.”
“They need to prove themselves before
you think about reconciliation and growth.”
OR...
“You need to put yourself first.”
“Marriage shouldn’t be this hard.”
“God will bring you someone new.”
“God wouldn’t expect you to wait this long.”
“Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to stay.”
“You don’t need to suffer to prove your love.”
“If they wanted to be with you, they’d be here.”
“They made their choice, now you make yours.”
“Let them go, and if they come back, it was meant to be.”
“If they were serious about change, you’d see results by now.”
“Why are you standing for someone who isn’t standing for you?”
“The righteous choose their friends
carefully, but the way of the wicked
leads them astray.” — Proverbs 12:26
When my marriage was broken, I had:
COUNSELORS who told me, “Divorce him today, and take these pills for depression.”
FRIENDS who made lists and said, “He needs to these things before you two work on the marriage again.”
SPIRITUAL LEADERS who said, “He needs to prove himself or you need to leave before the damage gets worse.”
OTHERS betrayed me & told him, “Get rid of her—she won’t submit to us and she’s the Jezebel.”
EVEN OTHERS who said, “Eff him, this is how marriage works.”
I WAS BLIND TO IT. But the Holy Spirit wasn’t.
“There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.” — Proverbs 14:12
Within 2 years, God delivered us from:
False friends
False teachers
False prophets
False covenants
False community
And in the process He used my husband to lead us out of a stronghold of falsehood, false covenants and into a new season of blessing and dominion.
God didn’t fail me...
He replaced everything that was lost and recompensed us for the years stolen.
HE RETURNED TO ME:
My daughtership.
My husband (as a son of God).
My marriage and my family.
Righteous relationships.
Upright leaders.
Brothers & sisters in Christ.
A stable, Godly community.
“The Lord is my shepherd; I lack nothing.” — Psalm 23:1
Satan uses fear, anxiety, rejection, and abandonment to keep you trapped in counterfeit relationships.
If you feel vulnerable, alone, or afraid of what’s next...
THAT is the enemy trying to keep you TRAPPED.
He knows:
If you stay trapped, your heart will harden.
If your heart hardens, your faith will die.
If your faith dies, your future does too.
God wants you to walk in freedom—
BUT IT STARTS WITH OBEDIENCE.
“Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the
devil, and he will flee from you.” — Ja 4:7
WIVES. IT’S TIME TO PUT YOUR CIRCLES IN THE REFINER’S FIRE.
Yep. That’s right.
If they can’t withstand the fire, they were never supposed to be there.
“Each one’s work will be clearly shown [for what it is]; for the day [of judgment] will disclose it, because it is to be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality and character and worth of each person’s work.” — 1 Corinthians 3:13 (AMP)
Drop the distractions.
Silence the counterfeit voices.
Surround yourself with Godly counsel.
Stand for what HE is building.
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