08/13/2025
I was incredibly moved by Sir Anthony Hopkins film: THE FATHER. I related so much to it because my own grandmother and step- suffered with dementia.
The Father is a 2020 psychological drama film. The Father received six nominations, including Best Picture; Hopkins won Best Actor and Zeller and Hampton won Best Adapted Screenplay. Since then, it has been cited as one of the best films of the 2020s and the 21st century.
To watch the film: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sm61zhHj73w
Let go of people who are not ready to love you.
This is the hardest thing you will ever have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing.
Stop having difficult conversations with people who don’t want to change.
Stop introducing yourself to people who are not interested in your presence. I know your instinct is to do your best to be liked by those around you, but it’s an impulse that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health.
When you start fighting for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you there.
It doesn't mean you have to change who you are, it means you have to let go of people who aren't ready to go with you.
If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you dedicate your time to, you are not doing yourself a favor by continuing to offer them your energy and life.
The truth is, you’re not for everyone and not everyone is for you.
This is what makes meetings with people you have friendship with or mutual love so special. You will know how valuable it is because you have experienced what it is not.
The more time you spend trying to be loved by someone who isn’t capable of, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of that connection with someone else.
There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet you, at your level of interest and commitment.
The longer you engage with people who use you as a pillow, background option, or therapist for their emotional healing, the longer you'll detach from the community you desire.
Maybe if you stop showing up, they won't look for you.
Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end.
Maybe if you stop sending messages, your phone will go dark for weeks.
That doesn't mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing that sustained it was the energy that only you gave to maintain it.
This is not love, this is attachment. Wanting to give a chance to those who don't deserve it!
The most precious thing you have in your life is your time and energy, as both are limited. What you devote your time and energy to will define your existence.
When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, activities, places or situations that don't suit you.
You will come to realize the most important thing you can do for yourself and everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.
Make your life a safe haven, where only people "compatible" with you are allowed.
You are not responsible for anyone's rescue.
It’s not your responsibility to convince them to improve.
It’s not your job to exist for people and give your life to them!
Because if you feel bad, if you feel obligated, you will be the root of all your problems because of your insistence, fearing that they will not return the favors you have granted.
It is your sole obligation to realize that you are the master of your destiny and to accept the love you think you deserve.
Decide that you deserve true friendship, true commitment and complete love with healthy and prosperous people.
So you wait and see how everything starts to change.
Anthony Hopkins
Check out this article about Anthony Hopkins in THE FATHER:
https://blogs.timesofisrael.com/anthony-hopkins-the-father-and-my-father/
