11/14/2023
11/14/2023
Words the Lord has been sharing with me:
About the Marriage; The husband’s role… The Lord reminded me that in my small prospective I was unable to see the value in my husband and his role in my life and the lives of our children.
He shall lay down his life for his wife, Or to Love his wife as Christ loved the church. I’m reminded about something I heard a man say to his daughter one time on the phone. He said, “I love you kid, as much as Christ loved the church”.
I’m not gonna lie I was mad, I thought how dare you, how ignorant can you be.
And Today the Lord is reminding me, we think to lay down one’s life is to die…. But that is not it at all. Christ hasn’t asked us to die a physical death to follow him…. If anyone was ignorant in that conversation it was me.
The very thing Christ is asking all of us to do corporately is the same individually and in a marriage.. DIE TO SELF. We (the church) put all this pressure on marriages and husbands, especially; I’m sure they feel like they can never be enough, do enough, make enough etc. No wonder they have left the church.
Ladies if you have a man who loves God, and constantly puts his life, his ambitions, his plans, his feelings, his fill in the blank, on the back burner for you, and his family; CELEBRATE HIM!!
Repent to the Lord, and him.
I know, he’s not serving the way you think he should, or praying as often as you, or whatever…. It doesn’t matter. He loves God, and he is serving you and his family unselfishly, looking for nothing in return. This is enough, how can I say that? Because God’s Grace is Sufficient, and because he (your husband) is already fulfilling the mandate God set on him to do.
1 Peter3:7
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
1Peter 4:8
Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.
Lets go ahead an address this… UNEQUALLY YOKED.. what does it say… with unbelievers… not people who are at some spiritual level seeing eye to eye all the time. So many times people get in and out of relationships because they say “we aren’t equally yoked” but do you both believe? Do you love each other and God? Yoked means to be joined together… how many are joined (YOKED) with the world/unbelievers? It’s your boat, float it how you want to, I’m just saying that’s not what the word says.
I’ll go back to the scripture above LOVE COVERS A MULTITUE OF SINS. Paul also tells us that should you already be married to an unbeliever there is an answer for that too.. see 1 Corinthians 7:12.
2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
I sometimes forget that my husband has far more to teach me than I realize, and it’s not by a book or some fancy revelation. Its by simply doing what God already put inside of him…. To lead, to provide, to protect, to love unconditionally at his core. The same grace that God gives me in ministry relationships, in preaching or whatever God has called me to, it’s the same grace God has given him to be my husband, to work relationships, to be a Father, and whatever God has called him to.
Ever wonder why your husband can speak something or pray something and it seems like God answers it right away? I have; and it’s because of this verse… He is already doing what he is supposed to, therefore his prayers are not hindered. When your house is in its proper order God will bless it, and He will also protect it.
Isaiah 62:5
For as a young man marries a young woman, so shall your sons marry you, and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you.
Ephesians 5:33
However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
May we be a people who come to others with THEIR best interest at heart, and NOT OUR motives, or what can you do for me attitudes.
Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
Mark 10: 6-9
But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Become one flesh with your spouse, how? Die to self, their best is your best. We live in this dual world where both are out of the house, and both have all these responsibilities, and we forget that we are 1… Some would disagree and that’s ok, I always leave room for that, but…. Becoming one isn’t something you do Monday through Friday after 5. It’s an everyday, intentional thing that we commit to. Notice is says “THEY SHALL BECOME” it’s a becoming not an automatic… but the result is ONE-NESS, Blessing, and Fruit!
I’m not here to condemn or to say there is a one size fits all, but I do think that the Lord is about to do something in Men, and I want to be supportive of them and encourage them not a nag them, or someone setting some standard that I; myself could never live to.
I pray this helps someone.
D.
~Let God be God~
