07/03/2026
I wasn't sure about posting but I love my friend and she did nothing wrong here, I hope she gets away from this guy soon, it sounds like he wants kids ASAP and I'm obviously worried for her. This turned out pretty long because it's a list of all the madness, and might need a trigger warning for abusive behavior.
I knew going in that he is emotionally abusive, but I wanted to be part of the wedding because I worry that he's isolating her from people who care about her.
The wedding venue itself was awesome, if it were a party it would have been great except for him, and as far as I know she put all the effort into getting it together. She was absolutely stunning as a bride in an amazing form-fitted vintage dress (she's gorgeous with an awesome body, important for his insults later.)
So here's a sample list of the things the groom did, because I'm sure there is stuff I don't know about:
Before the wedding, he was not ok with her being walked down the aisle. Refused to stand at the end of the aisle, instead trying to insist that she needed to walk first alone and wait for him, so that he could walk down the aisle last and have a grand entrance that was about him. They apparently compromised because they walked down the aisle last, together. This alone could be a subversion of gender expectations, if not for a history of emotional abuse and what was to come.
He also stated before the wedding that the wedding weekend was "about [him] and the boys."
She was excited to get her nails done, but when she showed them to him he said they didn't look good and wouldn't match her outfit (they were a neutral color that did match.)
During the rehearsal, he gave no input, instead sitting down and shrugging.
During the first look photos before the ceremony, one of the first things he said to her was that she didn't look good, that her makeup and hair did not
