01/02/2025
💫when we’ve experienced childhood trauma, our brains become wired to seek safety, even in unsafe places.
💫We learn to tolerate p*in, hoping we can change others to feel loved and secure.
⭐️ This survival strategy stems from early experiences where we had to adapt to inconsistent care or affection.
🌟 Instead of recognizing harmful situations, we often try harder to win love—believing that if we can change someone’s behavior, we’ll finally be safe and valued.
💫This is often the inner child running our dating life, driven by old wounds rather than a secure adult self.
⭐️The inner child seeks validation and approval, trying to fix others as a way to heal past wounds. But the shift to a secure adult self is about changing our own responses, not others’ behavior.
🌟The secure self recognizes that love cannot be earned through convincing or chasing; it must be given freely, without manipulation or conditions.
But imagine this...
💫Feeling so rooted in your self-worth that someone’s criticism or withdrawal no longer makes you question your value.
⭐️Having healthy boundaries where you accept people’s limitations while deciding how much space they take up in your life.
🌟Learning to fully trust yourself, creating a loving and fulfilling relationship with you first.
💫Attracting a healthy, aligned partner capable of deep love—because you’ve built a solid foundation of self-trust and self-worth.
💫If you’re ready to take the next step and delve into the depths of inner healing, book a personalized 1:1 session with me.
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