
05/20/2025
There was a time when we thought we would be the final, safe place for him. His adoptive home after a long, difficult journey.
We were ready to stand by him, to help him heal from his deep struggles, and fight to see him restored and happy. He was our son, part of our family, a brother to our kids.
But, he was also a brother to four other amazing children who weren’t placed in our home. I couldn’t forget that. Even though we loved him so much, we knew, deep down, that he needed to be with his siblings — the ones who looked like him, spoke like him, and understood him in ways we couldn’t. He needed them as he grew older. So, when the chance came for him to be adopted with all his brothers, we had to let go.
Letting go hurts more than anything. It’s what scares so many people about fostering. It’s the reason I hear when someone says they could never foster — they’d get too attached.
For a long time, Steven and I felt the same way. We couldn’t imagine loving a child, giving everything for them, and then having to let go. Honestly, it’s heartbreaking.
But, if we hadn’t said yes, if we hadn’t opened our home, if we hadn’t been willing to share in the pain, we would have missed out on this wonderful boy and his siblings. We would have missed the chance to experience a love that sacrifices, a love that leaves you both broken and full at the same time.
Every child deserves that kind of love.
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