06/23/2025
🔥 12 THINGS YOU MUST NEVER BE AS A FATHER
A call to men who were made to lead, love, and leave a good legacy.
Fatherhood is not just a role — it's a divine responsibility.
Every child is watching, learning, and shaping their future based on the man(father) you are today.
So here are 12 things you must NEVER become — not just for your sake, but for theirs.
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1. A LIAR
Your words are seeds. Don’t plant deception.
When your children catch you lying — and they will — they’ll lose trust in your voice and may repeat your mistakes. Speak truth, even when it costs you something.
2. AN ABSENT MAN
Presence matters more than presents.
Don’t just pay the bills — be in the moments. Be the voice that prays with them, the hands that guide them, and the heart that listens. Never delegate your role as a father... stop giving their mothers gifts, money to give to them.
3. A DRUNK
If alcohol owns your peace, it’ll destroy your home.
You can’t build strong children with shaky hands and a blurred mind. Walk in clarity, live in dignity.
4. A CHEAT
Honor your marriage.
Infidelity is a bomb that explodes generations. Be faithful not just in public, but in your thoughts, in your texts, and behind closed doors. Be a covenant keeper.
5. A TYRANT
Fathers are not bosses — they’re builders.
Don’t bark orders and expect loyalty. Lead with humility. Earn their respect by showing them grace, not fear.
6. A BULLY
You’re not raising robots. Don’t demand blind obedience through threats or fear.
Apologize when you're wrong. Discipline with love, not with fists or fury.
7. A WIFE-BEATER
Nothing justifies violence against your wife — nothing.
Even if the kids don’t see it, they’ll feel it. Your daughter will normalize it. Your son will repeat it. Be a protector, never a predator.
8. A MONSTER
If your children hide when they hear you at the door, something is broken.
Be the kind of father whose presence brings peace, not panic. You were made to comfort, not to control.
9. AN ABUSER
Child labor, hunger, humiliation — these are silent scars.
Don’t destroy your children’s spirit by neglect or abuse. They’re not burdens. They’re blessings.
10. A MOLESTER
This should never even need to be said — but it must.
Any man who violates his own child is no father at all. It’s evil. It’s criminal. And it is punishable before God and man.
11. IRRESPONSIBLE
You can't claim the title of "father" and abandon your post.
If your wife is doing it all while you chase comfort, you're not a partner — you're a weight. Provide. Protect. Participate.
12. A BAD EXAMPLE
Your kids will copy what you do before they obey what you say.
If you curse, they’ll curse. If you pray, they’ll pray. If you lie, they’ll lie. Be what you want them to become.
13. THE DIVINE CALL OF FATHERHOOD
Fatherhood is more than DNA — it’s a divine assignment.
God trusted you with a soul. That means He believes you can lead, love, and leave a mark.
If you've failed before, rise again. Let grace shape you into the man your children deserve.
💬 FINAL WORD: LEGACY IS BUILT IN SILENCE AND SEEN IN GENERATIONS
Being a father is not about perfection — it’s about presence, purpose, and progress.
The world may never clap for your quiet sacrifices, but heaven records every moment you chose love over anger, patience over power, and truth over convenience.
Your children may not remember every word you said —
but they’ll never forget the man you were.
So stand tall.
Lead well.
Love deep.
Because the legacy you leave…
is already watching you live.
May God bless every father fighting to do it right. 🙏👑