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Like the Desi Aunty you can come to for anything! Let’s be “bad” together.

08/05/2025

SUFFOCATED by family? 💬 Comment or DM “FAMILY” and I’ll send you my FREE mini-guide to help you!

For many South Asians, an abundance mindset is a foreign concept when you’ve never had any freedom.

So for those of chasing stability, security, and freedom, we might think that that answer is to become so independent that we don’t think we can ask for help.

But what if I told you that you can be self-reliant AND rely on others? That you can be independent and depend on others at the same time?

Needing help does not cancel out your right to autonomy.

➡️ Interdependence doesn’t mean you have to forfeit your autonomy. You get to choose with clarity, not compulsion!

If you feel suffocated in your family relationships, let’s get you back to a place where you can BREATHE AGAIN!

💬Comment or DM “FAMILY” to untangle family closeness from control!

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08/01/2025

Not everything in a relationship boils down to boundaries.

Sometimes you have needs or requests in a relationship. Sometimes these can end up looking like ultimatums.

Not all relationships deserve to be maintained. Sometimes this can end up looking like cutting people off.

Shared cultural identity doesn’t mean I know what your family is like.

You’re a grown woman. You can put on your grown woman underwear. I’m not your authority figure or your keeper. YOU are the expert on your own life!

I’m not saying it’s right. I’m not saying it’s wrong. I’m saying you’re allowed to choose. You get to break free.

If that guilt you feel is so unbearable, I’m not going to make you feel worse about it. When you’re “READY”, shoot me a DM 💌

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07/29/2025

💡This is how we begin to set emotional boundaries with ourselves!

Feelings ARE NOT facts, AND they are data points into your internal world.

Feelings can teach us a lot about how we experience the world, and what we need.

We often think that feelings are either “bad” or “good”. But the truth is that feelings don’t have a moral value—they’re value-neutral!

How you interpret and act on them matters. Ask yourself:

1. What is the purpose of this emotion? How does it benefit me?
2. What does this emotion say about me and my values that’s actually beautiful?

Not every emotion is meant to be squashed. That doesn’t mean it has to overtake your life either. Feelings are nothing to be ashamed of; it’s all about how you choose to act on them.

💬 Tell me how you’re tuning into your emotions (and what you’re trying to do differently)! 👇🏽

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07/25/2025

💬 Comment READY to set boundaries and break free! More tips below 👇🏽

Here’s the thing—I almost never explicitly talk about boundaries with clients. We rarely get to it.

And that’s because they KNOW exactly what to do, they just want to feel confident they’ll be OK doing it.

What gets them there? Patience, consistency, emotion regulation, effective communication, active listening, etc. The “boundaries” work isn’t explicit!

💡Pro-tip: when you’re feeling impulsive with your reaction, TAKE A BEAT. A 5-second pause with a deep breath can help you gain clarity with less charged emotions.

➡️Deep down somewhere, you know EXACTLY what you need to do, you just need the gentle push to get over the cultural guilt and anxiety of doing it.

Is toxic guilt getting in your way? It’s time to break free. Comment READY to break free from toxic guilt.

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07/22/2025

Trust me—you DON’T want to get a therapist who isn’t the right fit for you the first time you try therapy.

You’re spending a lot of your time, money, and resources—let’s not traumatize you before you start your healing journey.

Identifying with a therapist’s values is how you can find the right fit—the first time around. Find 3-5 therapists with shared values, and THEN look at the logistics.

So here are my beliefs and values as a South Asian Therapist:

• I still argue with my parents, AND we’ve come a long way
• I go to therapy because I’m still figuring sh*t out
• I have the “right” degrees—but I’m a guide, not an expert
• Sometimes I wish I wasn’t a therapist, AND I love what I do
• “Cultural competency” is about sensitivity, not about enabling poor behavior
• I have a life outside of therapy and it helps me be great at what I do
• There are seasons in your life when you need weekly or consistent therapy, but that doesn’t mean you always have to be in therapy
• Sometimes the BEST thing you can learn in therapy is that you gotta figure some other life stuff out first before you can start healing
• You’re not always in the right place in your life for therapy and that’s OK

ALSO…sometimes a South Asian therapist is NOT the right fit for you. Shared cultural identity ≠ shared values.

My hope for everyone (including therapists across ALL backgrounds) is that we stop identifying so much with our work.

Toxic productivity dictates that if we’re passionate about our jobs, we must live and breathe it 24/7 and sacrifice our needs. I’m here to remind you that you can love what you do AND have a life outside your job. You can work to live, you don’t have to live to work.

🙌🏽 Did this make you go, “YES!”? Tell me how you’re rediscovering your life outside productivity ⬇️

And get to know me more at Misfit Chaat House! Enter the Chaat House at my link in bio 🏡

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