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Like the Desi Aunty you can come to for anything! Let’s be “bad” together.

01/14/2026

You’ve been conditioned to feel bad about things that aren’t actually bad for you.

You may have experienced:

→ Feeling ashamed about your interests
→ Performing a role to appease people
→ Not being your true self around people
→ Walking around with a label on your forehead
→ Losing people if you don’t do what you’re told

The sad part? Sometimes the expectations people inside the culture and outside of the culture have are the same

These expectations may be rooted in internalized racist and sexist perceptions of what it means to be YOU.

Therapy can help with living a values-driven life based on what YOU want, not what others want for you.

➡️ Exhausted with these unrealistic expectations? I’m accepting new clients! Visit my link in bio to book your free call ☎️

01/13/2026

You’re not wrong for questioning the things you’ve been told, like:

“Don’t ruffle feathers”
“Just be grateful”
“Think positive”
“We’re the hardest working minority”
“Just pray harder and it will go away”
“But what will people think?”

The pressure to be perfect and appease can be so infuriating and weigh heavy! These narratives reinforce that questioning what we’ve been told and feeling our feelings are “bad”.

It can be EXTREMELY hard to be in our communities sometimes when everyone wants to take, but never give. When people expect you to fit into a box of what they think a “good” Indian should be. When our families confuse love for harsh criticism.

But questioning what we’ve been told is the first step to healing. In therapy, we have to unlearn harmful narratives before we relearn new ones.

➡️ Ready to unpack how these narratives impacted you? I’m accepting new therapy clients in NY/NJ, CA, and FL! Book your free intro call at my link in bio ☎️

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01/12/2026

When we say that misogyny is “just cultural”, then what are we REALLY saying about the culture? And what does it say about our expectations of women in our culture?

Healing as a woman of South Asian descent goes beyond, “Log Kya kahenge?”

You have to reckon with people calling you “selfish”, “self-hating”, or “whitewashed” from both men and women inside and outside the community.

ALL because you’re making deeply personal decisions for yourself.

The constant attacks on South Asian women and our autonomy cannot be fixed with just challenging negative beliefs in therapy. These attacks agitate our nervous systems and completely destabilizes us. Telling yourself to “stop thinking about it” only increases rumination.

➡️ You’re not going crazy. Tell me what other stereotypes you’re sick of in the comments 💬

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01/10/2026

Actually, I am just like the other Brown people. WE are just like other Brown people. SHARE if you agree!

We cannot “model minority” our way out of our circumstances. Fawning fascism doesn’t keep us safe; it keeps us stuck.

For many of us, we were taught that if we just work hard, we’ll have freedom and autonomy. But all that teaches us is to have control over uncontrollable circumstances. Solve unsolvable problems. It starts to feel like digging water out of a sinking boat with a hole in the bottom.

Instead of trying to fight the hole, can we acknowledge that the hole is there? Can we fix the hole for everybody and learn to swim? Can we save ourselves—and each other? Instead of fighting for a chance to be on a sinking ship?

If there’s anything I learned this year, it’s that the more we keep chasing stability, the further we get away from it. Real freedom is within us.

SHARE if you agree that we are just like the other Brown people. Spread the word 🙌🏽

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01/07/2026

What if the problem isn’t your depression?

The goal of therapy isn’t to become an emotionally perfect person. You’re not something that needs to be fixed.

There are no quick fixes to depression. That hopelessness you feel? That might just be an appropriate reaction to the times. Moving slower than typical? Maybe that’s a sign that you need to rest from constant shocks to your system.

Maybe healing doesn’t mean “fixing” you. Maybe it’s channeling that energy externally.

Is your depression the problem, or is it other people’s inability to sit with sadness?

➡️ Did this reframe describe you to a T? Tell me what resonated the most with you.

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01/06/2026

How much is shame costing you?

We all have an internal “Log Kya Kahenge?”, even if we think we’re above outdated cultural expectations.

Maybe you don’t dwell on what people think, but shame still keeps you from:
• Asking for help (because you don’t want people to think you’re weak)
• Owning up to mistakes (because you don’t want people to see you as a failure)
• Honoring your limits (because you don’t want people to think you’re “selfish” or “greedy”)

➡️ That shame you feel? It’s keeping you from feeling regulated, making sound decisions, and moving with clarity. Therapy that gets to the root can help.

🛋️ Interested in seeing if EMDR is right for you? Let’s talk. I’m accepting new clients in NY, NJ, CA, and FL. Book your free intro call at my link in bio! ⬇️

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01/02/2026

If the only reason why you want to work with me is because we share the same cultural identity, I’m definitely not a good fit for you.

It shows me you didn’t take the time to research me and my practice. You didn’t check to see if I specialize in what you need help with. If you just want to focus on culture, you can work with literally ANY Brown therapist in your area.

Culture is important, and therapy is more than just culture. Therapy is also about the WHOLE you.

According to racial identity development theory, you might be:

• Someone who only wants to work with a therapist of your identity
• Someone who never wants to work with a therapist of your identity
• Someone who doesn’t have a preference, so long as the therapist is culturally sensitive

We might refer to people in the third group as being in the integrated stage of their identity development. In this stage, you still have boundaries, but you’re practicing more cognitive flexibility. You might have more hope inhumanity and an ability to trust others.

It’s important that your request is respected, and it says a lot about your relationship to people and the world. A skilled therapist, regardless of identity, would tap into this clinical insight.

➡️ What are some things you look for in a therapist outside of identity? Tell me below 💬

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12/31/2025

Block them 🥰

I’ll never forget this one random therapist dude who kept DM’ing me his “7-figure business plan” four (4) times. In 24 hours. 4 times.

Unfortunately for him I was booked and busy seeing actual clients that day. He increased his DMs within such a short amount of time, expecting an immediate answer. I blocked him.

➡️ PLEASE practice the discernment we teach clients on the regular. Wishing you all a stable and peaceful 2026 for you personally and professionally! 🎇

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