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09/01/2026

Taking VERY CAREFUL NOTE of all the people saying “it’s not like they were 5, they were teenagers” or “15 is basically an adult” to excuse CSA. Also, in case some of you forgot, regardless of how old a person is, any s3xual activity that happens where consent is not freely given, informed, ongoing or able to be revoked IS STILL SA!! And any behaviour which uses a child for s*xual gratification is CSA and it is illegal. This world we’re living in isn’t a shock to survivors, but gosh do we wish people would wake up. •
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09/01/2026

Earlier this week I asked survivors of CSA what they wish parents and caregivers understood about victimization/survivorship. One of the most common responses I received was how difficult it is to disclose.

“My parents did everything right, always reassuring me that I could tell no matter what. But I could never bring myself to disclose because of the threats from my abuser and internal shame I had. I’m 33 and they still don’t know.”

“As kids we often blame ourselves for what’s happening, and genuinely believe WE will be in trouble if anyone finds out.”

“My abuser was my teenage sibling. I had no clue how to tell my parents. This was a complex dynamic that was impossible to navigate as a 5 yr old.”

“My abuser never actually told me not to tell. But somehow I just knew.”

⭐️ If you feel comfortable sharing, how old were you when you disclosed? What were the barriers to disclosure? Perhaps from sharing our experiences, we can learn how to more effectively encourage today’s littles to tell ❤️

Source: (London et al., 2008)
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08/30/2026

April is CSA & SA awareness month and for many, themes of accountability and remorse on the part of the people who harmed us (or the people who were meant to protect & support us) are difficult pills to swallow, knowing they may never be part of our reality. I thought this audio was so powerful and might help some survivors give themselves the closure and self-compassion they deserve. ❤️
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08/29/2026

These are educators, care staff, healthcare and mental health professionals. Folks we implicitly trust with the safety of our children, and just 2% feel educated enough to protect them from SA, spot red flags, and get them help when needed.

And this isn’t the fault of the professionals themselves, rather, the fault of the systems which de-prioritize comprehensive CSA prevention training in the educational programs.

Which is why The Body Safety Project has just opened applications for the first ever Certified Sexual Abuse Prevention Specialist programme. 10-weeks of in-depth, evidence-based content for licensed professionals and eligible students working with children and youth. This programme aims to:

✅ Cultivate knowledgeable and trusted leaders in the CSA prevention space
✅ Impart the skills to educate children, families and colleagues on topics related to CSA within the scope of your practice
✅ Help you incorporate best practices into your work and organization
✅ Foster opportunities for your community to learn from YOU about CSA prevention & response

Link in bio for more information and to apply. Applications close April 10th. Limited spots available.

Source: Centre for Research on Violence Against Women & Children
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08/28/2026

Of course kids need to understand the importance of being cautious around people they don’t know. But stranger danger cannot be treated as a comprehensive solution since kids are more likely to be abused by people they know and often trust.

Instead, we should teach kids to identify unsafe behaviours in all people and trust their gut when something feels off. This includes strangers AND people they know and love.

Want some resources to start these conversations at home? Check out The Ultimate Body Safety Bundle! Link in bio ❤️
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08/27/2026

Your trauma is valid, even if:
💛 it happened a long time ago
💛 you don’t remember all or parts of it
💛 you didn’t tell anyone about it
💛 people didn’t believe you
💛 it doesn’t affect your life as much anymore
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Video sources: (McEwen, 2007; Felitti et al, 1998)
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08/25/2026

I get messages like this all the time and usually shrug them off. But today I decided to stick up for myself and those who know how important this work is. If you value the importance of CSA prevention, please leave a supportive comment to show these folks that THEY are the weird ones for being so bothered by our advocacy, not us. ❤️
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08/24/2026

Adult survivors of CSA know this all too well. You spend your childhood and adolescence trying to survive and make sense of the abus3 you endured. Finally as an adult, you work up the courage to confront your abus3r, and they deny, deny, deny. “That didn’t happen.” “You’re imagining things.” “We were just playing a game.” “You’re too sensitive.” “I would never do that.” “It was just harmless fun.” “That’s how I show love.” They respond with every excuse in the playbook to minimize the abus3, erase your pain, and shield themselves from accountability. But you know what happened and that it was real. And here you are left to pick up the pieces without any accountability, apology or closure. When someone says you harmed them, in any way, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t. It is truly a second trauma to have your abus3 invalidated by the very person who caused it, and unfortunately, this is the reality of many.
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08/23/2026

🚨 So you found p**n on your child’s device…The average age of exposure to p**n is just 11 years old, with many being exposed as young as 5-7 (this is especially common when the child has older siblings or cousins who expose them to it). Here’s how to respond in a way that protects and empowers them:

🌟 No Shame, No Blame�This isn’t their fault. Kids often stumble on p**n accidentally or are shown it by others (remember, exposing a child to p**n is a form of CSA, and we never blame kids for their own victimization). Early exposure can be harmful, but shaming only adds harm. Stay calm and supportive.

🌟 Explain What They Saw�Use age-appropriate language to explain that what they saw isn’t real or healthy. Help them understand it’s not how real relationships or bodies work. 💜Reminder to save this video for later in case you need to reference this script!

🌟 Encourage Safe Questions�Let them know they can always come to you (or another trusted adult) with questions. Instead of dismissing curiosity, we should foster open, non-judgemental dialogue at home and encourage them to ask US about s3x & relationships rather than resorting to p**n. They need to see us as a better resource than the internet. Encourage your child not to watch p**n by explaining that what they’re seeing isn’t real, and that the depictions they do see can be harmful to their ideas of consent & healthy relationships. “I want to make sure you’re staying safe and learning healthy things about bodies and s3x. P*rnography is not a good or safe resource to learn from, I’m sorry you had to see that. I’m happy to answer any questions you have!”
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08/22/2026

Did you know that 99% of CSA victims report experiencing at least one grooming behaviour? If you feel comfortable sharing your experiences, I think it would be really helpful for parents and carers to hear what grooming behaviours survivors have experienced and potentially clues/ways to identify them.

🌈Ready to master CSA prevention and body safety talks but don’t know where to start? Check out The Ultimate Body Safety Bundle! Available now for just $22CAD! ⛓️in bio!

This resource bundle gives you all the tools you need to master body safety and CSA prevention for the littles in your life (resources tailored to kids aged 0-6)
With this bundle, you will get:
* CSA Prevention QuickGuide by Age
* CSA Prevention Quick Facts
* Playdates & Sleepovers Checklist
* Body Safety Posters
* Body Safety Visual Symbols
* Body Safety Workbook
* CSA Prevention Conversation Cards
* Body Safety Booklist
* Safe Youth-Serving Organization (YSO) Checklist
* YSO Advocacy Letter Template
* The BEST Method Course Access (1 hour of CSA prevention video lessons)

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