KoyaB

09/22/2026

Yesterday, as I was leaving the doctors office,
I saw a couple that I knew. What I witnessed was the wife obviously convicted of her actions, but felt in order to save their marriage, because the husband backslid she had to compromise. From that, the Lord urged me to share these words.

To the husband or wife who has watched their spouse pull away from God: don’t you pull away too.
I know it can be painful to watch someone you love become distant from the very God you both once pursued together. You may find yourself questioning, grieving, frustrated, or even tempted to say, “If they’re not doing it anymore, why should I?” You feel that you love them less if you don’t join them.
But hear me: STAY ON THE WALL.
Keep praying. Keep seeking God.Keep walking in holiness. Keep being the example. Keep loving your spouse. Keep your heart tender.

And whatever you do, don’t let your spouse’s struggle become the reason you lose your relationship with God.
Your spouse should never come between you and the One who gave you both life.

And listen…you don’t have to mistreat them because they’ve changed. Don’t become bitter. Don’t weaponize Scripture. Don’t constantly preach at them. Don’t change who God called you to be just because they are in a different place.
Love them through it. Pray for them through it. But don’t lose yourself in it.

There is something powerful about a spouse who remains steadfast. Your life can become a living testimony of what it looks like to remain faithful when circumstances are difficult.

Paul asked:
“Don’t you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? And don’t you husbands realize that your wives might be saved because of you ?” —1 Corinthians 7:16
And Peter added:
“... then even if some refused to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives.”—1 Peter 3:1

Notice the language: WON.
Not manipulated. Not forced. Not controlled.
Won.
Your steadfastness may become the very testimony God uses to draw your spouse back.
So stay in position. Stay in prayer. Stay in the Word. Stay in love. Stay on the wall.
And most importantly, stay connected to God.
Because you can love your spouse deeply without making your spouse your god.
“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ?” — Romans 8:35
Nothing. No One❤️‍🔥
Don’t lose yourself trying to hold onto someone else.
Be who God called you to be, and let God deal with your spouse. 🙏🏽

09/15/2026

Thoughts from my time of mediation tonight:

Something I’m discovering more and more in dealing with people is that some people’s perception is distorted because they are seeing through a broken lens.

You can’t always convince someone to see your heart when their lens is cracked by pain.
No matter what you do, what you say, or how intentionally you try to infuse love into every interaction, if their lens is broken, they may not see you correctly.

Every little thing feels like an attack. Every tone sounds harsh. Every differing suggestion or opinion feels like rejection. Every misunderstanding becomes an attitude. Every boundary feels like abandonment. Every correction feels like criticism.
And sometimes, WHAT YOU INTENDED IN LOVE IS INTERPRETED THROUGH THE FILTER OF WOUNDS YOU DIDN’T CREATE!!

The truth is, you may not be dealing with who they are—you may be dealing with what has happened to them.
Some people are seeing through a lens of hurt, pain, rejection, abandonment, betrayal, offense, disappointment, and bitterness. And until those wounds are healed, their perception can remain distorted.

That doesn’t mean you have to tolerate unhealthy behavior. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t establish boundaries. And sometimes, yes, you may need to take a step back and give yourself some space.

But can I encourage you to pray for them?
Pray that God gives them awareness to recognize what is happening within them. Pray for the humility and courage to admit, “Something in me needs to be healed.” Pray that they will stop blaming everyone around them for what is happening within them. Pray that they will yield their wounds to God and allow Him to heal what people cannot.
Because sometimes the answer isn’t another conversation. Sometimes it isn’t another explanation. Sometimes it isn’t cutting the person off.
Sometimes they simply need to be healed and delivered.

“He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.” — Psalm 147:3

09/01/2026

09/01/2026

Get charged up to this declaration this week! Everything about my life is going 🆙🆙🆙

07/22/2026

40. 🤎✨
Today, I celebrate 40 years of God's grace, mercy, and faithfulness.
If I'm honest, this journey hasn't looked the way I imagined. Life has thrown some major curveballs. There have been seasons of heartbreak, disappointment, loss, and moments when everything seemed to be turned completely upside down. But through it all I'm still here.
As I step into this new decade, I'm making a commitment to myself and to God to truly live. I am becoming the healthiest, happiest, strongest, most authentic version of the woman God created me to be. I am committing to walk boldly in purpose, dream bigger, and embrace the abundant life that Jesus died for me to have.
So for my birthday I am calling on my family and friends to help me celebrate in a simple but meaningful way:
🎉 Birthday Goal: $440 for 40! 🎉
I'm believing that 44 friends and family will bless me with $10 or any amount to help me reach my birthday goal by the end of the day. $koyabeard See less

06/19/2026

Tomorrow we wait. I feel strongly that there will be a great outpouring of the Holy Spirit. Join us in the upper room.

Join us Next Friday June 19th @ 6:30 PM for an evening in the presence of God!

We gather!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
We Worship! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
God Responds!🔥🔥🔥

We have a seat for you!

06/18/2026

Hey Everybody! I know it’s been a while, but Tonight you can join me and several others on Zoom for a Real Talk conversation about the book of Acts chapters 1&2.

Join Zoom Meeting
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/85107342433

Meeting ID: 851 0734 2433

05/25/2026

Going live in a few minutes! Pentecost has come, now what?

05/15/2026

There’s a difference between attending church and truly worshipping. Worship is more than music. it is surrender, intimacy, obedience, and giving God the attention He deserves. In a world full of distractions, God is still calling hearts back to Him.
Join us for Heart to Heart Worship Night ❤️
A night of authentic worship, prayer, and encountering the presence of God together. Tonight is about making room for God to move in our hearts again.
Come expecting:
✨ Powerful worship
✨ Prayer & encouragement
✨ A genuine atmosphere of God’s presence
✨ Hearts refreshed and restored
No matter where you are in your journey, you are welcome here. Bring a friend, bring your family, and come ready to worship from the heart.
“The Father is seeking such to worship Him…” — John 4:23

04/29/2026