06/22/2025
When came to me, I received several criticisms for not releasing her name. People got into my inbox, calling me opportunistic, wanting to hold on to the information for me like i was “
special” . One pharmacist told me that I was basically useless because I did not want to use the information I had to bring changes and that he would create a law on her name.
But I knew in my gut that it was not ok to release her name without her family approval. And yes her name was out there. But for some reasons, people wanted it to come from me. Thank goodness, social media Phriends like The Accidental Pharmacist and Rxcomedy
supported my stand by also not releasing her name. I remember messaging some pharmacy pages and asking , begging them to remove her name from their posts. The Anderson family had not given consent for her name to be released . They were still grieving and processing.
Weeks after her story came out, her family reached out. They were grateful that I had withheld her name. And we started to build a trusting relationship. And I cherish them so much.
Why am I telling you this? Yesterday, I mentioned that I would not share the names of the pharmacists who passed away in PA. I believed that family and friends needed to grieve in peace without this very private information, floating out there. Withholding their names did not diminish the impact of what I wanted to accomplish. It did not diminish the fact that we need to pay close attention to our professionals and their mental health.
But withholding their names keeps the grief intimate. It allows loved ones to process without the eyes of the public on them. It allows loved ones to realize how much their lives have changed without the distraction of the outside world.
After receiving a very important information tonight on one of the pharmacists, I am more than grateful to have listen to my gut. So much more grateful.
Yes let’s talk about mental health and let’s work together to bring changes. But when death is so raw and so unexpected and of this nature, let’s above all remember those who are left behind and honoring them by allowing them to be the ones to tell the story when they are ready.