Untold Confessions on Read it, 11574 Bladensburg Road, Ottumwa, IA (2026)

06/06/2026

WIBTA if I told my rude SIL that she can't view my new house?

My husband (35M) and I (35F) recently built a new house. My FIL is a professional contractor and he was the contractor for our house build. My BIL (husband's brother) is a carpenter and he also worked on our house full time during the build.

So it was definitely a family project. My FIL and BIL are both really nice people and I'm grateful for both of them. However, my SIL (34F, husband's sister), is a miserable and rude person.

There are times she has been so rude to me that family has had to step in and tell her to stop. A lot of her rude comments have been related to the fact that my husband and I don't have any kids yet (we plan to start trying for a baby next year). SIL feels strongly that women should have kids when they are in their 20's.

She has told me that I'm going to have miscarriages, my kids are going to be autistic/have down syndrome, I'm going to be an old mom etc because my husband and I decided to wait until our 30's to have kids. In the past when we have had SIL over to our house, she only makes rude comments and never has anything nice to say. When we hosted a birthday party for my husband (in our old house), SIL walked in the door, looked around, and said 'wow, your house is actually clean or once'.

SIL stopped by our new house when it was under construction and her only comment was 'I can't believe how small your new house looks'. SIL doesn't live close by (thankfully). She will be visiting my MIL and...

06/06/2026

AITA for banning my family from my wedding?

I (25f) have recently gotten engaged to my girlfriend (24f) and both of us are very excited. We have been dating since college and have a house and have adopted a child together. We are both very excited to get married and are planning on doing so as soon a Coronavirus is over. Recently I got some messages on Facebook from my family. Now, I’m not really that close with my family as when they found out that I was a le***an they kicked me out and pretty much disowned me. They heard that I had gotten engaged from a family friend who I am still close with and messaged me asking why I hadn’t told them about my engagement, who was the lucky man and when was the wedding. I haven’t spoken to them for 6 years so I am very shocked that they reached out to me. I messaged them back saying that I’m engaged to a woman and that they could come as long as they didn’t make a fuss about me marrying a woman. They agreed and at the time I thought the discussion was over.

Yesterday my fiancé came crying to me and showed me the messages that she’d gotten. My family had found her on the internet and had sent her hateful messages saying that she’s a w***e and she’s going to hell for marrying a woman. Naturally I was furious and immediately messaged them to tell them that they had no right to treat her in that way and that they should get their heads out of their asses and understand that I have every right to marry who I want to. The responses that I got...

06/06/2026

AITA for shaming a friend of a friend for not having money to eat?

My friend "Nick" is friends with "Joe." I am cool with Joe, but he is less a friend and more of an acquaintance. I know he is having a lot of family drama and has been couch surfing since his parents kicked him out. He has no job and doesn't go to school. I understand how not having a stable roof over your head can make that challenging.

I do work and go to school. I don't have much money at the end of the month because I help my family out with rent. I like to go to IHOP on the weekend to reward myself. If I go with friends, one person usually pays the tab, but all pay for our portion plus contribute to a tip at the same time. Point is that money is tight with me.

This morning I went to IHOP with Nick and Joe (he sort of invited himself as he is staying with Nick and his family right now). My meal was like $11, Nick's was $9 and Joe's was $15. I offered to put it on my credit card and Nick gave me a $10 for his tab. Joe just shrugged and said he had no money but would pay me back "later." That pi**ed me off. I asked him "oh so you found a job? When do you get paid?" He laughed and said he had no job. I asked him how is he going to pay me back and he said not to worry. He was shameless and nonchalant about it.

Finally I told him that it was a total d__k move to invite yourself to breakfast knowing he could not pay...

06/06/2026

AITA for Refusing to Lend My Friend Money After She Never Paid Me Back?

So I (29F) have this friend, "Lisa" (28F), who’s always been kinda bad with money. We've been close since college, so when she asked for a couple small loans over the years ($20 here, $50 there), I didn’t think much of it. But about six months ago, she had this huge issue with her car breaking down, and then she couldn’t pay rent. She asked if I could lend her $500 to cover everything, and since she was really desperate and my friend, I helped her out.

She promised she’d pay me back as soon as she could. I didn’t pressure her or anything, but fast forward to now and guess what? Still not a dime back. I’ve reminded her a couple times casually, and each time she’s like “Oh, I’m just so broke this month, next month for sure,” or “I’ll get you when I get paid.” But like... it’s been six months. So, at this point, I just let it go and figured I’m never seeing that $500 again.

Then, out of nowhere last week, she asks if she can borrow another $300 because her phone broke and she needs a new one. I straight up told her I wasn’t comfortable lending her more money, especially since she hadn’t paid me back from the last time.

She got super defensive and was like, “I thought we were friends? Why are you acting like this? I’m obviously going to pay you back, I just need more time.” I wasn’t rude or anything, but I told her no. I’ve helped her enough and I don’t wanna be stuck chasing her for more money. That’s when she totally lost it. She said I...

06/05/2026

AITAH for not punishing my son for his drawings?

I (40M) have a son (15M) who loves to draw. He’s very good at it and spends hours every day practicing. He has dozens of full sketchbooks in his room.

Yesterday we had some family over for dinner, and my sister’s kids (8F and 10M) snuck into his room and looked through his sketchbooks. They came back holding one of them- it was full of drawings of people either n__ed or in their underwear, which the kids found very funny. I didn’t know he drew them (he’s very critical of his own art and only shows me drawings he’s very proud of, and these were clearly practices) but I wasn’t bothered by the contents. They obviously weren’t s__ual, they included men and women of all ages and weights in casual and non provocative poses. He says he was just studying anatomy.

My sister, however, was very upset. She was mad I let my son draw po*******hy and suggested he drew these people because he was attracted to them (which was silly, because he’s gay, and the majority of the drawings were of women. The guys he did draw weren’t what I imagine a 15 year old boy would be attracted to). She was also upset that her kids were exposed to nudity, which I shut down pretty quick because they shouldn’t have been snooping anyways.

My sister is saying I’m ruining my son by letting him look at n__ed people. My dad agrees that the kids shouldn’t have been in his room, but thinks he shouldn’t be looking at that kind of stuff and says I should punish him for drawing it.

I just don’t see the big deal and think...

06/05/2026

AITA for not letting my little stepsister climb into my bed when she's having nightmares?

My dad married Joelle 2 years ago. Joelle has a daughter Sunny who was 4 and she's 6 now. I'm 16m. For the last 8 months Sunny has been getting really bad nightmares at night and when she gets scared she always wants to get into my bed. I have never let her. For me it's weird and I don't want to have her right next to me. That feels like something you'd do for a little sibling, and I know she's my stepsister, but I don't think about her like just a sibling. I don't love her. I don't want her cuddling me or expecting that from me. But the last month, since her nightmares got a whole lot worse, Joelle has been on my ass about sending Sunny away and leaving her to cry in her room. I told her she should tell her to go to her if she's having nightmares. But I'm not going to let her in my bed. Dad asked me if we could compromise. Like would I sleep on the floor in my room or hers and give her comfort that way. I asked why it has to be me. He said because Sunny seeks me out and clearly she finds comfort in me being close. I told him I do not want to be involved at all. Joelle jumps in and tells me that I should be doing all I can as a big brother and imagine how it must feel to Sunny, she must think I don't love her or accept her as my sister. I didn't argue about that. I just told them I did not want to have her in my bed or get...

06/05/2026

AITAH for cutting my son out of my will after he lectured my lifestyle?

I'm in my late 40s and have a son who's now in his early 20s. Our relationship has been a rollercoaster, especially since he converted to a specific religion a few years ago. I've always respected his decision to explore his faith, but it has undeniably changed the dynamic between us. His mother and I are not believers in any religion, but we have been careful not to judge him.

The lectures on my lifestyle choices started shortly after his conversion, focusing on my moderate drinking, occasional smoking, and rare gambling outings. These weren't issues for him until I won a significant amount of money from Stake. A site he has previously lectured me from using because it's a casino. Before this win, he seemed indifferent to my gambling, but the victory seemed to flip a switch.

He became increasingly critical, particularly about the gambling, arguing that the win was fueling my "destructive" habits. This contention reached a peak after a family event last year when he criticized me in front of everyone for indulging in these activities, citing my win as a turning point for the worse. Attempts to discuss how his judgment made me feel only led to more friction, making it clear that he saw my lifestyle as incompatible with his values.

Another incident that stands out was during a family gathering last year. He openly criticized me in front of relatives for serving alcohol, creating an uncomfortable atmosphere for everyone present. Despite numerous attempts to discuss how his approach was affecting our relationship, there seemed to be no middle ground where we could meet.

This ongoing situation has led me to reconsider my will. After years of...

06/05/2026

AITA for refusing to give up our only bedroom for my mother in law to stay?

EDIT: MiL has said she wishes she were able to stay with us occasionally. While it would be beneficial for all if she were to stay here sometimes and us sometimes with her, we aren't pressuring her to stay with us! My husband's parents separated 6 weeks ago - dad left mum for someone else.

Obviously she is very upset about it and we have been supporting her as much as we can. She is in her 70s, lives 1.5 hours away and has never driven, so getting her to come to us has always been dependent on her and her husband travelling together. As husband and I are starting work again soon, we are wanting to encourage her to come to us more often by public transport, and her staying over would make things easier.

Our house is small. We have one bedroom and no sofa bed. We suggested to her that we could swap our sofa in the living room for a sofa bed so that she could spend more time here.

She was hesitant, so we suggested that we have a really good double air mattress that she could stay on in the living room, but again she was hesitant. She is healthy and fit, so there are no medical reasons why she couldn't sleep on it. My husband has now asked me whether we could give up our bed and bedroom for her when she stays and we sleep on the air mattress.

He said it'll only be once or twice. AITA for saying that I don't feel we should? Though I do understand that it isn't ideal to sleep in the living room, we have offered...

06/05/2026

AITA for how I reacted to my sister in law's pregnancy announcement?

I feel like this is mostly a difference in culture. I'm an Eastern European Jew, and I married into a very WASP-y family. In my culture, we celebrate births, not pregnancies. Announcing a pregnancy doesn't really mean anything other than that the woman needs more care. We certainly don't have the American belief that pregnancy = a baby.
We don't say congratulations at a pregnancy announcement, it's considered very inappropriate and bad luck to the mother. We also don't do baby showers before the birth. Holding one would mean that you almost hope something bad happens.

I've never been able to shake that, and so I just do a toast motion and say cheers, because that signifies that it's happy news at least. I also have a complex personal relationship with the subject of motherhood, and the most important thing that helps me is to give myself permission to not pretend to feel any kind of way about announcements. I can't get angry or cry or be mean, but I don't need to fake happiness, go to a shower, or anything of that nature.

TL:DR culture and personal trauma mean that I don't smile for no reason and I don't say congratulations to pregnancy announcements. It's bad luck.

We had an early Thanksgiving with my husband's family, and my sister in law announced that she's pregnant with her first child. I did my standard toast and cheers, but again, I'm not a smiley person. She cornered me later that day to ask me if I was interested in organising her shower, to which I politely said that I didn't believe in doing that (bad luck) and that her gift would be in...

06/04/2026

AITA for not separating genders at a sleepover?

Throwaway because my kids are on Reddit.

My youngest's (14M) BFF (15M) sleeps over almost every weekend. We don't have an agreement with his parents, and they never check to see if it's okay or anything, he's just always here and very frequently stays over. I guess my house is fun and we're chill. This is where this weekend's problem starts.

My oldest (18M) had a sleepover party with a metric swarm of HS senior & college friends (mixed gender/orientation, ranging in age from 17-20). Some of the parents asked me if everyone would be sleeping together, and my response was "We try to keep doors open, there is no booze, and husband and I are here all evening, but I won't police where everyone ultimately crashes." Any parents who took issue with this made their kids leave the party around 2am. Cool. Maybe 3 kids went home. I lost count of how many stayed.

Youngest's BFF Mom asked me the same question, and I gave her the same response. I suggested she too could come get her kid at 2am. She said "The responsible thing to do is to separate the girls and boys into two different rooms." I said "Okay" and nothing else, as I was busy cleaning up when she dropped him off at my house. It was the first time she's ever escorted him to the door, too. Usually her car just pulls up and he jumps out. I digress.

Well it was 4am by the time the quasi-adultlings were all passed out, and they just crashed wherever. I found some under the table in the dining room, some sleeping in the hallway, but most of them...

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