Annaleise Affirms LLC- Certified Relationship Coach

07/21/2025

Everyone wants to roll their eyes when they hear the word narcissist—until they’ve actually survived one.

This piece isn’t about pointing fingers. It’s about the ones who stayed too long because chaos felt familiar. It’s about the guilt, the mind games, the silent treatments, and the soul-ties we struggle to break. And most of all—it’s about healing.

If you've ever questioned your reality while trying to love someone toxic, this one’s for you.

📖 Read it. Share it. Sit with it.

Everyone cringes when they hear the word narcissist these days. It's been tossed around so much online that some think it’s just another buzzword, a catchall insult used to describe a bad breakup or a toxic ex. But here’...

07/19/2025

Let’s be real…

Love isn’t just about affection. It’s about accountability. If I love you, I’m not letting you stay where you are if I know you’re capable of more. Love should stretch you, challenge you, and push you toward your purpose.

Love should clap for you when nobody’s watching. It’s the quiet support, the “I see you” when you think no one does. It’s showing up for your small wins just as hard as the big ones.

Love should be a lesson and a mirror. It’s not just about receiving—it’s about teaching each other how to be loved the right way. Because truth is, most of us were never taught. So love says, “This is how I need to be held, seen, and heard,” and the right person listens.

Love should feel like partnership, not pedestal or power struggle. I’m not here to be beneath you, and I’m not trying to be above you. I’m beside you. Equal. Rooting for you.

And real love? Real love allows someone to lead—but also reminds them to stand on their own two feet. Not because you need someone to carry you, but because you’ve got someone who believes in your ability to walk with purpose.

That’s what love should feel like. Not easy. Not perfect. But honest, intentional, and built for growth.

If it doesn’t look like that, it’s not love—it’s a lesson.

07/19/2025

Let me say this for the ones still holding on to potential:

Love should never feel like a battlefield where you’re constantly fighting to be seen, protected, or prioritized.

If someone can’t show up for you when it matters—not just when it’s easy—believe them.
If you have to explain the basics of emotional safety, consistency, or respect… they’re not your person.

You can’t build a future with someone who keeps showing you they’re unstable in the present.
You can’t grow love where protection is absent and silence is used as punishment.

And no—you’re not asking for too much.
You’re just finally realizing that your peace is the bare minimum.

So stop waiting for closure.
Stop waiting for them to “get it.”
Sometimes the deepest healing starts when you finally choose yourself and never look back.

You weren’t hard to love.
They just weren’t ready to love deeply.
And that’s not your fault.

Let go… not because they didn’t mean anything,
but because you finally mean everything to yourself. 🖤

07/19/2025

Some days you won’t feel like you’re making progress. Some days will feel like a mess. But the truth is, the only person you need to outdo is the version of you from yesterday. That’s it. Not them. Not her. Not him. Just you. Keep showing up. Keep choosing growth. Even if it’s one small step, that step counts. Be proud of that.💯

07/18/2025

Let me put y’all on real quick…

You need consistency—not confusion.
You need protection—someone who makes you feel safe emotionally, mentally, spiritually.
You need loyalty—not someone who folds under pressure.
You need effort that matches yours.
You need respect that doesn’t have to be begged for.
You need transparency—because games are for kids.
You need accountability—someone who owns their mess and grows from it.
You need emotional support—not someone who disappears when things get heavy.
You need ambition that aligns with yours.
And most importantly, you need reciprocity—because one-sided love will drain the best parts of you.

Don’t settle for less just because you’re tired of waiting. You’re not asking for too much, you’re just asking the wrong person.

07/15/2025

I’m Michelle Annaleise Coles, certified relationship coach and founder of Annaleise Affirms LLC — where healing begins and self-love is reclaimed.Ready to rise? Let’s work.💻 AnnaleiseAffirms.com

07/15/2025

✨ Your peace is priceless, protect it.
Mental health isn’t just a buzzword—it’s a daily practice. Here, I share real, relatable tips to help you prioritize your peace, set boundaries, and show up for you. Whether you’re healing from heartbreak, finding your voice, or just trying to stay afloat—these reminders are for you. 💕

07/03/2025

I’ve been doing some behind-the-scenes work and finally updated www.annaleiseaffirms.com

It now features some of my published editorials—raw, real, and rooted in the kind of conversations we need more of. More pieces are on the way. This isn’t just a website; it’s a space I created with intention—for self-love, healing, growth, and truth.

Tap in, browse around, and feel free to share with someone who needs it.

Míchelle Annalèise Coles, a Certified Relationship Coach and the accomplished CEO & Founder of Annaleise Affirms LLC. Míchelle specializes in virtual coaching sessions tailored for singles, couples, and families.

06/27/2025

Just because they’re better than your ex doesn’t mean they’re good for you.

Some of y’all are in relationships that only feel healthy because your last one left you broken. Your ex had you walking on eggshells, crying yourself to sleep, and questioning your worth — so now the new one comes along, doesn’t cheat (yet), says good morning, maybe even posts you once… and suddenly they’re a prize?

No. You’re just relieved.
You’re mistaking “less pain” for real peace.

Let me say this loud:
A polished piece of s**t is still a piece of s**t.

Just because they’re not as loud with the disrespect doesn’t mean they’re not slowly draining you in other ways. Being better than the person who broke you is a low-ass bar. And if that’s all it takes for someone to feel like love, baby… you’re still healing.

Stop calling it alignment when it’s really just an upgrade from disaster.
Stop confusing comfort with connection.
Start asking: Do they actually pour into me — or do they just hurt me softer?

Because if the best thing you can say about them is “at least they’re not my ex,”
you’re not in love —
you’re in denial.

06/25/2025

You keep letting go of one toxic person just to replace them with another dressed in a different kind of chaos.

Different voice. Different face. Same emotional war.
Same manipulation, just smoother.
Same pain, just packaged better.

You don’t need a new distraction, you need healing.

Because if dysfunction feels like home, you’ll keep inviting it in and calling it love.

It’s not enough to just walk away from the toxic — you have to unlearn why you were drawn to it in the first place.
You have to stop confusing intensity with intimacy, and silence with peace.

Break the cycle.
Heal the parts of you that think love has to hurt to feel real.
You don’t need another lesson. You need restoration.

Stop repeating the same heartbreak with different names.

06/23/2025

Weekend Reflection: I Took a Step Back — and It All Became Clear.

This weekend gave me space to pause…
to breathe, to process, and to finally admit what I’ve been avoiding:

I know what’s for me and what’s not.
I know what feeds my spirit and what drains it.
I know who aligns with my peace and who disrupts it — even if I didn’t want to admit it before.

I’m no longer ignoring the signs.
No longer confusing comfort with purpose.
No longer pretending I don’t hear the voice inside me getting louder: “You were made for more.”

Growth isn’t always loud.
Sometimes it’s the quiet decision to stop showing up halfway for yourself.
To aim higher — not for perfection, but for peace.
To be better — not for applause, but for alignment.

And most of all…
to walk like you finally know:
I am exactly who I think I am.

06/19/2025

Nothing feels like a loss to me anymore. If it left, it wasn’t mine. If it hurt, it taught me. If it broke me, it built me better. I’ve learned that what I thought I wanted was often a distraction from what I truly needed. These days, I don’t mourn what walks away—I trust that it was either God’s protection or a divine redirection. Either way, I’m covered. Always have been. Always will be.