Philosophy insights

09/10/2025

One lie, that’s all it takes to destroy what took years to build. Trust isn’t just a word; it’s a bond, a silent promise that says, “I’m safe with you.” And when that promise is broken, it doesn't just hurt. It wrecks you. It turns every memory into a question mark. Was any of it real? Did they ever mean what they said? The pain of betrayal cuts deeper than any wound because it comes from the one person you never thought would hurt you. That one lie echoes in your mind, louder than a thousand truths ever did. It doesn’t just end trust. It buries it. And in its place grows silence, distance, and a version of you that’s more guarded, more cautious… and a little more broken.

You start second-guessing everyone, even the ones who mean well. You build walls you never wanted to build, not out of hate, but out of survival. And what hurts most isn’t the lie itself, but the fact that someone you loved looked you in the eye and chose to betray you anyway. From that moment on, something inside shifts. You’re never quite the same. Because trust, once broken, doesn’t just come back, it limps. And sometimes, it never makes it home again.

09/10/2025

OjeRum is the alias of Copenhagen-based collage artist and musician,
Paw Grabowski.
(link to article in comments)

09/10/2025

Sometimes distance is the quiet teacher of love. When we are apart from someone we care for, we start noticing the little things, the way their smile lingers in memory, the warmth of their voice in thought, the small gestures that once felt ordinary.

Absence allows the heart to stretch, to feel more deeply, and to understand the value of presence. Love does not weaken in distance. It grows in the spaces between, becoming patient, tender, and aware.

09/10/2025

Sometimes we hurt the very things we want to protect, not because our hearts are empty, but because they are overflowing. I once killed a plant by giving it too much water. I thought I was helping, but in my care I drowned it. That is how I learned that even good intentions can be harmful in excess. We pour and pour, believing that more is always better, but even love can become heavy when it does not give space to breathe.

True care is not measured by how much we give, but by how wisely we give. It is knowing when to step forward and when to step back. It is patience, it is balance, it is trust. To love deeply is not to smother, but to nurture in a way that allows another soul to grow strong on its own.

09/10/2025

He Still Holds Me

I cannot see his arms,
yet they circle me each night,
in quiet waves of comfort,
in dreams that feel so right.

The air becomes his presence,
the silence hums his tone,
and though the world says “gone,”
my soul has always known.

For grief can’t break the bond,
nor distance make it cease,
he still holds me gently,
in love that whispers peace.

09/10/2025

09/10/2025

“Parents rarely let go of their children, so children let go of them.
They move on. They move away.
The moments that used to define them are covered by
moments of their own accomplishments.

It is not until much later, that
children understand;
their stories and all their accomplishments, sit atop the stories
of their mothers and fathers, stones upon stones,
beneath the water of their lives.”
Paul Coelho

Joaquin Sorolla y Bastida - After The Bath - 1912.

09/10/2025

Love yourself enough to walk away from anyone who treats you like garbage; being alone is far better than being disrespected ❤️‍🩹

09/10/2025

“Gentleness is not weakness. Just the opposite. Preserving a gentle spirit in a heartless world takes extraordinary courage, determination, and resilience. Do not underestimate the power of gentleness because gentleness is strength wrapped in peace, and therein lies the power to change the world.”

- L.R. Knost

About the Author:
International best-selling, award-winning author, L.R.Knost, is an independent child development researcher and founder and director of the advocacy and consulting group, Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources, as well as a monthly contributor to The Natural Parent Magazine.

[Image: Lato (Olej)(2019) painting by Polish abstract artist Renata Brzozowska.]

Poetry, Tea and Me

09/10/2025

In a toxic relationship, it’s easy for outsiders to look at a woman and think she’s blind, naive, or stupid for staying… but what they don’t realize is, she knows. She knows exactly what’s going on. She sees the lies, feels the disrespect, and recognizes the patterns. She’s not clueless... she’s calculating. She’s preparing.
Because for a woman, leaving isn’t just about packing a bag or changing a number. It’s about mentally detaching from someone she once envisioned forever with. It’s about grieving a future that will never happen, untangling herself from emotional manipulation, and re-learning how to choose peace over chaos. That kind of exit takes strength most people will never understand.
She might still cook for him, sleep next to him, smile on the outside while dying inside... but she's already detaching. She’s not staying because she doesn’t know her worth. She’s staying because walking away while you're still emotionally tied is a trap. You’ll keep going back. And she refuses to do that.
So she waits… she heals in silence… and when that mental switch flips and her spirit is numb to his excuses, his charm, and his fake apologies… it’s done. She’s already gone long before she physically walks out. And when she does leave, don’t expect a warning. Don’t expect a tearful goodbye. Don’t expect closure.
Because when a woman finally leaves a toxic relationship from a place of clarity and peace... there’s no turning back. She doesn’t run, she walks. And she doesn’t just leave the man... she leaves the version of herself that ever tolerated less than she deserved.🫶🏽

09/10/2025

Someone told me: "You looked sad today", I replied: I'm sad every day, today I just didn't have the energy to hide it.