02/20/2026
1. Meet her in person for immediate support: Arrange to visit her soon after the divorce is finalized, bringing comfort items like her favorite snacks or flowers, and spend quality time listening to her experiences without judgment to help her process and feel less alone.
2. Organize a freedom celebration: Throw a low-key “freedom party” with close friends, perhaps at a spa, a fancy dinner, or a weekend getaway, to toast her new chapter and remind her of the positive life ahead, focusing on empowerment and fun.
3. Help with practical transitions: Assist her in setting up her new living space, whether by helping her move, redecorate, or organize her belongings, turning it into a bonding activity that symbolizes a fresh start.
4. Encourage self-care and healing activities: Suggest joining her for therapy sessions, yoga classes, or journaling workshops to process the trauma, emphasizing building her confidence and independence post-abuse.
5. Plan ongoing check-ins and adventures: Commit to regular video calls or outings, like hiking or trying new hobbies together, to provide consistent emotional support and help her rediscover joy in her newfound freedom.
My husband and I love to break up friendships with man who were abusive to their wives outside of the public eye. We also break up with people who support the abuse. If you know your friend and their children were abused and you pick the abuser, we don’t want anything to do with you either. Who is next?
