11/17/2025
At a keynote, I asked for a volunteer to join me on stage.
What happened next surprised me.
I recently spoke in front of 350 people who work at the Arizona Department of Child Safety about how to drive community impact in our current world.
Midway through, I led one of my favorite exercises – the one where I ask for a volunteer to join me on stage and explore what their personal core values are.
Someone raised their hand. I asked her: What’s a pivotal moment that changed the trajectory of your life?
Her answer was deeply personal and I felt the whole room shift.
You could hear a pin drop, and everyone leaned in.
It wasn’t the first time I’d seen this happen.
But something about this moment felt different.
Usually, the volunteer talks to me, locked in on me and ignoring the watching attendees
This time, she spoke directly to the crowd.
This was her moment to share something that matters.
She used it to connect with her coworkers, to share something deeply personal that shaped who she is and why she shows up the way she does.
And it hit me… people self-select for vulnerability.
Anyone who raises their hand in a room of 350 people is ready to take risks. It might take a deep breath and thinking to yourself “why not?” but it’s a conscious choice to be courageous.
And when this person got courageous, she opened up and showed everyone in the room what it looks like to connect the person you are with the work you do.
What it reminded me is this:
the parts of us shaped by loss, by growth, by healing don’t wait outside the office.
They’re the lens we bring to every decision, conversation, and challenge.
It might seem unexpected to share something vulnerable at work.
But that’s the heart of the core values process.
It’s designed to bring the whole person into the room and to help us to connect who we are with how we lead.
And I’m forever grateful to the brave souls who take the risk to try it out.