Letters From Ukraine

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01/08/2026

Location: Kyiv
Submitted by: Oleg B.
Years Covered: 2022–2024

Content Warning:
This testimony contains descriptions of war, civilian displacement, and loss. “The stories presented here are drawn from real testimonies. For safety and privacy, identifying details have been changed. Emotional truth and lived experience have been preserved.”

THE DAY THE MAP CHANGED

I worked in an office that managed shipping schedules. Paperwork. Invoices. Deliveries that were always late even before the war. I used to complain about traffic and printers that jammed when you needed them most. I remember thinking my life was small but stable, like a desk with all four legs intact.

On the morning of February 24, I woke up because my phone would not stop vibrating. Messages from coworkers. From my sister. From a number I didn’t recognize. I didn’t read them right away. I assumed there had been a fire in the building or some mistake with payroll. When the explosions started, I thought it was thunder. That sounds stupid now, but it isn’t. Thunder is what your brain reaches for when it wants to protect you for a few more seconds.

I still went to the kitchen. I still poured coffee. It tasted wrong. Everything after that tasted wrong for a long time.

The first thing that disappeared was the map in my head. The one I had used my whole life. Where the metro lines went. Where danger wasn’t. Where home was something you returned to automatically, without planning. Suddenly every street had a different value. Wide roads were bad. Bridges were worse. Underground passages were safer, unless they weren’t.

I stopped going to work three days later. Not because the office closed—we tried to keep going—but because it felt obscene to argue about delivery delays while missiles were landing in residential districts. I told my manager I would “work remotely,” and for a while that was true. I answered emails from my bathroom, because it had the fewest windows. Then the internet went down, and I stopped pretending.

People ask now what it was like at the beginning. I tell them it was confusing. They expect fear, panic, heroism. Mostly it was confusion. Instructions contradicted each other. News channels contradicted themselves. Friends contradicted their own words from the day before. Someone would say, “It will be over in a week,” and someone else would say, “Pack everything,” and someone else would say, “Don’t leave, they need us here.”

I stayed because I didn’t know where to go.

The shelter in our building was a storage room that smelled like damp concrete and old paint. We brought chairs down. Someone brought a radio. Someone else brought a cat in a carrier. We sat there together without really speaking. People you had nodded to for years suddenly knew how you breathed when you were afraid. That changes things.

At night, the city sounded different. Not just louder. Flatter. The echoes were wrong. You could hear the distance in ways you hadn’t learned to interpret yet. Every sound demanded attention. You couldn’t let anything pass unnoticed, because what you ignored might kill you.

After a few weeks, routine returned in fragments. You learned which sirens mattered and which were tests. You learned how long you had to get downstairs. You learned how to shower quickly in case the water stopped. You learned to charge everything whenever electricity was available. You learned not to plan meals too far ahead.

I learned that bravery is often just inertia. You keep doing things because stopping would require more energy than you have.

Friends left. Some went west. Some went abroad. They sent photos of train stations crowded with people and pets and bags that looked heavier than they should have been. I told them I was glad they were safe. I meant it. I also felt abandoned, which I did not tell them, because it wasn’t fair and because everyone was already carrying too much.

My sister stayed in another part of the city. We spoke every day, sometimes about nothing, just to confirm we were still alive. When one of us missed a call, the other would wait exactly ten minutes before panicking. That became a rule. Rules help when everything else is unstable.

There were days when nothing happened. Those were the hardest. You start to imagine the future again, and the future is dangerous because it can be taken away. It felt safer to think only in hours.

I did not lose my home. I did not lose a family member. I want to say that clearly, because it matters. I watched others lose everything while I lost something harder to name. A sense of proportionality, maybe. Or trust in the idea that life follows certain rules if you follow them back.

The war did not make me noble. It made me precise. I know how many steps it takes to reach the shelter. I know which neighbors can be relied on and which cannot. I know how long milk lasts without refrigeration. I know that the sound of glass breaking is different when it’s close.

When people from outside ask how I endure, I don’t know what to tell them. Endurance implies choice. This is just living under altered conditions. Like a city underwater, where everyone learns to breathe differently.

The map in my head has not returned to what it was. I don’t think it ever will. Even on quiet days, I move through the city with an awareness that feels permanent. Corners are evaluated. Buildings are measured. Distance is calculated in escape time, not meters.

I used to think that when the war ended, everything would snap back into place. Now I understand that endings don’t work like that. They leave residue. They change the way you stand in a room. They change the way you listen.

I am still here. That is not a victory or a tragedy. It is a fact.

And facts, I have learned, are sometimes the only solid ground left.

12/15/2025

I am starting to re-post testimonials from Ukraine after a pause. I now have help from a talented Ukrainian editor who is also helping me by collecting and forwarding these stories. The brutal Russian war against Ukraine continues after almost four years. The negative impacts upon lives, as documented here, continues to profoundly impact so many. Please post your comments below.

I Still Set Two Plates

Name: "Oksana L"
Location: Bucha
Submitted: 12.5.25

Content Warning:
This testimony contains descriptions of civilian death, loss, and emotional trauma. This and other stories edited for grammar, clarity and translated from Ukrainian/Russian language to English. Writer names have been changed or abbreviated for security/safety concerns.

I Still Set Two Plates

My husband was not a soldier. I say that first because people sometimes need categories to understand things, and if I don’t give them one, they will assign it themselves. He did not have a uniform. He did not carry a weapon. He repaired elevators. When one stopped working, people complained. When it worked again, no one noticed him at all. That suited him.

On the morning he died, we argued about nothing. About whether we had enough bottled water. About whether it made sense to keep the windows taped. I wanted him to stay inside. He wanted to check on the neighbors downstairs, an older couple who didn’t answer their phone. He kissed my forehead and said he would be back in five minutes.

I remember being annoyed. That is the part that stays with me the most.

The shelling had become background noise by then. You learn to classify sounds quickly. Incoming. Outgoing. Close. Far. That one was close enough that the walls vibrated, but not enough to panic. I was standing in the kitchen when the explosion happened. I didn’t fall. I didn’t scream. I just waited, because waiting had become my response to everything.

Five minutes passed. Then ten.

When I went outside, the street looked wrong, like a photograph taken at a bad angle. Dust everywhere. Glass on the ground like spilled sugar. People shouting names. I saw the neighbors first. They were alive. Sitting on the curb. Bleeding, but alive. They were asking about my husband before I even asked them anything.

Someone pointed. I followed their hand.

I don’t remember screaming, but people tell me I did. What I remember is kneeling and thinking that his jacket looked too clean for what had happened. Like it didn’t belong in that moment. I tried to touch him and someone pulled me back. They said his name. They said my name. None of it registered as language. It was just sound.

After that, time stopped behaving normally.

There were papers to fill out. Procedures. A death certificate that did not explain anything. Words like “indirect fire” and “collateral damage” that felt obscene in their neatness. I wanted to cross them out and write what actually happened, which was that he stepped outside to help someone and never came back.

People brought food. They always do. I thanked them because that is what you are supposed to do. The refrigerator filled up while my appetite disappeared. For weeks, I ate because my body demanded it, not because I wanted to live.

At night, I still reached for him. That stopped only when I realized I was waking myself up, surprised that the space next to me was empty, as if the bed itself had betrayed me.

I learned quickly which condolences were meant for me and which were meant to protect the speaker. “He died a hero.” “At least it was quick.” “He wouldn’t want you to suffer.” These sentences floated past me without landing. They were thrown like life preservers to someone who was already underwater.

The hardest moments were not the dramatic ones. They were small and stupid. Finding one of his socks behind the washing machine. Seeing a tool he had promised to fix and realizing it would never be fixed the way he would have done it. Answering the phone and forgetting, for half a second, that he could not be on the other end.

I still set two plates sometimes. Not because I expect him to come back, but because my hands remember the movement. Muscle memory outlives hope.

People talk about resilience. About rebuilding. About moving forward. I understand why they need those words. I also understand that grief does not move in straight lines. It circles. It doubles back. It ambushes you in places you thought were safe.

I stayed in our apartment. Many people told me to leave. I couldn’t. Leaving felt like agreeing that he was gone in a way I wasn’t ready to accept. Every crack in the wall, every patched window, every mark left by the blast felt like evidence. Proof that this life existed and was taken, not misplaced.

Sometimes journalists come. They ask careful questions. They ask how I feel about justice, about accountability, about the future. I answer politely. What I want to say is that justice will not return my husband, and the future is a concept for people who still plan things together.

I do not hate everyone. I do not seek revenge. That surprises people. What I feel instead is a constant, low-burning anger at the idea that this could be explained away. That it could be minimized. That someone, somewhere, could argue that this was necessary, or strategic, or exaggerated.

It was a man leaving his home to help neighbors.

It was a body on a street that used to be quiet.

I am learning how to live as someone who survived something she did not survive intact. I go to work again. I answer emails. I pay bills. From the outside, I am functioning. From the inside, everything is measured against an absence that does not shrink.

When people ask me who I am now, I don’t know how to answer. Widow is not an identity; it is a condition. One that reshapes everything without asking permission.

I don’t know what my life will look like in ten years. I don’t know if I will love again. I don’t know if this country will ever feel safe in the way it once did. What I know is that every day I wake up and make choices that assume I am still here, even when part of me is not.

Tonight, I will set one plate.

Tomorrow, maybe two.

I don’t plan that far ahead anymore.

Name: "Oksana L"
Location: Bucha
Submitted: 12.5.25

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