06/17/2025
9 years married to the love of my life .nak - TIME REALLY DOES FLY. 🤯Marriage is a gift from God, and I am so blessed to do life with my person.
I was thinking this morning about what has helped foster & guard our marriage over the last 9 years. Here’s my top 9 ⬇️
1. Honor is like oxygen.
If you feel like your marriage is suffocating, it might be because it’s filled with criticism. How do you speak about your spouse to other people? Before you criticize in what they’re NOT doing, champion them in what they ARE doing.
2. Unity is a choice -
“Being on the same page” is not a natural phenomenon… it’s a conscious decision. It’s intentional involvement and discussions. Oneness doesn’t mean sameness - it means having conversations about values and purpose, and finding the path that both of you can walk on.
3. It doesn’t have to be hard.
There may be hard times in a marriage, but hardship is not a qualification of marriage. Don’t let someone else’s experience project onto what you got going. God created marriage, and what God creates is intended to be GOOD. Faithful covenant is worship, not warfare.
4. Fill your house with laughter.
Laughter doesn’t mean that everything is perfect, it means that you’re choosing joy. In fact, sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is laugh. It makes the load lighter… it’s holy.
5. Give eachother the benefit of the doubt.
Love believes the best, even if you’re not feeling it. Cynicism starves love - and trust gives love the ingredients to thrive. Run to compassion, not conclusions.
6. Invite accountability.
An isolated marriage is a vulnerable one - your IG posts can gaslight you into thinking your relationship is better than it is. You need people who know your story and have the authority to speak into your situation.
8. Say “Thank you” for small things.
Gratitude lays the bricks of affection. Affection & intimacy are not built by grand gifts and gestures… they’re built in the seemingly insignificant moments. Let love grow in a healthy way, which is slowly over time.
9. Set Goals
Have a shared vision. Finances, family, careers… because dreams give a true north when you’re in the valley.
