06/21/2024
Choose happiness: Messages of hope for times of hopelessness
All of us have days when life is hard. Sometimes too hard. Frustration, confusion, uncertainty, loneliness, depression, anger, emptiness, pain . . . and many other feelings create those bad days. We feel lost. Hopeless.
I had one of those days several weeks ago. Sometimes help comes when we least expect it. When I got in my car that morning, this song came on from my playlist.
The song is “Revelation” by Third Day.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6u0P9kwfF4s
My life has led me down the road that’s so uncertain
And now, I am left alone and I am broken
Trying to find my way
Trying to find the faith that’s gone
This time, I know that You are holding all the answers
And I’m tired of losing hope and taking chances
On roads that never seem
To be the ones that bring me home
My life has led me down this path that’s ever winding
Through every twist and turn, I’m always finding
That I am lost again
Tell me when this road will ever end
Give me a revelation
Show me what to do
’Cause I’ve been trying to find my way
I haven’t got a clue
Tell me, should I stay here
Or do I need to move?
Give me a revelation
I’ve got nothing without You
I’ve got nothing without You
There’s another well-known song by Third Day, “Cry Out to Jesus,” that also addresses hopelessness.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JmVxRl5bc4Y
To everyone who’s lost someone they love
Long before it was their time
You feel like the days you had were not enough
When you said goodbye
And to all of the people with burdens and pains
Keeping you back from your life
You believe that there’s nothing and there is no one
Who can make it right
For the marriage that’s struggling just to hang on
They’ve lost all of their faith in love
And they’ve done all they can to make it right again, still it’s not enough
For the ones who can’t break the addictions and chains
You try to give up but you come back again
Just remember that you’re not alone in your shame
And your suffering
To the widow who suffers from being alone
Wiping the tears from her eyes
And for the children around the world without a home
Say a prayer tonight
There is hope for the helpless
Rest for the weary
And love for the broken heart
And there is grace and forgiveness
Mercy and healing
He’ll meet you wherever you are
Cry out to Jesus
Cry out to Jesus
Those songs may not fix your problems, but they can provide a new perspective.
The key thing to remember is, don’t give up. The answer comes in God’s time, not our own.
During the 10 years when I wrote my “Editor’s Notebook” column, I often offered advice. It wasn’t aimed only at my readers. Sometimes my writing served as a reminder to myself. So I reread them and try to follow what I wrote years ago.
If you are struggling in your life, I hope this helps:
True happiness comes when we choose happiness
We all have choices in life. Why don’t we choose to be happy?
That’s not always easy, and I fail at times. But I’ve reached the point where I’m tired of letting people and things around me bring me down. So I’m trying to change that.
The secret to happiness is focusing on the things that lift us up, and there really are many more of those positives than we realize. The problem is, we tend to focus more on the negatives.
You can have six good days in a row, but your week is ruined by one bad day.
You can receive dozens of compliments, but you focus on a single criticism.
You can accomplish countless successes, but one failure overshadows all of them.
Why are so many people so unhappy? It may be that our expectations are too high. We want perfection; a life without problems. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t set high standards or have lofty goals, but we need to be realistic.
Many times it’s little things or things we can’t control that bring us down: a loss by our sports team; conflicts with co-workers; lack of finances; feelings of being ignored, left out, neglected or abandoned; lack of consideration; struggles to meet demands and obligations, which overwhelm us, steal our energy and make us too tired to face each day.
I have more than my share of problems, headaches, pain and disappointments. But I also have more than my share of blessings. Far more than my share. So why shouldn’t I focus on those? After all, they are much more pleasant.
Doesn’t it make more sense to consider what you have instead of what you lack? People prefer to be associated with positive people.
I do know people who seem to be too happy. They bubble with enthusiasm to the point that they overwhelm those around them. You find yourself asking: Is it real? But, does it matter? If that’s what makes them happy, why should I judge them or bring them down? Even happy people have down moments. Besides, people recognize genuine happiness.
Happiness isn’t just about that outward display. It’s about how you feel inside. How contented you are with your life. How satisfied.
There are so many things that can lift us up. Here are things to consider whenever the world gets you down.
■ Look at the sky at any time during the day or night and consider the vastness of the universe. Think about the way the Earth and all the other planets revolve around the sun in such an orderly manner and have for time that is countless without colliding. Then realize how insignificant all your troubles are in comparison.
■ Look into the eyes of a baby and see the innocence and unlimited potential that exists for him and the future of this world.
■ Consider how life began, how new life begins every second of every day and how precious every one of God’s children is in the world.
■ Resolve that kindness is the only appropriate response to cruelty if there is to be any hope of erasing the latter.
■ Understand that a smile can dry up more tears than tissues, sleeves and towels.
■ Treat each new day as an opportunity to do something positive in the world.
■ Realize that when you’re gone the memory of what you did in life will fade within a generation or two, but the love you pass on will last forever.
■ Look in the mirror every morning and understand that the only one who can make you unhappy is the one looking back at you.
■ Slow down. Often it’s the pace and the competition that takes away your happiness. Let someone else get ahead of you in line or traffic and know that in the bigger picture of the world it’s not going make much of a difference in getting to your destination.
■ Remind yourself that life on Earth is temporary. In the end, we all will die, so concentrate on celebrating and treasuring the time we have and those around us. Life changes so quickly. Why waste a single moment?
It all comes down to perspective, approach and attitude.
You can know true happiness, but not until you choose not to be unhappy.
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