05/06/2026
Can we normalize enjoying the company of masculine energy without it having to lead to something?
After nearly two decades as a matchmaker, one thing I wish women understood is that not every man you enjoy time with has to become something. Not every good conversation has to turn into a situationship, a talking stage, or an assessment of relationship potential.
A lot of women never learned how to simply be in the company of a man without the pressure of figuring out what it means, and I believe a big part of that comes from how we were raised. Girls stayed with girls. Boys stayed with boys. It was books before boys, and nobody taught us how to enjoy the opposite s*x without an agenda attached to it.
So now as adults, every interaction carries more weight than it needs to. Every man gets assessed for relationship potential because nobody wants to waste time. But what happens when you have never learned to simply enjoy the company of a man? You end up rushing to make someone the one before your nervous system has even had a chance to settle into the moment.
When you have never practiced just being present with a man, you either move too fast trying to secure something or you stay, get attached way too soon, or so guarded nothing can develop naturally. Both come from the same place, which is never being taught that enjoying masculine energy for exactly what it is in the moment, with no agenda attached, is not only allowed but necessary.
This goes for men too, but I am speaking to the women today.😉
