
09/25/2025
For years, if you asked me who I was, I’d answer with my job.
Accountant. Manager. Team lead.
The reliable one.
And I thought that meant I was someone. But the truth? I wasn’t. I was just a role on someone else’s payroll.
The day I walked away, I felt lost. Not because I lost money, but because I realized I didn’t know myself without a title attached. That’s identity collapse.
We build our worth around roles, and when the role disappears, or when we realize it doesn’t fulfill us, we feel empty. Because we’ve forgotten who we are outside of it.
Leaving gave me the blank canvas I didn’t even know I needed. At first it was scary.
But slowly, I remembered the pieces of me I’d buried under deadlines. The curious side.
The creative side. The bold side.
Now, I don’t describe myself by a job. I describe myself by the life I’ve built and the woman I’ve become.
If you don’t know who you are outside of your job, that’s the problem.