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The Goode Show WHO: Surinder Goode. I’m a military spouse of 28 years and mother of two .

my husband served 30 years as a Navy SEAL and retired as a Command Master Chief. 
 The Goode Show focuses on sharing the stories of military spouses.

09/16/2026

Showing up matters. ⚓

Huge shoutout to **Ben Taang, founder of Genuine Lifestyle**, for supporting the Chief’s Mess at **CPO Pride** at Admiral Baker Park.

Hosted by the **Enlisted Leadership Foundation**, CPO Pride brings together Chiefs, Chief Selectees, commands, veteran-owned businesses and community partners to celebrate **heritage, tradition, mentorship and enlisted leadership**.

Thank you, Ben, for supporting the community and showing up for our Chiefs. 🇺🇸

SOME BATTLES ARE INVISIBLE.September is Su***de Prevention Month, and this is something we cannot afford to scroll past....
09/16/2026

SOME BATTLES ARE INVISIBLE.

September is Su***de Prevention Month, and this is something we cannot afford to scroll past.

The person struggling may not look like they’re struggling.

It could be your buddy.
Your neighbor.
The veteran who always says, *“I’m good.”*
The spouse who holds everything together.
The person cracking jokes, showing up for work and taking care of everyone else.

Sometimes there are signs. Sometimes they are incredibly hard to see.

So **check in.**

Make the call. Send the text. Knock on the door. Sit down and have the uncomfortable conversation.

And don't just ask, “You good?”

Ask again.

“No, really…how are you doing?”

You don't have to have all the answers. You don't have to know the perfect thing to say. Sometimes you simply need to be there long enough to listen.

Please check on your people — your buddies, your neighbors, your shipmates, your battle buddies, your veterans and your military families.

And if **you** are the one struggling, please reach out. There are people available 24/7 whose job is simply to listen and help you through the next moment.

🇺🇸 **Military & Veterans Crisis Line**
📞 **Dial 988, then Press 1**
📱 **Text 838255**
💻 Confidential chat available through the Veterans Crisis Line.

It is free, confidential and available 24/7 to service members and Veterans, even if they aren't enrolled in VA health care. ([Veterans Crisis Line][1])

**Check on your people. And then check again.**

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What happens when the mission ends…but your body is still in fight-or-flight mode?Today’s episode of **The Goode Show**,...
09/15/2026

What happens when the mission ends…but your body is still in fight-or-flight mode?

Today’s episode of **The Goode Show**, recorded live at Beyond The Uniform, features Carol Bender talking about male and female hormones, chronic stress, and what happens when the body stays stuck in survival mode.

After years of military service, some service members may transition out — but their bodies can still be operating as if they’re on alert.

And military spouses can experience the same thing after years of deployments, workups, moves, uncertainty and constantly holding everything together.

Carol explains how this can affect our hormones, sleep, energy, mood and overall physiology — for both men and women.

🎥 Scan the QR code to watch the full episode today on YouTube.

Please share this with a service member, veteran or military spouse navigating life after service.

Sometimes the uniform comes off before the body realizes the mission is over.

09/15/2026

Catch Carol Bender talking about hormones not just for women, but for men too, especially those guys that serve in the military always in a fight or flight state of mind.

09/14/2026

**MEN — WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU CHECKED YOUR TESTOSTERONE?**

Military service can put the body through years of stress: deployments, disrupted sleep, injuries, long hours and constantly operating in fight-or-flight mode.

Over time, that can affect hormone health — including testosterone.

Low testosterone can show up as fatigue, low motivation, reduced strength, mood changes, poor sleep, lower s*x drive and that feeling of simply **not being yourself anymore.**

And it’s important not to automatically write everything off as “just getting older.”

Get your levels checked. Know your baseline. Ask questions. Pay attention to what your body is telling you.

On **The Goode Show**, Dr. Carol Bender and I get into men’s hormones, testosterone and how years of military service and chronic stress can affect the body.

🎙️ **The full episode drops TOMORROW on The Goode Show.**

If you’re active duty, a veteran, or love someone who served, this is a conversation worth hearing.

▶️ Catch it on YouTube tomorrow
🔁 Share it with a veteran or service member
❤️ Follow The Goode Show so you don’t miss the episode

**You spent years maintaining the mission. Don’t forget to maintain yourself.**

YOUR SERVICE MEMBER RETIRED… BUT DID YOUR BODY GET THE MEMO?For years, military spouses learn how to operate in survival...
09/14/2026

YOUR SERVICE MEMBER RETIRED… BUT DID YOUR BODY GET THE MEMO?

For years, military spouses learn how to operate in survival mode.

Deployments. Workups. Constant change. Holding down the home front. Keeping everyone else moving.

Then retirement comes.

The uniform gets hung up…but sometimes our bodies are still bracing for the next thing.

So what happens when you’re no longer living the military lifestyle, but internally you’re still stuck in fight-or-flight mode?

How can that prolonged stress affect your body, your hormones, your sleep, your energy — and what can you actually do about it?

I sit down with Carol Bender to talk about what survival mode can look like for military spouses, particularly after retirement, and how we can start paying attention to what our bodies have been trying to tell us.

🎙️ Filmed LIVE in front of a studio audience as part of **The Goode Show: Beyond the Uniform** series.

**The episode drops Tuesday on The Goode Show.**

▶️ Catch it on YouTube
❤️ Follow **The Goode Show**
🔁 Share this with a military spouse who may need to hear it
💬 And tell me: did YOU struggle to switch off after military retirement?

Because sometimes the service ends long before the survival mode does.

09/11/2026

For Angie’s husband, therapy felt like another mission—something you either won or lost. And when you’re a Navy SEAL, let’s be honest…losing isn’t exactly part of the plan! 😄

But Angie realized that receiving therapy on base wasn’t allowing Tom to feel completely comfortable. Sometimes healing isn’t about “winning” the session—it’s about finding the right person, place and environment where you can finally let your guard down.

What happened next? Angie shares their experience in this powerful clip from The Goode Show—but we won’t give it all away!

🎥 Watch Angie’s full episode on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/YA9GWRF6tWY

Share it with a military or veteran family that may need to hear this conversation. Please like, follow and share to support a military spouse and help us continue telling these important stories. 💙

The STEPS Foundation

Kimberly Brinkman

09/09/2026

28 years as a military spouse taught me a lot—but one of the biggest lessons was this:

Don’t lose yourself in someone else’s career.

It’s easy to do. The moves. The deployments. The kids. The constant changes. Supporting their mission can slowly become your entire identity.

I was incredibly proud to support my husband throughout his Navy career—but somewhere along the way, I also learned how important it is to keep building **my own life, my own purpose and my own identity.

You can support your service member fiercely and still have dreams that belong to you.

what have you done to make sure you didn’t lose yourself along the way?

Drop it in the comments. Someone else may need to hear your story. ❤️🇺🇸

🎙️ NEW EPISODE DROPS TODAY!Military retirement doesn’t just change the life of the service member—it changes life for th...
09/08/2026

🎙️ NEW EPISODE DROPS TODAY!

Military retirement doesn’t just change the life of the service member—it changes life for the entire family.

In this episode of The Goode Show, Angie DeJarnette, founder of the STEPS Foundation for SOF spouses, shares her experience of navigating her husband’s retirement and the transition from military to civilian life.

Recorded in front of a live audience as part of our Beyond the Uniform series, this conversation explores the spouse’s side of retirement—the shift in identity, routine, relationships and finding your family’s new normal.

Military and veteran spouses: How did your family handle life after retirement? What helped you through the transition? Share your tips and stories with us—you never know which spouse may need to hear them.

Watch or listen today on YouTube or Spotify.

Support a military spouse by following The Goode Show, liking this post and sharing the episode with another spouse. Together, we can make sure these important stories are heard. 🎧💙

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