11/05/2025
I haven’t been able to keep up on here as much as I had been. This is a long read, but I felt the need to share some things happening in our personal lives. Some of you who are on my personal page already know what is going on. I’ve posted updates this past year, and also spoke on podcast episodes, about my mom’s battle with cancer. After a 6 year battle with colon cancer which has spread through her whole body, the chemo was no longer working and the doctors didn’t have any other options. 2-3 months ago, she was taken off of chemo, and went on hospice. She has been kept comfortable, and was still completely her feisty self up until between 1-2 weeks ago. She was getting increasingly confused, was sleeping over 20 hours a day, had difficulty communicating, and lost all of her strength. She has been confined to the hospital bed that is in her room. She is unable to move from the bed. I care for her 24 hours a day. Last weekend, I noticed a drastic decline. I let all family and friends know, so they could come see her. Her nurse is now saying that she is expected to be passing any day now.
My mom has a fighter spirit! She’s not just giving up. This is how she is in all aspects of life, and she is the reason I have so much empathy for others. Through the Defund DOC journey, we have shared stories of incarcerated individuals with her, she’s spoken with many inmates on the phone. Her mind frame with inmates (all people really), is that they are still human. She’s never looked down on anyone, and does what she can to help people succeed. She had worked for the same company for a very long time, up until the cancer spread to her brain in January. Her job was a male dominated workplace. In the last year she was working, her company hired a man who was just reentering society. A lot of people would be judgemental, but my mom took him under her wing to help him succeed. This man didn’t have a car, and was living in a shelter. She would leave early every morning to drive to pick him up and give him a ride to work. In areas that she saw him struggle, she spent extra time training him. She gave him a chance, where others wouldn’t.
My mom is loved so deeply by so many people because of who she is. She’s stubborn, feisty, and will always speak her mind. BUT, she sees good in absolutely everyone.
I know that people here who follow us are empathetic, and compassionate, and want all people to be treated like human beings regardless of their past. Please never stop seeing the GOOD in others. YOU are changing lives that you don’t even know by showing compassion to those the world judges. We have all made mistakes in life……I have made many. But no matter what, I have had the support of my mom, and she is the reason that I am who I am today. After all of the times I’ve screwed up in life….a few years back, she told me that she is proud of me, and that hit me to the core like nothing I’ve felt before. Life is short. Make sure your loved ones know that you are PROUD of them, because that is one POWERFUL word.
Thank you to all of this community that has kept her in your thoughts and prayers. Please say a little prayer, send positive thoughts, and vibes her way as she prepares to move on from this life. If you read through all of this, thank you. Defund DOC is a family to us, and we appreciate you all. ❤️